How hard is it to start over at age 41?

[Anonymous]

Any human being with female organs has no problems finding a date.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think she would appeal to some guy who doesnt want kids. She doesnt have baggage or damaged insides so I think she'll interest some guys.

Damaged insides? WTF does that mean?

NP. After 3 kids my exDW had major changes/damage downstairs.

Well, that’s not normal. Hope she got medical help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's is 41 and fit she will have no problems. She could have her pick of the 50-55 year old men

And under the age of fifty men. I'm divorced and age 49 and I can date 40 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a 45 year old divorced woman who probably isn’t in as good physical shape as your friend and has the baggage of kids I’ll say she’s going to have no problems at all. And despite what most of the responses have been I’d bet she dates younger. I found I attracted guys 4-8 years younger than myself. The only demographic off limits will be the mid-40’s guys. They all go 10 years or more younger (at least in my experience).

I’ll agree with you on all accounts except for the comment about mid-40’s men. I’m dating a great one now!

[Anonymous]

The only thing that she has to come to terms with is not having children. But if she was married and got to 41 without them, maybe she never wanted them?

I think she’d have no problem dating guys her age. The difficult part would be finding a guy without kids to date. Being a stepmom sucks.

[Anonymous]

Man, it’s awful how many of these responses essentially say a woman over 40 is spare parts.

[Anonymous]

This all boils down to whether or not she wants to birth her own biological child. If she does, then it will be a very difficult reckoning - either she does it on her own or she realizes the chances for that in a relationship are extraordinarily small, possibly risking her chance to have biological kids on the attempt.

If she doesn’t want her own biological kids, she will be fine. She just needs to put herself out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, it’s awful how many of these responses essentially say a woman over 40 is spare parts.

Nah, it’s just the typical angry men response that pops up constantly on this board - the men who want to make women feel they are worthless after 25 and every 50 year old guy can easily date early 20s women. It’s just their nasty, angry little fantasy world that has nothing to do with reality, ignore and enjoy all your many options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man, it’s awful how many of these responses essentially say a woman over 40 is spare parts.

Nah, it’s just the typical angry men response that pops up constantly on this board - the men who want to make women feel they are worthless after 25 and every 50 year old guy can easily date early 20s women. It’s just their nasty, angry little fantasy world that has nothing to do with reality, ignore and enjoy all your many options.

+1 NP. I have no dog in this fight, but the level of hatred spewed here is just ridiculous. It really makes you wonder about the people typing these responses.

[Anonymous]

I am 44 divorced,with two young kids and dating a mid 40s man. Here is the thing though about this age--men who are mid 40s who have kids TEND to want to date women with kids. If they don't have kids or a very small percentage of custody, then it may be a different story--but they may skew younger. There is no magic formula to this but tell your friend she should be fine.

[Anonymous]

My childless divorced friend found her childless divorced partner at 44, he was 46.

They have a great life....dog, beautiful home, lots of travel and free time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a 45 year old divorced woman who probably isn’t in as good physical shape as your friend and has the baggage of kids I’ll say she’s going to have no problems at all. And despite what most of the responses have been I’d bet she dates younger. I found I attracted guys 4-8 years younger than myself. The only demographic off limits will be the mid-40’s guys. They all go 10 years or more younger (at least in my experience).

Even the ones with kids already who don't want any more kids?

I'm not sure how much age matters (within a range of 10 years) anyway once you get to your 40s. How you take care of yourself matters MUCH more than chronological age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Man, it’s awful how many of these responses essentially say a woman over 40 is spare parts.

Nah, it’s just the typical angry men response that pops up constantly on this board - the men who want to make women feel they are worthless after 25 and every 50 year old guy can easily date early 20s women. It’s just their nasty, angry little fantasy world that has nothing to do with reality, ignore and enjoy all your many options.

+1 NP. I have no dog in this fight, but the level of hatred spewed here is just ridiculous. It really makes you wonder about the people typing these responses.

Did a bunch of comments get deleted? I didn't see anything that terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's is 41 and fit she will have no problems. She could have her pick of the 50-55 year old men

Agree... I am one of those men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, it’s awful how many of these responses essentially say a woman over 40 is spare parts.

Who is saying that?

The ones who are saying that realistically, she doesn't have much chance to have kids, well, that's true enough but that's not the same as saying she's "spare parts".