DD9 doesn’t want to go to grandparent cottage

[Anonymous]

If it’s an hour...drive in the morning...leave after dinner

[Anonymous]

This doesn't sound like a fun place for an older kid. When they are very young a backyard tub of water is fun but at age 9 they want to go to a pool with their friends.

[Anonymous]

9 year Olds don't get to make the schedule

[Anonymous]

9 year Olds don't get to make the schedule

Let me translate this for you - I'm a selfish Grandma who doesn't care if grandkids enjoy doing what I demand. Until they are 18, I am entitled to make them do whatever I want. I'm a mom who just wants a kid free night without paying for babysitting. Result - kids who will never spend time with you when they can finally be free.

[Anonymous]

Go with her OP, why does she have to go by herself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9 year Olds don't get to make the schedule

That’s beside the point. That’s not what’s going on here.

[Anonymous]

OP is it possible your daughter is uncomfortable because of inappropriate behavior from her grandfather? Stop undermining her. Trust her and talk to her.

[Anonymous]

9 is just about the age where hanging out with grandparents can get kind of boring. Are there other kids in this community? Is the pool a bustling place or is it just a bunch of retirees sitting quietly?

[Anonymous]

What exactly is there to do once she gets there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is it possible your daughter is uncomfortable because of inappropriate behavior from her grandfather? Stop undermining her. Trust her and talk to her.

This what I would be concerned about. 9 year olds brains work differently, and for some reason she may be afraid to tell you if something scary happened while she was visiting, no matter who with.