Weird habits of the house/houseguest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People with no-shoes-in-the-house policies are rude if they don’t provide medical booties to slip OVER the shoe for guests who need arch support, have feet problems, etc.

this is a total no brainer because hospitality is 100% and not one iota less about making your guests feel welcome and comfortable. If the first thing you do is hit me with a shoes off request without forewarning, you’ve already made me feel awkward.

While I agree with you 100%, sadly the entitled people around here are more concerned with keeping their floors spotless. Who cares about the stinkin’ guests when the maid won’t be here til next week?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

I am TOTALLY with you on that. I really hate when I don't know that the "shoes off" thing is coming. My feet are hard to maintain - I exercise a lot so they're really battered, plus I loathe getting pedicures - but I would make a point to be sure they're presentable if I know they will be presented.

Always assume you are going into a shoe free household. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

OMG I thought this was going to be a funny thread. Enough about the shoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

This is such a common expectation now its weird to be put off by it. And as there’s so much supporting evidence of all the literal crap shoes bring in-I find shoe wearing homes gross.

I was a principal ballet dancer (Prima Ballerina) for 20+ years & it absolutely ravaged my feet... permanently.

Today, I can only walk wearing shoes with supports in them, I can no longer walk bare footed AT ALL. At home, I wear custom slippers with the same supports in them, but they are very expensive as everything in them are custom made just for my feet.

What would you have me do in this situation?

You tell the host that you need to wear your shoes. What’s the big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

This is such a common expectation now its weird to be put off by it. And as there’s so much supporting evidence of all the literal crap shoes bring in-I find shoe wearing homes gross.

I was a principal ballet dancer (Prima Ballerina) for 20+ years & it absolutely ravaged my feet... permanently.

Today, I can only walk wearing shoes with supports in them, I can no longer walk bare footed AT ALL. At home, I wear custom slippers with the same supports in them, but they are very expensive as everything in them are custom made just for my feet.

What would you have me do in this situation?

I get the impression that your friends know all about your career as a ballerina so it wouldn't be difficult to explain your need to wear shoes...just make sure you're wearing clean shoes. I don't care about anyone's nasty toes or mismatched socks, but I do care if they track mud into my house. If you can't show some respect to your host, then don't bother accepting the invitation. Likewise, if you are a host and your friend mentions to you that she can't go barefoot, then you should still be welcoming. Both sides need to show basic respect.

[Anonymous]

Right, it's not the shoes, it's the dirt. Bring inside shoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People with no-shoes-in-the-house policies are rude if they don’t provide medical booties to slip OVER the shoe for guests who need arch support, have feet problems, etc.

this is a total no brainer because hospitality is 100% and not one iota less about making your guests feel welcome and comfortable. If the first thing you do is hit me with a shoes off request without forewarning, you’ve already made me feel awkward.

While I agree with you 100%, sadly the entitled people around here are more concerned with keeping their floors spotless. Who cares about the stinkin’ guests when the maid won’t be here til next week?!?

I don't have a maid and I'm not obsessed with keeping my floors spotless. I just think it's basic civility to take one's shoes off to not track mud onto floors or rugs. Shoes can be seriously nasty. They pick up dog poop, gum, mud, and hair. I don't see why people would want to wear shoes in their own homes, why do you feel entitled to wear them in a friend's home?

Hospitality goes both ways. You can be a thoughtful guest and not take offense at a pretty minor request.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had a foot issue for over a year now and cannot walk barefoot but we have a shoe free home and I go to other homes which are also shoe free.

I bring my home shoes to other people’s homes. It’s really not that hard! What a fuss some of you make.

Someone came to our house for a cultural event where it’s disrespectful to wear shoes. Everyone had their shoes off but she didn’t. I couldn’t tell her but I won’t be inviting her again even though I want to. It makes me uncomfortable to tell people but most people just see the shoes removed and do it themselves.

I know for a fact this woman doesn’t have any foot issues.
Now I would never ever ask someone in a boot or who has issues to remove their shoes but I do wish they would bring a clean one for the inside of our home if they already know that we are a shoe free house.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s ridiculous and so LMC to demand someone remove their shoes when visiting.

[Anonymous]

“A shoe free home “ crazy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s ridiculous and so LMC to demand someone remove their shoes when visiting.

Relax, no one is demanding anything. It's just a preference for many households. It's pretty ignorant to ridicule this as a class issue. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

If you like slippers, bring them with you. We are a no shoes house. It keeps carpets cleaner, doesn't scratch up the hardwood as much, etc. We have a small house so you walk in and enter with the living room carpet. I don't say anything but its a bit gross to wear outside shoes inside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not particularly weird, but I’m not a fan of situations where the host asks you to remove shoes and there’s no advance warning that it’s a shoe-free house and no provision of slippers. From cold feet, to holey socks, to athlete’s foot, there are a lot of reasons why some of us are more comfortable with shoes on and need some sort of heads-up if we must remove them.

I am TOTALLY with you on that. I really hate when I don't know that the "shoes off" thing is coming. My feet are hard to maintain - I exercise a lot so they're really battered, plus I loathe getting pedicures - but I would make a point to be sure they're presentable if I know they will be presented.

Huh? Why can’t you just wear socks???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I am going to someone’s house I make sure my feet are “presentable,” just in case I need to take my shoes off. Those of you who are so inconvenienced by having to do so are inconveniencing us, the people who don’t want the crap from your shoes all over our house.

Lol. No. I am not going to wash my feet every time I leave the house in case I stumble into a house where people people find it so overinconvenient to allow people in, that they do not allow them to where shoes.

[Anonymous]

Getting back to the thread topic - we stayed at someone’s house who had a policy of not flushing if it was just no.1 or the kids poops. Trying to save the environment. So all the bathrooms would be full of waste when you went in them.