secretly afraid - what if it's a boy?

[Anonymous]

OP, when i was pregnant the first time, I really wanted a girl, and was super ecstatic and couldn't believe my luck when the technician told me it's a girl. Now that my girl is here, i realize, it actually wouldn't have made a difference. I would have loved a boy just as much as I love the girl. Now that i'm pregnant with no. 2, it just doesn't matter, all i want is a healthy baby - boy or girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take a look on another forum -- the TTC, trying to conceive list -- and maybe you'll realize how lucky you are to be expecting your child. What a precious gift, and all these people are obsessing over gender? You're going to be a parent, so it's time to start acting like a responsible adult.

Ahem. OP here. I have spent plenty of time on the TTC forum as this pregnancy did not happen immediately for us. I realize how fortunate I am to be expecting. That does not mean I am not allowed to have feelings and fears. I think I am acting like a responsible adult by realizing what I am feeling and dealing with it, rather than telling myself that because I'm lucky to be pregnant I have to put a smile on my face every minute of every day and pretend not to have any fears. You do realize you are advocating denial?

Many thanks to all of the other posters for their thoughtful and helpful responses. You've really helped me and given me a lot to think about.