Very attractive people have it easier when it comes to dating. Agree or disagree?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Model hot women do not have it easy. They have to prove themselves to men and women.

Regular pretty women have it the easiest.

Being sexy doesn’t necessarily help.

Right. See the “what do men think when they see an attractive woman” thread for examples of the Pavlovian mental programming you are faced with out the gate.

Men think this about any woman who isn't a total beast.

And it wasn't programmed in, Pavlov style, it was hard-wired at birth.

[Anonymous]

How is this even a real question?? Of course dating is easier when you're attractive. My friend is beautiful and she complains that it takes too long to read all the messages she gets on dating sites. ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive as in stunning or model potential?

I disagree. Basing this on my good friend who is stunning. Her looks get her lots of attention but doesn’t transfer to relationships or even dates.

She gets hit on. Guys just want to have sex with her or flirt with her for their own ego boost, but very few dates.

People always assume she’ taken.

It’s too bad because she’s a great person.

This was my experience when I was young. I was very beautiful in an exotic sexy way. Guys were always intrigued by me and very attracted to me, and, of course, they wanted to have sex with me. But very few ever asked me on a real date or pursued a relationship for me. Most of them ended up dating and marrying the plain or semi cute kindergarten teacher types. I think that I, as well as other very attractive women, sometimes don’t fit the “image” some guys have on their heads of what a girlfriend, wife, or mother should be. Either that or all of the guys I knew were warped!

This is soooo stupid. Men lusted after you but you never got asked out on dates? Really? Here you go, borrow this line: “why don’t we go out this weekend”. Say that to almost any guy who interests you. Tell me this doesn’t get you a date every time.

[Anonymous]

DH grew up with a neighbor/family friend with a really goofy name/nickname (think Mabel or Ethel or similar). I finally met “Mabel” at my wedding and holy moly she looked just like Giselle, so gorgeous. I told DH “didn’t you ever want to date her?!?” And he was like “oh Mabel? She’s ok.” She’s married to a doctor and lives a regular upper middle class life, no drama or turmoil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive as in stunning or model potential?

I disagree. Basing this on my good friend who is stunning. Her looks get her lots of attention but doesn’t transfer to relationships or even dates.

She gets hit on. Guys just want to have sex with her or flirt with her for their own ego boost, but very few dates.

People always assume she’ taken.

It’s too bad because she’s a great person.

This was my experience when I was young. I was very beautiful in an exotic sexy way. Guys were always intrigued by me and very attracted to me, and, of course, they wanted to have sex with me. But very few ever asked me on a real date or pursued a relationship for me. Most of them ended up dating and marrying the plain or semi cute kindergarten teacher types. I think that I, as well as other very attractive women, sometimes don’t fit the “image” some guys have on their heads of what a girlfriend, wife, or mother should be. Either that or all of the guys I knew were warped!

This is soooo stupid. Men lusted after you but you never got asked out on dates? Really? Here you go, borrow this line: “why don’t we go out this weekend”. Say that to almost any guy who interests you. Tell me this doesn’t get you a date every time.

Yeah right. Then she’s being too “eager” or “desperate.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive as in stunning or model potential?

I disagree. Basing this on my good friend who is stunning. Her looks get her lots of attention but doesn’t transfer to relationships or even dates.

She gets hit on. Guys just want to have sex with her or flirt with her for their own ego boost, but very few dates.

People always assume she’ taken.

It’s too bad because she’s a great person.

This was my experience when I was young. I was very beautiful in an exotic sexy way. Guys were always intrigued by me and very attracted to me, and, of course, they wanted to have sex with me. But very few ever asked me on a real date or pursued a relationship for me. Most of them ended up dating and marrying the plain or semi cute kindergarten teacher types. I think that I, as well as other very attractive women, sometimes don’t fit the “image” some guys have on their heads of what a girlfriend, wife, or mother should be. Either that or all of the guys I knew were warped!

This is soooo stupid. Men lusted after you but you never got asked out on dates? Really? Here you go, borrow this line: “why don’t we go out this weekend”. Say that to almost any guy who interests you. Tell me this doesn’t get you a date every time.

Yeah right. Then she’s being too “eager” or “desperate.”

Are you on drugs? A cute woman who verbally expresses an interest in my time: I'd be like the kid in Animal House who looks up and says "Thank you God!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive as in stunning or model potential?

I disagree. Basing this on my good friend who is stunning. Her looks get her lots of attention but doesn’t transfer to relationships or even dates.

She gets hit on. Guys just want to have sex with her or flirt with her for their own ego boost, but very few dates.

People always assume she’ taken.

It’s too bad because she’s a great person.

This was my experience when I was young. I was very beautiful in an exotic sexy way. Guys were always intrigued by me and very attracted to me, and, of course, they wanted to have sex with me. But very few ever asked me on a real date or pursued a relationship for me. Most of them ended up dating and marrying the plain or semi cute kindergarten teacher types. I think that I, as well as other very attractive women, sometimes don’t fit the “image” some guys have on their heads of what a girlfriend, wife, or mother should be. Either that or all of the guys I knew were warped!

This is soooo stupid. Men lusted after you but you never got asked out on dates? Really? Here you go, borrow this line: “why don’t we go out this weekend”. Say that to almost any guy who interests you. Tell me this doesn’t get you a date every time.

I am PP. I was very open and straightforward with guys I liked, but all they were interested in was sex. They instead dated the plainer girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive as in stunning or model potential?

I disagree. Basing this on my good friend who is stunning. Her looks get her lots of attention but doesn’t transfer to relationships or even dates.

She gets hit on. Guys just want to have sex with her or flirt with her for their own ego boost, but very few dates.

People always assume she’ taken.

It’s too bad because she’s a great person.

This was my experience when I was young. I was very beautiful in an exotic sexy way. Guys were always intrigued by me and very attracted to me, and, of course, they wanted to have sex with me. But very few ever asked me on a real date or pursued a relationship for me. Most of them ended up dating and marrying the plain or semi cute kindergarten teacher types. I think that I, as well as other very attractive women, sometimes don’t fit the “image” some guys have on their heads of what a girlfriend, wife, or mother should be. Either that or all of the guys I knew were warped!

This is soooo stupid. Men lusted after you but you never got asked out on dates? Really? Here you go, borrow this line: “why don’t we go out this weekend”. Say that to almost any guy who interests you. Tell me this doesn’t get you a date every time.

I am PP. I was very open and straightforward with guys I liked, but all they were interested in was sex. They instead dated the plainer girls.

_All_ they were interested in? Because I married a woman who was as interested in sex as I was, but that hardly took up all our time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being an attractive woman = playing life on easy mode

Except for the sexual harassment, and people with attitudes like yours. Now, an attractive male? THAT'S life on easy mode!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer the kind who "clean up nicely" every now and then. Easy on the eyes without makeup.

The jackasses of the world make a model-type unattractive for me. I'm secure enough to deal with her being hit on when I'm not around, but I don't have the patience to deal with the ones who want to have a chest pounding contest by deliberately hitting on her in my presence. Worse are the groups of guys who do it in an attempt to either embarrass me or fight out of envy.

And people think attractive women have it easy with dating. Haha. I mean imagine going out with your boyfriend and having groups of men hitting on you solely to embarrass your boyfriend or have a "chest pounding contest" involving you. I'd rather be invisible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being an attractive woman = playing life on easy mode

Except for the sexual harassment, and people with attitudes like yours. Now, an attractive male? THAT'S life on easy mode!

+1. Attractive men also don’t have to deal with the jealous homely women who get their claws out whenever they are in the presence of an attractive woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm rolling my eyes at all the comments about "stunning" super model types having a hard time.

I don't think Miranda Kerr, Gigi Hadid, Giselle, etc. have ever had a hard time finding a quality man.

I cannot figure out Giselle and Tom Brady. They seem like the poster children for a marriage that should have spectacularly crashed and burned all over the pages of Us Weekly already. I think the odds are in favor of an implosion still in the future, but there must be something there at least. 10 years is plenty long enough for the shine to have worn off and they're still together.

As for the thread question, getting first dates and having sex, yes. I don't see how anyone can argue that. But getting beyond a couple of dates requires more than that, and they're no better off than anyone else in that department.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive as in stunning or model potential?

I disagree. Basing this on my good friend who is stunning. Her looks get her lots of attention but doesn’t transfer to relationships or even dates.

She gets hit on. Guys just want to have sex with her or flirt with her for their own ego boost, but very few dates.

People always assume she’ taken.

It’s too bad because she’s a great person.

This was my experience when I was young. I was very beautiful in an exotic sexy way. Guys were always intrigued by me and very attracted to me, and, of course, they wanted to have sex with me. But very few ever asked me on a real date or pursued a relationship for me. Most of them ended up dating and marrying the plain or semi cute kindergarten teacher types. I think that I, as well as other very attractive women, sometimes don’t fit the “image” some guys have on their heads of what a girlfriend, wife, or mother should be. Either that or all of the guys I knew were warped!

This is soooo stupid. Men lusted after you but you never got asked out on dates? Really? Here you go, borrow this line: “why don’t we go out this weekend”. Say that to almost any guy who interests you. Tell me this doesn’t get you a date every time.

I am PP. I was very open and straightforward with guys I liked, but all they were interested in was sex. They instead dated the plainer girls.

This really sounds like sour grapes. I was also beautiful in my twenties (that feels terrible to say but multiple men said "you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen" and I was approached on the street by a modeling scout) and I had lot of successful relationships, 5 years with one man, 5 years with another and now 10 years with my husband. I was single for just a couple.monthw between each relationship, so perhaps I never got a chance to see what just hooking up was like.

I will say it's complicated -- the second relationship was stressful, I felt a lot of pressure to remain beautiful otherwise felt he would lose interest. But my husband is a dream and claims to love the inner me. I also look more normal now, just another semi-attractive middle aged lady who sometimes looks tired and it's a relief to be married to someone who loves me as I age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being an attractive woman = playing life on easy mode

Except for the sexual harassment, and people with attitudes like yours. Now, an attractive male? THAT'S life on easy mode!

The bar is vastly different. A woman who’s in top 20% is easy-mode-attractive. But only 3% of guys are easy-mode-attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very attractive as in stunning or model potential?

I disagree. Basing this on my good friend who is stunning. Her looks get her lots of attention but doesn’t transfer to relationships or even dates.

She gets hit on. Guys just want to have sex with her or flirt with her for their own ego boost, but very few dates.

People always assume she’ taken.

It’s too bad because she’s a great person.

This was my experience when I was young. I was very beautiful in an exotic sexy way. Guys were always intrigued by me and very attracted to me, and, of course, they wanted to have sex with me. But very few ever asked me on a real date or pursued a relationship for me. Most of them ended up dating and marrying the plain or semi cute kindergarten teacher types. I think that I, as well as other very attractive women, sometimes don’t fit the “image” some guys have on their heads of what a girlfriend, wife, or mother should be. Either that or all of the guys I knew were warped!

This is soooo stupid. Men lusted after you but you never got asked out on dates? Really? Here you go, borrow this line: “why don’t we go out this weekend”. Say that to almost any guy who interests you. Tell me this doesn’t get you a date every time.

I am PP. I was very open and straightforward with guys I liked, but all they were interested in was sex. They instead dated the plainer girls.

This really sounds like sour grapes. I was also beautiful in my twenties (that feels terrible to say but multiple men said "you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen" and I was approached on the street by a modeling scout) and I had lot of successful relationships, 5 years with one man, 5 years with another and now 10 years with my husband. I was single for just a couple.monthw between each relationship, so perhaps I never got a chance to see what just hooking up was like.

I will say it's complicated -- the second relationship was stressful, I felt a lot of pressure to remain beautiful otherwise felt he would lose interest. But my husband is a dream and claims to love the inner me. I also look more normal now, just another semi-attractive middle aged lady who sometimes looks tired and it's a relief to be married to someone who loves me as I age.

It seems like you came here to gloat. It’s nice that everything worked out for you, but other women have struggles with relationships, even if they are beautiful.