What happens to childless LMC/working class people when they get old?

Anonymous
They become vulnerable to horrible schemes like this - https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/10/09/how-the-elderly-lose-their-rights
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they are lucky they belong to a church or other close knit community. Otherwise, no one.


'The church' didn't notice when my FIL no longer went to church due to dementia.


Perhaps they assumed his obviously devoted DIL was caring for him?


Nope, we were in a different country.
Anything else?
You have a very sarcastic personality, I suspect your friends find you hard to get along with at times (?)
Anonymous
Also many kids just live too far away to really be able to care well for their parents.
Anonymous
They probably lose the will to live long before they die of natural causes
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they are lucky they belong to a church or other close knit community. Otherwise, no one.


'The church' didn't notice when my FIL no longer went to church due to dementia.


Perhaps they assumed his obviously devoted DIL was caring for him?


Nope, we were in a different country.
Anything else?
You have a very sarcastic personality, I suspect your friends find you hard to get along with at times (?)


NP

Oh, yeah, it's the PP who had the "very sarcastic personality." That's obvious.
Anonymous
They are converted into nutritious protein slurry and fed to other LMC/working class old people.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You’d be surprised how close-knit and protective working class communities can be. There’s a lot of checking up on neighbors and family friends as they age.


This. I grew up poor in a lot of rough neighborhoods. Even the bad kids, drug dealers, or what have you knew to stay off of Ms. So and So's porch. People always sat out on their porches or their stoop, so even if someone came along who looked like they were up to something, the other neighbors would quickly intervene. A lot of them usually belonged to churches and were on the "sick and shut in" list, so congregation members would stop by from time to time especially around the holidays, Palm Sunday, or to take them communion. Their walkways were always shoveled and someone always cut their grass.
Anonymous
I saw this recently with my brother. He has cancer, childless and Aline. He had been in and out if the hospital and living with us during treatments. I would be happy to have him stay with us but my DH hates the lack of privacy and the daytime caregivers. It is a mess.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they are lucky they belong to a church or other close knit community. Otherwise, no one.


'The church' didn't notice when my FIL no longer went to church due to dementia.


Perhaps they assumed his obviously devoted DIL was caring for him?


Nope, we were in a different country.
Anything else?
You have a very sarcastic personality, I suspect your friends find you hard to get along with at times (?)


His child was swaning about in another country but you wanted the church to care for him? Wow, just wow!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They are converted into nutritious protein slurry and fed to other LMC/working class old people.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they are lucky they belong to a church or other close knit community. Otherwise, no one.


'The church' didn't notice when my FIL no longer went to church due to dementia.


Perhaps they assumed his obviously devoted DIL was caring for him?


Nope, we were in a different country.
Anything else?
You have a very sarcastic personality, I suspect your friends find you hard to get along with at times (?)


His child was swaning about in another country but you wanted the church to care for him? Wow, just wow!


No, his child was living in another country. "The church" did not notice him missing. What is wrong with you?
No one asked the church to care for him, how ridiculous. "His child" moved back.
You are a very silly person.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:They become vulnerable to horrible schemes like this - https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2017/10/09/how-the-elderly-lose-their-rights


great article
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If they are lucky they belong to a church or other close knit community. Otherwise, no one.


'The church' didn't notice when my FIL no longer went to church due to dementia.


Perhaps they assumed his obviously devoted DIL was caring for him?


Nope, we were in a different country.
Anything else?
You have a very sarcastic personality, I suspect your friends find you hard to get along with at times (?)


His child was swaning about in another country but you wanted the church to care for him? Wow, just wow!


No, his child was living in another country. "The church" did not notice him missing. What is wrong with you?
No one asked the church to care for him, how ridiculous. "His child" moved back.
You are a very silly person.



PP is immature.
Anonymous
So are people supposed to have children in the hopes of having someone 'check up' on them when they're 85? It makes more sense to remain childless and use all that money that one saved and put it towards a nursing home or hospice should the time come. Unless you're Asian, expecting your children to be at your beck and call when they're thousands of miles away is naive. It's also unfair to burden adult children with eldercare when they didnt ask to be born.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Childless people like my Aunt have siblings and nieces and nephews



But my grandmother's siblings are all dead. And do nieces and nephews really provide the same kind of loving care that a child would?


Is there any guarantee your kids will do this? No.

Do you people have kids just so you hopefully have someone around to wipe your a** in your old age?
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