Has anyone here experienced limerance?

[Anonymous]

What’s the non-romantic version of it called? Is there a name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the non-romantic version of it called? Is there a name?

E.g.:fantasy parents or siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is infatuation. It will pass in a few weeks of no-contact.

If it is 5 years later and you're obsessing about some person you do not see, including obsessing for 80% of your waking hours, you have limerence. And probably need medium-term Lexapro. And a concerted effort to focus on your talents and "purpose in life."

Thanks. It sucks because I’m not looking for it. At all. And I’m doing really well in life, found a lot of happiness in the last year, so I don’t think it’s an emotional problem that is sneaking out. I think it could represent something symbolically to me. Feeling like my old cute self or something, a lot of contact with this person, total cutie. Arrghh.

I’ll be fine in a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's actually really painful. Therapy can help a little but time is the only cure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's spelled "limerence." And the phenomenon Dorothy Tennov and others are describing is not infatuation. It is intrusive, painful, disruptive, and can last for years. No one who has experienced it would wish it on their worst enemy.

The best way to get over a garden-variety infatuation is to just get with someone else.

Limerence can happen when there are obstacles preventing you from connecting with someone else and so the uncertainty and frustration of the situation is not resolved.

What a load of crap. Is this step 1 to becoming a stalker? Anyone experiencing this needs therapy. There are no relationships that are one sided. To assume you have something special with someone you don't know, or someone who isn't interested in you, is a sign of a mental problem.

[Anonymous]

I have never heard of this and am now going to pretend that I still have not.

Sounds absolutely miserable.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like people romanticizing mental illness. Glorifying this is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like people romanticizing mental illness. Glorifying this is wrong.

It sounds like you think someone has glorified or romanticized this. What made you think that?

[Anonymous]

It's a crush. No need to throw a 50 cent word at it.

[Anonymous]

OP, I’m concerned that your 2nd paragraph sort of contradicts your first. You say you want help getting past this, then ask if anyone has ever turned limerence into a real relationship. I’d recommend counseling if it’s disrupting your life and your perceptions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’m concerned that your 2nd paragraph sort of contradicts your first. You say you want help getting past this, then ask if anyone has ever turned limerence into a real relationship. I’d recommend counseling if it’s disrupting your life and your perceptions.

Thread from months ago. See new posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Np here. Old thread I know

Ugggh this has hit me for the past 4 weeks. Only two more weeks of being in contact with this guy. But it has hit me like lightning. I’m actually happier than ever otherwise.... so maybe it’s just ‘sparks.’ Trying to bottle it in and just last the two more weeks.

Have you crushed like this before or is this a new feeling for you? Time and distance are the only way to make it fade. Though it doesn’t sound like you want it to...