Past crush is back in my life and old feelings have returned

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 months? Dump the girlfriend.

Much easier to do if he hadn’t made the stupid choice to move in with her.

Who cares? Move out. The entire point of dating is that it’s not marriage.

[Anonymous]

OP has been in his current relationship for less than a year. At this point in a relationship, you're in the honeymoon phase - even if you have been living together for 3 months. OP having such strong feelings for a crush from 10 years ago tells me that he's just not that into his current girlfriend and this isn't going to be a long term relationship. It is unfair to the current girlfriend to continue on like this. She deserves better and OP should end it - messy as it will be, it's the right thing to do.

OP, whether anything happens with this crush from 10 years ago, you need to slow the f*ck down. You shouldn't move in with someone after such a short time. WTF is wrong with you!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 months? Dump the girlfriend.

Much easier to do if he hadn’t made the stupid choice to move in with her.

Who cares? Move out. The entire point of dating is that it’s not marriage.

You can tell the people who have live in relationships are triggered by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has been in his current relationship for less than a year. At this point in a relationship, you're in the honeymoon phase - even if you have been living together for 3 months. OP having such strong feelings for a crush from 10 years ago tells me that he's just not that into his current girlfriend and this isn't going to be a long term relationship. It is unfair to the current girlfriend to continue on like this. She deserves better and OP should end it - messy as it will be, it's the right thing to do.

OP, whether anything happens with this crush from 10 years ago, you need to slow the f*ck down. You shouldn't move in with someone after such a short time. WTF is wrong with you!?

I agree he needs to slow down.

[Anonymous]

OP. Break up. Move out. Call crush. Go on a date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll try my best to answer questions. I moved in with my girlfriend a little over 3 months ago. It’s not so fast as we’re both over 30.

I say she is or was interested because we when we had lunch together she first said “ I’m glad to be working with you again.” I said “I just hope I’m not slowing you down too much.” And she said “ no worries you’ll catch up.” Which is something so said all the time back in the day.

We had lunch again this week and she said @I’m really glad we’ve been able to catch up. I’ve wondered how you were doing. It’s funny how life goes.”

To which I say “yeah it’s been good. I’m surprised you remembered me.”

Her; I couldn’t forget you.

Me: Obnoxious team member?
Her: A little bit, that has changed. I laugh. She then says “ you bing handsome and funny hasn’t changed either “

To which I say I have a girlfriend.

To which she says I’m an idiot. I say “ no you’re not. I feel the same way.” She says “you have a girlfriend “ I say yes.

Maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic, but I think this is kind of sweet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. Break up. Move out. Call crush. Go on a date.

This. You know who your heart wants.

[Anonymous]

Break up with GF b/c you are not into her. Best for her.

Realize your crush does not have any interest in you, she only apologized b/c I’m sure you hamfisted your comment about having a GF and she realized you took her friendliness as flirting

You need some time alone but sure take a swing at the crush but expect it to not work out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Break up with GF b/c you are not into her. Best for her.

Realize your crush does not have any interest in you, she only apologized b/c I’m sure you hamfisted your comment about having a GF and she realized you took her friendliness as flirting

You need some time alone but sure take a swing at the crush but expect it to not work out.

What? If OP’s description is accurate, she’s definitely interested and let it hang out there on purpose... OP, break up with the GF. Even if it doesn’t work out with the old flame, the fact you were so interested so quickly means your current GF isn’t the one for you. It’s not like you’re in a slow phase 29 years in, where maybe the excitement of an old flame got to you and doesn’t mean anything... You’re less than a year in! Unless you always get cold feet/self-sabotage, this is a clear sign that the GF is not your forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Break up with GF b/c you are not into her. Best for her.

Realize your crush does not have any interest in you, she only apologized b/c I’m sure you hamfisted your comment about having a GF and she realized you took her friendliness as flirting

You need some time alone but sure take a swing at the crush but expect it to not work out.

Clearly you’re on crack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Break up with GF b/c you are not into her. Best for her.

Realize your crush does not have any interest in you, she only apologized b/c I’m sure you hamfisted your comment about having a GF and she realized you took her friendliness as flirting

You need some time alone but sure take a swing at the crush but expect it to not work out.

What? If OP’s description is accurate, she’s definitely interested and let it hang out there on purpose... OP, break up with the GF. Even if it doesn’t work out with the old flame, the fact you were so interested so quickly means your current GF isn’t the one for you. It’s not like you’re in a slow phase 29 years in, where maybe the excitement of an old flame got to you and doesn’t mean anything... You’re less than a year in! Unless you always get cold feet/self-sabotage, this is a clear sign that the GF is not your forever.

Agreed. Crush seems interested. If may not work out long term but it’s clear current gf is not THE ONE. Break up and explore your options and don’t move in with anyone else until you have been together over a year and see yourself proposing.

[Anonymous]

I agree that the current GF is not 'the one.' You also moved in way too quickly. Don't move in with someone unless you plan to marry them. For this exact reason.

If you are not ready to get engaged to your gf now, then break up. I think the crush is both real (you have feelings for this other woman) but also a way of telling yourself you are not fully committed to gf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll try my best to answer questions. I moved in with my girlfriend a little over 3 months ago. It’s not so fast as we’re both over 30.

I say she is or was interested because we when we had lunch together she first said “ I’m glad to be working with you again.” I said “I just hope I’m not slowing you down too much.” And she said “ no worries you’ll catch up.” Which is something so said all the time back in the day.

We had lunch again this week and she said @I’m really glad we’ve been able to catch up. I’ve wondered how you were doing. It’s funny how life goes.”

To which I say “yeah it’s been good. I’m surprised you remembered me.”

Her; I couldn’t forget you.

Me: Obnoxious team member?
Her: A little bit, that has changed. I laugh. She then says “ you bing handsome and funny hasn’t changed either “

To which I say I have a girlfriend.

To which she says I’m an idiot. I say “ no you’re not. I feel the same way.” She says “you have a girlfriend “ I say yes.

Maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic, but I think this is kind of sweet.

Pretty sure his girlfriend won’t think so . Op is scum.