Feel like I can't compare to his ex

[Anonymous]

OP I understand your insecurity but I don't think most of your BF's friends are comparing you to his late wife. I certainly wouldn't do that if I were his friend-that would be really unfair to everyone involved. I would want my friend to be happy and if he's happy dating you and you're a kind person then I would be glad that he's found someone.

I agree with the PP's who said to get off Facebook or avoid pages dedicated to your boyfriend's late wife.

[Anonymous]

How did she die?

[Anonymous]

This would bother me too.

I likely could not be in a relationship that had this dynamic.
Maybe if his wife would have been gone a longer amount of time, I could handle it easier but am not sure.

If it is tough for you to handle personally, then perhaps this relationship may not be right for you.
She hasn’t really been gone that long so the feelings are still fresh/raw.

[Anonymous]

Please break up with him. He deserves to be able to remember and celebrate his late wife. He should be able to spend time with her (and their mutual) friends and with her family. If you are going to be insecure about it, it is so not fair to him. Someone who is widowed needs to be with someone who won't try to diminish the impact of the late spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the responses.
They were together when she died. It was November 2016 and we got together in July 2018 which is around a year and a half.
Without outing myself she was well known on the music scene and was very well loved. That's why now lots of events are held in her honor. It's hard to deal with at times, feels like I have a lot to compete with.

OP, you do realize that you might have outed her with this date and occupation?