I should just give him space right?
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Anonymous
| I believe this to be the third time you have posted about this. The advice is not going to be different. |
Anonymous
You are wrong, but thanks for the help. |
Anonymous
| Either tell the whole story or don't bother posting. |
Anonymous
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You apologized and acknowledged the failure on your part. He is either being manipulative or has checked out.
Is this a pattern for you two? |
Anonymous
| You at a single point in time made the choice to yell at him, he for over a week is choosing to ignore & not speak with you. |
Anonymous
| I think I have this straight. DH agreed (?) to do something (chore or errand) which he obviously forgot. You got mad and yelled and now HE is angry. Is this a typical behavior for hm? You 2 need some communication therapy STAT. |
Anonymous
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Its okay for your DH to be upset about how you handled conflict. But I think he's not giving you the silent treatment for a week because he is upset. He is doing it to punish you for being angry. This is not healthy.
Yelling and being disappointed with ones' spouse is part of marriage sometimes. Its not the best way to handle things, but refusing to engage at all is, in my opinion, far worse. Stop apologizing. Go about your life. Make an appointment for a couple therapist. You guys need to learn how to handle conflict, because its inevitable. Just out of curiosity, does he do this often? doyou have kids? how long have you been married? |
Anonymous
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Giving you the silent treatment is in my opinion....a form of mental abuse.
He is shutting you off until HE feels you are worthy to talk to. He is on a power trip & has set everything on HIS terms. You do not deserve to be punished like a child here. You are entitled to have dignity + respect from your husband. These are not mere privileges. Do not let him have all this power over you. Take back your power by letting him know that until he stops this immature facade, you will be looking for other options in your life that include being spoken to & no longer ignored. |
Anonymous
| What did you say when you yelled? Did you call him names? |
Anonymous
Wholeheartedly agree. OP is the abuser here, people. Don’t get it twisted. |
Anonymous
No, no she isn’t. |
Anonymous
| When my DH and I have disagreements, he throws toddler tantrums, screams at me, twist things around, won’t talk to me, ignores me for days, and always storms off into another room or leaves the house. It doesn’t happen often, but I have such little respect for him during those times. He definitely needs anger management therapy, but won’t hear of it. I used to try and work things out, but now I refuse to expend any energy on his tantrums. I will apologize if I am wrong, but that’s not enough for him. So he gets to stew in his own anger until he’s over it. He also never apologies for his behavior. This was a side he hid very well until years into our marriage. But when he’s not having his occasional temper tantrum, he’s loving and fun. |
Anonymous
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Respect him! Let him stew, you’ve done your part and if your conscience is clear based on your sincere apologies than buzz about in your normal life.
If I was a guy, I’d be thinking here she goes now I have to forgive on her timetable too! Move on! Whenever he’s ready to reconnect be pleased. A happy wife is irresistible to your husband. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like this may be a reoccurring thing. Maybe he's just done and has spent t the last week looking at divorce attorneys? |
Anonymous
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Obviously the yelling at him and the silent treatment don't exist in a vacuum. Whatever the context was, there are obviously layers of resentment that need to be worked through.
I am not sure either about the root being you were telling him to do things that he hadn't done. You tell him what to do? It isn't clear in this post who or what is really the issue. If this is an ongoing dynamic, then you should seek outside help |