at what age did you know your son is gay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This makes me think of a friend in my circle from college. She married a guy we were all absolutely convinced was gay. Our evidence was that he dressed well, had a slight lisp (sadly I am serious...forgive us we were young), had some effeminate gestures, took great care with his hair, and loved to cook.

Meanwhile, flash forward 20 years and he is the best dad ever and such a great partner to her and to be crass, still keeping her happy in the sack. We were total morons. I agree with the previous poster that people's definitions of masculinity needs to change.

+1. Please do not start imposing this identity on your young son, OP.

[Anonymous]

Gay risk goes up with each boy you have. Epigenetics

[Anonymous]

My DD came out to us when she was 14, she is 17 now. We had absolutely no clue. And like the previous poster I still cannot think of any mannerisms or anything that could have tipped us of in that direction. In fact, we thought she had a few crushes on boys.

[Anonymous]

My son is 7 and he tells me about his plans for his wife and kids after I’m dead. I’ve made very clear my diamond heart necklace can only got to his daughter or granddaughter.
He has had at least two boys at school (one last year) and one this year that has said they will marry men when they grow up.

I really think sexual orientation is like geographical preference. Some people can do only east coast, some can only do west, some can flow from coast to coast. And some people like only the Midwest (yuck).-signed straight , west coast lover stuck in the east that had crushes on boys, married two men and once had a crush on a girl, but also has a brother who has only ever dated boys.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I alway say boy or girl when referring to our children's future partners. When you get married, when you fall in love, when you have your first kiss... What ever they may be, we want them to know with out a doubt that we do not care who they fall for

[Anonymous]

My son is 11. I am just now suspecting something. I’m not sure if he’s gay or questioning. He is very stereotypical male in many ways and a strong athlete. I don’t think these things necessarily are predictive. I’m wondering because he has become very upset upon hearing, reading or seeing anything anti-gay over the last few months. After these incidents I’ve tried to steer the conversation to give him an opening but he hasn’t said anything. It’s also possible that he is just reaching the age where he cares deeply about equality and social justice and is showing empathy when he becomes upset. I just have to wait to see.