Keeping photos of ex on facebook

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only strange thing is thinking she should bring that up while married.

If I remarried or was headed that way there's no way I'd have my ex'es pics around. I personally wouldn't want to disrespect my partner. If the ex cheated they would be gone pretty quick.

I am not spending likely hours going through 14 years of photos on FB and deleting them. The person I would chose to marry would not need that as a signal that I love and respect them, loving and respecting them would/should be enough. I would not require this of someone I loved and respected. People live a life before you meet them, deal with that.

Highly doubt it would take hours. Prospective dates do research social media, and a good portion of people would think those are red flags. Why so many 2nd marriages fail.

I am not doing it. Period. If I want to do it for my own purposes, fine, but I'm not doing it because someone is insecure and trying to control me and my social media accounts/presence. You can do and think whatever you like. The person meeting/dating/marrying me will not have those issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe no one else has asked this yet. Are there any photos of you or you with him on his Facebook? Is he out an open with your relationship? Or is he telling you that your relationship can't be revealed until the divorce goes through? If that's true and you are his secret then you have a big problem no matter how secure you think this relationship is.

This! +1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only strange thing is thinking she should bring that up while married.

If I remarried or was headed that way there's no way I'd have my ex'es pics around. I personally wouldn't want to disrespect my partner. If the ex cheated they would be gone pretty quick.

I am not spending likely hours going through 14 years of photos on FB and deleting them. The person I would chose to marry would not need that as a signal that I love and respect them, loving and respecting them would/should be enough. I would not require this of someone I loved and respected. People live a life before you meet them, deal with that.

Highly doubt it would take hours. Prospective dates do research social media, and a good portion of people would think those are red flags. Why so many 2nd marriages fail.

I am not doing it. Period. If I want to do it for my own purposes, fine, but I'm not doing it because someone is insecure and trying to control me and my social media accounts/presence. You can do and think whatever you like. The person meeting/dating/marrying me will not have those issues.

Doesn't mean potential partners are insecure or controlling. It's decreasing your odds because they may view you as still tied to your ex. If your ex is still hanging around your family, you're probably going dig even deeper to find that person who doesn't care.
Of course if you put all that in your dating profile not much they can disagree with down the road.