Why do married women look so sad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay crazy bouquet lady. Did you get bored or something now that your bouquet troubles have solved?

I thought after about 3 posts that this was crazy bouquet lady too!

[zumbamama]

I love DH, but can't stand shopping with him. Can't stand the mall either...so, if I HAD to shop at the mall with my DH, I might look sad for the time that we're there, but I'd be my normal, happy self as soon as we leave.

[Anonymous]

The women at the mall are using their "me" time to shop for their kids and husband, who refuse to do their own shopping. In the morning these women cleaned the house and when they get back from shopping they are going to cook dinner then clean up the dishes. While they walk around the mall they're remembering past loves and wondering "what if I'd married that guy from econ class?" While in the check-out line they daydream about living on a yacht with econ guy, after having just returned from a tour of France. When they get home their husbands are going to ask them if they enjoyed their "time off to go shopping" and then ask what's for dinner, but they won't bother looking up from the TV to have the conversation.

[Anonymous]

I haven't been to Tyson's in about 3 years or so. Can't stand it. Am happily married.

[Anonymous]

I frickin' hate the mall.

God, how I hate the mall.

DH is okay though; I like him. But damn do I hate a mother-Fing mall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women at the mall are using their "me" time to shop for their kids and husband, who refuse to do their own shopping. In the morning these women cleaned the house and when they get back from shopping they are going to cook dinner then clean up the dishes. While they walk around the mall they're remembering past loves and wondering "what if I'd married that guy from econ class?" While in the check-out line they daydream about living on a yacht with econ guy, after having just returned from a tour of France. When they get home their husbands are going to ask them if they enjoyed their "time off to go shopping" and then ask what's for dinner, but they won't bother looking up from the TV to have the conversation.

Tell yourself this if it helps you sleep at night. I am incredibly happily married. My life is not perfect in many many ways so I am in no position to gloat generally, but I have a truly wonderful marriage. We share responsibilities pretty much equally and most importantly, after 10 years we still love spending time together. No complaints in the bedroom, either. Sure we argue sometimes, and sometimes the everyday B.S. builds up, but I wouldn't trade him for ANYTHING. When I do think about old boyfriends, etc., I always end up feeling nothing but thankful that I ended up with the right person.

I think most of my friends are pretty happily married, too. Of course, you never know what goes on behind closed doors, but the couples I know well seem to make it work. I feel sad for you that you have such a dismal view of marriage, as it does not have to be that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The women at the mall are using their "me" time to shop for their kids and husband, who refuse to do their own shopping. In the morning these women cleaned the house and when they get back from shopping they are going to cook dinner then clean up the dishes. While they walk around the mall they're remembering past loves and wondering "what if I'd married that guy from econ class?" While in the check-out line they daydream about living on a yacht with econ guy, after having just returned from a tour of France. When they get home their husbands are going to ask them if they enjoyed their "time off to go shopping" and then ask what's for dinner, but they won't bother looking up from the TV to have the conversation.

Tell yourself this if it helps you sleep at night. I am incredibly happily married. My life is not perfect in many many ways so I am in no position to gloat generally, but I have a truly wonderful marriage. We share responsibilities pretty much equally and most importantly, after 10 years we still love spending time together. No complaints in the bedroom, either. Sure we argue sometimes, and sometimes the everyday B.S. builds up, but I wouldn't trade him for ANYTHING. When I do think about old boyfriends, etc., I always end up feeling nothing but thankful that I ended up with the right person.

I think most of my friends are pretty happily married, too. Of course, you never know what goes on behind closed doors, but the couples I know well seem to make it work. I feel sad for you that you have such a dismal view of marriage, as it does not have to be that way.

It's a joking response to a ridiculous question. I'm happily married. Looking sad at the mall is meaningless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The women at the mall are using their "me" time to shop for their kids and husband, who refuse to do their own shopping. In the morning these women cleaned the house and when they get back from shopping they are going to cook dinner then clean up the dishes. While they walk around the mall they're remembering past loves and wondering "what if I'd married that guy from econ class?" While in the check-out line they daydream about living on a yacht with econ guy, after having just returned from a tour of France. When they get home their husbands are going to ask them if they enjoyed their "time off to go shopping" and then ask what's for dinner, but they won't bother looking up from the TV to have the conversation.

Tell yourself this if it helps you sleep at night. I am incredibly happily married. My life is not perfect in many many ways so I am in no position to gloat generally, but I have a truly wonderful marriage. We share responsibilities pretty much equally and most importantly, after 10 years we still love spending time together. No complaints in the bedroom, either. Sure we argue sometimes, and sometimes the everyday B.S. builds up, but I wouldn't trade him for ANYTHING. When I do think about old boyfriends, etc., I always end up feeling nothing but thankful that I ended up with the right person.

I think most of my friends are pretty happily married, too. Of course, you never know what goes on behind closed doors, but the couples I know well seem to make it work. I feel sad for you that you have such a dismal view of marriage, as it does not have to be that way.

OP here: Thank you, PP who is happily married, you give me something to look forward to. The PP above that mentions things (in bold) that I do now as a single mom and are very stressful. I would think as a married woman and with a husband to share responsibilities, things would be easier, not harder. I'm glad to know that there are happy married people out there and it may happen to me as well.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if I am one of the people you saw...I was shopping with my husband Friday night and while I started out chipper and happy, by the end I probably did look unhappy. I am 38 weeks pregnant, am uncomfortable, my feet hurt, and I don't sleep well. After about an hour, I am sure all of that was clear on my face! However, it had nothing to do with my husband...in fact, I am grateful for him everyday and love being married to him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I wonder if I am one of the people you saw...I was shopping with my husband Friday night and while I started out chipper and happy, by the end I probably did look unhappy. I am 38 weeks pregnant, am uncomfortable, my feet hurt, and I don't sleep well. After about an hour, I am sure all of that was clear on my face! However, it had nothing to do with my husband...in fact, I am grateful for him everyday and love being married to him!

No, I went to the mall on sat and sun, but not on friday... However, even though I was never married before, I have been pregnant, so had I seen you, I would KNOW why you looked exhausted and uncomfortable and would be very sympathetic.

[Anonymous]

You got me. Finally, someone at the mall understands the well of sadness and loneliness that I, a married woman, feels deep inside. If only you had reached out to me, OP. We could have skipped hand in hand down the scented byways of the mall, perhaps jumping into the fountain together. Ah well. Back to my lonely life of woe and misery.

Next time, won't you reach out to me...take a lonely lady by the hand? Just say to me "Let me into your heart, married woman, I'm here for you." I'm sure my heart will be yours forever.

[Anonymous]

OP - thanks for clarifying - you are a single mom. I think you would have gotten a lot more sympathetic responses had you started a post saying you are a single mom and are wondering if everyone you see who is married is walking through life on a ray of sunshine. I for one would have said, I am happily married, and I am thankful that DH shares so much of the burden of being a parent - financially, in terms of house chores, in terms of childrearing, and emotionally.

However, I would have acknowledged that even a happy marriage is no picnic every day, it takes compromise, and work. And that likely being a single mom is at least some of the time probably a lot easier than raising a kid in an unhappy marriage which folks do also.

Being a mom is hard. Definitely some people have it harder. I for one try to count my blessings - if you are one of the ones in a tougher situation, know that getting through each day is making you and your child stronger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - thanks for clarifying - you are a single mom. I think you would have gotten a lot more sympathetic responses had you started a post saying you are a single mom and are wondering if everyone you see who is married is walking through life on a ray of sunshine. I for one would have said, I am happily married, and I am thankful that DH shares so much of the burden of being a parent - financially, in terms of house chores, in terms of childrearing, and emotionally.

However, I would have acknowledged that even a happy marriage is no picnic every day, it takes compromise, and work. And that likely being a single mom is at least some of the time probably a lot easier than raising a kid in an unhappy marriage which folks do also.

Being a mom is hard. Definitely some people have it harder. I for one try to count my blessings - if you are one of the ones in a tougher situation, know that getting through each day is making you and your child stronger.

Thank you for your response. I actually thought that by sharing I was a single/never married mom I would be attracting more judgement from people who would think I was attacking them from the single side of the fence and judging their lives to be worse than mine, which is SO untrue. I tried not to share too much because I didn't want it to be about who I am. I guess I just wanted to see people saying that they are happy in their marriage and what I got was a false impression. I knew I was gonna get flamed either way... This is DCUM after all.

[Anonymous]

Are you the freaky woman with the crazy smile who stalked me at Fair Oaks and listened in on my conversations this weekend? You are confusing a look of sadness with fear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the freaky woman with the crazy smile who stalked me at Fair Oaks and listened in on my conversations this weekend? You are confusing a look of sadness with fear.

Lol. No, I'm not that woman. Actually never been to Fair Oaks.