Keeping photos of ex on facebook

[Anonymous]

I'm divorced as of July and have not entered into any new relationships yet, but I do not plan on going through social media and deleting 10+ years of photos together. That's a LOT more mental effort and thought about my ex than just leaving them alone.

[Anonymous]

If I’m reading this correctly he had his world turned upside down 8 months ago when the woman he married cheated on him.
The person you are dating hasn’t even processed the loss yet, he is in rebound mode and your relationship will not likely last; don’t make a big deal out of the pictures because all of this is going to end very soon anyway.

In late January or early March he is going to say that he’s really not ready for all this, he needs to work on himself and he wishes he met you or year after his divorce instead of now when all this craziness is going on- he’ll also say that he cares so deeply for you and wishes you nothing but the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: If I’m reading this correctly he had his world turned upside down 8 months ago when the woman he married cheated on him.
The person you are dating hasn’t even processed the loss yet, he is in rebound mode and your relationship will not likely last; don’t make a big deal out of the pictures because all of this is going to end very soon anyway.

In late January or early March he is going to say that he’s really not ready for all this, he needs to work on himself and he wishes he met you or year after his divorce instead of now when all this craziness is going on- he’ll also say that he cares so deeply for you and wishes you nothing but the best.

and then he'll delete all photos of you on facebook

[Anonymous]

If you both are in love with each other, you wouldn't be worried about this or about bringing it up to him. Deep down, you are worried if you say something, he will walk.

He's not erasing his life of 14 years because he's been dating you a few months. He's not in love with you, either. What you are feeling is an infatuation. He's just having fun with the regular sex and ego boost after his wife cheated. You will be a distant memory this time next year.

[Anonymous]

I have pics of my ex on FB. We are family. We have a kid together. I probably have other exes on there too. Doesn't mean anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have pics of my ex on FB. We are family. We have a kid together. I probably have other exes on there too. Doesn't mean anything.

Your kids are family with their parents. The exes certainly are not. Odd we would never consider our exes a part of our family, just the past.

OP he is very much married. This is the least of your concerns. If this all happened 8 mo. ago the divorce should be filed. If not it's time for you to stay out of the picture. He needs to separate from her LEGALLY as well.

Has he filed OP???? If you're still with him when he's divorced then approach that subject. I would think he'd happily remove a cheater from ALL photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have pics of my ex on FB. We are family. We have a kid together. I probably have other exes on there too. Doesn't mean anything.

Your kids are family with their parents. The exes certainly are not. Odd we would never consider our exes a part of our family, just the past.

OP he is very much married. This is the least of your concerns. If this all happened 8 mo. ago the divorce should be filed. If not it's time for you to stay out of the picture. He needs to separate from her LEGALLY as well.

Has he filed OP???? If you're still with him when he's divorced then approach that subject. I would think he'd happily remove a cheater from ALL photos.

[Anonymous]

11:18 - I consider him and his family "family". You don't stop being family just because you split up. Still family. I see him several times a week and see his family more than I see my own because they visit more often. He sees things the same way. He and my dad text regularly. My dad considers him the son he never had. (Despite having two actual sons, a stepson and two other sons-in-law.) Family.

OP - i wouldn't worry just yet. At least I wouldn't make this the thing that worries me. I'd be watching for other clues that he's not ready to move on with you.

[Anonymous]

Each to their own, but many don't consider the ex a part of their family.

OP when is their divorce going to be filed? What has he said regarding that???

[Anonymous]

This is strange. I am not going through FB and removing 14 years of photos to make someone feel "secure" in my love

[Anonymous]

Rebounds feel very much like REAL LOVE. The “I’ve never felt this way” “you are so much better than Ex” “I’m so glad I found you”. All very common rebound behavior and feelings.

He is still dealing with the pain and loss of his last relationship. He is using your relationship to mask the pain. But it will come back. And he will start to distance himself from you. Then he’ll either start acting like a asshole (in an attempt to get you to break up with him) or he’ll say he needs “time and space” but won’t actually break up with you because he wants you in the back burner.

This isn’t going to end well...

[Anonymous]

The only strange thing is thinking she should bring that up while married.

If I remarried or was headed that way there's no way I'd have my ex'es pics around. I personally wouldn't want to disrespect my partner. If the ex cheated they would be gone pretty quick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only strange thing is thinking she should bring that up while married.

If I remarried or was headed that way there's no way I'd have my ex'es pics around. I personally wouldn't want to disrespect my partner. If the ex cheated they would be gone pretty quick.

This. Regardless if there's children or not,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only strange thing is thinking she should bring that up while married.

If I remarried or was headed that way there's no way I'd have my ex'es pics around. I personally wouldn't want to disrespect my partner. If the ex cheated they would be gone pretty quick.

I am not spending likely hours going through 14 years of photos on FB and deleting them. The person I would chose to marry would not need that as a signal that I love and respect them, loving and respecting them would/should be enough. I would not require this of someone I loved and respected. People live a life before you meet them, deal with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only strange thing is thinking she should bring that up while married.

If I remarried or was headed that way there's no way I'd have my ex'es pics around. I personally wouldn't want to disrespect my partner. If the ex cheated they would be gone pretty quick.

I am not spending likely hours going through 14 years of photos on FB and deleting them. The person I would chose to marry would not need that as a signal that I love and respect them, loving and respecting them would/should be enough. I would not require this of someone I loved and respected. People live a life before you meet them, deal with that.

Highly doubt it would take hours. Prospective dates do research social media, and a good portion of people would think those are red flags. Why so many 2nd marriages fail.