I should just give him space right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I yelled at him. Lol. For something I had been bugging him about to do, but he didn't and I finally blew it.

I'm not sure why the "I yelled at him. Lol." bugs me ... but it does. It is something you do a lot? By yell do you mean YELL, tantrum level screaming, profanities? or raised voices?
And what makes that laugh out loud worthy? I mean, for me yelling is more a place of shame rather than something to laugh at.

He's still wrong to not talk to you for a week. I mean, holy $hit.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean by “not talk?” Like, he won’t engage in a discussion about what happened? Or if you ask him to pick up Larlo at soccer practice, he doesn’t respond, and just walks out the door without telling you where he is going? Or something in between?

[Anonymous]

Inspire him to talk. Change your routine without any communication. Come home around midnight, shower & crawl into bed without a word. Head out early in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. My mistake. All you did was yell at him. This IS abusive. No borderline about it.

Yelling at him is abusive, too. The yeller and the sulker - what a fine relationship they have!

+1 Yelling is emotional abuse (and it seems like OP admits that it is unjustified yelling). the way the OP talks about this makes me think she is clueless, abusive and that the DH is considering his options. You can't demand that he speak to you after you say "the right words" when he is feeling abused and beat down. face your consequences.

signed
someone who was in a long relationship with an emotional abuser and no longer is

[Anonymous]

This behavior is not ok. Why are you accepting responsibility for a grown man's bad behavior??? It doesn't matter what you did. It doesn't matter how short your skirt was. It doesn't matter if you've been growing apart. Women are always taking responsibility for a man's bad behavior. No. Just, no. Stop normalizing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by “not talk?” Like, he won’t engage in a discussion about what happened? Or if you ask him to pick up Larlo at soccer practice, he doesn’t respond, and just walks out the door without telling you where he is going? Or something in between?

It's now something in between - texting the amount that's barely necessary.

For those asking, I yelled (raised my voice). No, I didn't call him names or curse him out. The lol because the whole situation is incredulous: I yelled in the heat of the moment for five (let's say ten minutes conservatively), and apologized for my mistake within five minutes right after. He purposefully decided not to speak to me for almost a week and a half now.

I never demanded he speak to me: I apologized right after, then approached him to talk some point after (i can't remember if it was one or two days after); then sent a text a week or so later. . . )

[Anonymous]

Wow. Rather than try and place blame suggest getting into counseling either for yourself or couples.