I now think a paddling I received in middle school 50 years ago had sexual overtones

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:During the my last four years of catholic grammar school I had Brothers and some of them were sadists. Rulers across the hand, pointers whipped across the back of your legs, lucite yard stick across the butt, face slaps. I don't know if there were sexual overtones but I wouldn't be surprised. The school eventually kicked them all out for physical abuse. I also had Brothers in HS who were not as sadistic but I was pretty sure there were sexual overtones. 40 something years later it became a scandal and some of the Brothers in my era were identified.

PP right after you but had not seen your post. That's part of the point I was making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh ffs. Go back to work.

+1

You're clearly making it bigger than necessary. TONS of people were paddled back then. That you think it had sexual overtones says more about you then the incident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have no way to know or prove what his intent or feeling was.

All you can know or prove is based on actions; the action was over-the-top by today's standards, but was probably fairly consistent with approved discipline sanctioned by schools at the time.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I don't know how paddling ever lasted in schools as long as it did.

I think it may be helpful for you to talk to a therapist.

I am 58 and nothing remotely like this was done in schools where I grew up.

I grew up in NY and we had nothing like this either, but I think it was more common in the south.

OP, I agree with the therapist idea. Maybe go find someone to talk it through with.

Absolutely. I graduated from HS in GA in 1985. Plenty of kids were paddled, mostly boys (caused more disturbances) but plenty of girls. Three whacks was the max you could get, but often the smaller female teachers would send one of us to go get the Principal (former football coach) or current football coach. To make it hurt more.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry this happened to you, it sounds humiliating and terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have no way to know or prove what his intent or feeling was.

All you can know or prove is based on actions; the action was over-the-top by today's standards, but was probably fairly consistent with approved discipline sanctioned by schools at the time.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I don't know how paddling ever lasted in schools as long as it did.

I think it may be helpful for you to talk to a therapist.

It still happens. Paddling in school is still legal in 19 states.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5766273/

DCPS needs this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have no way to know or prove what his intent or feeling was.

All you can know or prove is based on actions; the action was over-the-top by today's standards, but was probably fairly consistent with approved discipline sanctioned by schools at the time.

I'm sorry this happened to you. I don't know how paddling ever lasted in schools as long as it did.

I think it may be helpful for you to talk to a therapist.

I am 58 and nothing remotely like this was done in schools where I grew up.

Fantastic for you. I am 39 and paddling was still alive and well when I was in elementary school in the 80s/early 90s.

41 and me too, albeit private school for me.

[Anonymous]

If it is bothering you get help.

"Raise hell"? You won't get anywhere with one incident as vague as this memory. Lives are long and I think you are reflecting back through a modern lens. The Kavenauh hearings dredged up a lot, most of which is unresolvsble. Just take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

If you can't stop thinking about it, I would definitely talk to a therapist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:50 years ago, how could your memory be accurate. I would let this go.

I am 55 and I have very clear, exact memories of the times, when I was under 10, that my mom, dad, aunt, and grandfather beat the living sht out of me. Not something you ever forget.

Yes you remember the incident but the small details can be altered by your brain. You don't remember exactly, your memories do shift. Ongoing abuse in the home is different to a one time paddling at school.