What ever happened to your most significant ex?

[Anonymous]

College g/f. It's been 20+ years. If we spoke, it would just be pleasantries. I took the breakup pretty hard, but in retrospect, a marriage never would have worked. She's nice enough, and from what I can see on FB seems pretty happy. But she doesn't seem that interesting. Different religion, different politics, different interests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm in contact with him. The memory of him haunted me for years because he was the road not taken and my life would have been completely different than the one I live now had I stayed with him--different not necessarily better. He was the only person besides my husband I ever wanted to make a life with but we were a bit too young and we still had goals to accomplish. About a year ago he contacted me and we wrote regularly and with a lot of emotion for a while--it was very cathartic--that has now dwindled to sporadically but it's still nice. It put an end to my wondering. I now know we were compatible because we followed similar paths. He's married and so am I. If we were both single again I would like to see him. He is often in my thoughts.

My MIL is now 87 and has been married for 65 years. There is an old boyfriend that never forgot her and continued to occasionally send her flowers and notes up until his recent death. You never know how you will mark someone's life.

Your behavior as a married woman is highly inappropriate.

+1 totally inappropriate. Is that how you would want your husband to interact with another woman?

[Anonymous]

What happened to my ex... after he raped me, I'm not sure. I hope he's dead.

[Anonymous]

Handsome and successful and married to a successful attorney. Bunch of kids.

[Anonymous]

Died of a drug overdose, leaving behind a wife and toddler. Saddened me because he was a nice guy but I knew we weren’t compatible.

[Anonymous]

Hollywood actor

[Anonymous]

Appears to have done well financially. Nice house in Bethesda and kids go to a private school. However, she has gained weight and DW has aged way better. Icing on the cake - we both had kids try out for the same soccer travel team - mine made it, hers did not.

[Anonymous]

He married a woman who is not physically attractive at all. Surprising, considering how he previously only dated very attractive women and he was very critical of women’s appearances in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:College g/f. It's been 20+ years. If we spoke, it would just be pleasantries. I took the breakup pretty hard, but in retrospect, a marriage never would have worked. She's nice enough, and from what I can see on FB seems pretty happy. But she doesn't seem that interesting. Different religion, different politics, different interests.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'm cordial in person however we never talk and fight in court over the kids.

[Anonymous]

He got fat and now works as a delivery driver. Can’t say I’m unhappy about that, he was a real POS. Emotionally abusive, messed me up badly and destroyed my career.

I’ve ran into him twice and both times he completely ignored me. Probably a good thing, I would have unleashed years of pent up fury on him.

[Anonymous]

He tours around the world playing music for fans.

[Anonymous]

1. Ex husband. Occasional email exchange on something kids related (we have two kids together). No contact otherwise.
2. Ex boyfriend. He is now a tenured professor at a local college - exactly what he always wanted to be. Haven’t talked to him since we broke up.
3. Ex boyfriend. His life took lots of rough turns. If I met him now, I’d ask how he is doing ... although I already know, I strongly suspect there is some mental illness component to it too.

[Anonymous]

Have not had contact with him in many years and would not anticipate it ever happening. It was a long time ago and I have no idea what he is now like as a person.

Everybody looks happy on social media but what I do know is he is in a long term marriage with an attractive woman who looks nothing like me. They have one child and he has done some interesting things with his education and career. He had his share of personal issues when we were dating and hope he is doing OK.

[Anonymous]

From a wealthy family. Very bright. Ivy degrees. Now a yoga instructor in California, living off a generous trust fund and also travels frequently. Seems happy.

I came from the professional upper middle classes and always expected to work in serious occupations. We had different life goals and we both ended up in places where we are happier than if we'd ended up together.