How hard is it to start over at age 41?

[Anonymous]

I’m 40, divorced, two tweens. Attractive but a little chubby. I’m in a serious relationship with a 33 year old. I tell my friends I’m pretty sure this isn’t typical but it did at least happen for me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man, it’s awful how many of these responses essentially say a woman over 40 is spare parts.

Nah, it’s just the typical angry men response that pops up constantly on this board - the men who want to make women feel they are worthless after 25 and every 50 year old guy can easily date early 20s women. It’s just their nasty, angry little fantasy world that has nothing to do with reality, ignore and enjoy all your many options.

Project much? Nobody said that. What someone actually said was that she'd easily be able to date a guy in his 50s. True enough, if she wants that.

Actual reality is, she does not have a lot of options. There are not a lot of single, never married men over 40... and the ones that exist are probably messed up in some way... and she better get used to dating divorced dads. This is no different from divorced men in their 40s, who also better get used to dating single moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man, it’s awful how many of these responses essentially say a woman over 40 is spare parts.

Nah, it’s just the typical angry men response that pops up constantly on this board - the men who want to make women feel they are worthless after 25 and every 50 year old guy can easily date early 20s women. It’s just their nasty, angry little fantasy world that has nothing to do with reality, ignore and enjoy all your many options.

My reality as a mid-50s man: I have dated plenty of women in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. The mid-20s women are a lot of fun. I expect to ultimately wind up with a woman about 8 years younger than me.

[Anonymous]

If she met someone and started trying to get pregnant right away, kids are still a possibility. I think there’s a pretty big difference between 41 and 43.

[Anonymous]

My divorced aunt is 67 and she gets dates all the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she met someone and started trying to get pregnant right away, kids are still a possibility. I think there’s a pretty big difference between 41 and 43.

But meeting someone and trying to get pregnant right away would probably not be a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend is going through a divorce. She is childless and in good shape.

She seems to feel hopeless about the future.

I think anything is possible except maybe having kids.

A little bit easier than it is to start over at age 42.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man, it’s awful how many of these responses essentially say a woman over 40 is spare parts.

Who is saying that?

The ones who are saying that realistically, she doesn't have much chance to have kids, well, that's true enough but that's not the same as saying she's "spare parts".

One of her positives listed is that she’s not damaged inside and the advice is that she should look to dating men tend to 15 years older is pretty awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's is 41 and fit she will have no problems. She could have her pick of the 50-55 year old men

lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would your friend be interested in a late-40's widower with three teens?

Oh, buddy.

[Anonymous]

Tell her my divorce is final in September and I'd like to meet her then. =)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she's is 41 and fit she will have no problems. She could have her pick of the 50-55 year old men

And under the age of fifty men. I'm divorced and age 49 and I can date 40 year olds.

wait sec date or get banged by 40 year olds? No good looking got his stuff together 40 year old dates this old. 30-35 is more like it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she's is 41 and fit she will have no problems. She could have her pick of the 50-55 year old men

And under the age of fifty men. I'm divorced and age 49 and I can date 40 year olds.

wait sec date or get banged by 40 year olds? No good looking got his stuff together 40 year old dates this old. 30-35 is more like it

No, most of them date... 40 year olds. But yeah, I actually know two divorced women who ended up re-marrying guys 10-12 years younger, so it does happen. But most people, male and female, end up with partners within 5 years of their own age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she's is 41 and fit she will have no problems. She could have her pick of the 50-55 year old men

And under the age of fifty men. I'm divorced and age 49 and I can date 40 year olds.

wait sec date or get banged by 40 year olds? No good looking got his stuff together 40 year old dates this old. 30-35 is more like it

Eh it depends. If you're 49 and you don't want kids (or more kids), you are wise to avoid 30-35 because they are at peak baby rabies. Someone in their 40s has probably resigned herself to no kids (or has them already and doesn't want more).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 40, divorced, two tweens. Attractive but a little chubby. I’m in a serious relationship with a 33 year old. I tell my friends I’m pretty sure this isn’t typical but it did at least happen for me!

That's only a 7 yr difference. Nothing out of the ordinary.