I’m not attracted to my husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.

five weeks. wait until its 5 months,.. in in the same boat. My DH doesn't;t even initiate.

5 years checking in.

--A DW turned AP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.

If the first part of this sentence before the "but" is true...then the second part is false, OP. You DO know what to do...you just don't want to do it.

Sex is not optional in a healthy marriage. It is integral. If you love your husband and want your marriage to survive, you will have sex with him, EVEN IF you are not attracted to him. Full stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.

five weeks. wait until its 5 months,.. in in the same boat. My DH doesn't;t even initiate.

5 years checking in.

--A DW turned AP

Are you interviewing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.

five weeks. wait until its 5 months,.. in in the same boat. My DH doesn't;t even initiate.

5 years checking in.

--A DW turned AP

5 years??!! You realize DH has an AP too, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.

five weeks. wait until its 5 months,.. in in the same boat. My DH doesn't;t even initiate.

5 years checking in.

--A DW turned AP

5 years??!! You realize DH has an AP too, right?

Not necessarily. trust me on this.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. trust me on this.

If you two have not had sex is this long, he has an AP. It just may not be a woman.

[Anonymous]

Ask him to care for his teeth better and gently explain that it would be a turn off for anyone. After he gets teeth cleaned up, have a glass of wine, turn off the lights and imagine that you are with some hunk you are attracted to...