How much does past cheating matter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why the hell doesn't she just RSVP no and be done with it???

This. She’s still immature. “So sorry, this trip isn’t in our budget right now”. Done.

OP here, and I agree to a point. Diane says Stacy feels that because it is a destination wedding that was planned a year in advance that everyone has had time to get it in their calendars and budgets, and is laying down heavy guilt.

Also, contrary to the charming and helpful poster who called us trailer trash, a trip like this actually isn't out of budget for them - they do something similar a couple of times a year, usually. Diane feels that if she uses budget as her excuse that they won't be able to take another vacation this year, because if they do the bride will say "well, you had the money, you just chose to spend it on a different trip." Which I think would be lousy of the bride, and I don't see why Diane would knuckle under to, which is where I agree about the immaturity.

[Anonymous]

She is a ut. She should stop blaming guy and take responsibility for her own actions. Personally, I do not understand why she was even invited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: None of this is any of your business. You are oddly invested in this. I think you have it out for Diane. Let me guess she was or is involved with a guy you liked who picked her instead of you? She’s everyone’s darling and you can’t wait for her downfall.

No, and no. Diane is a good friend and every time we've gotten together lately she brings this up, and is very agitated, to the point of getting tearful. At one point she asked me if I'd go to the wedding with her instead of her husband. I don't want to do that, but it has become such a "thing" with how much she talks about it and how upset she gets, that our friend group has started to discuss it, and, as I mentioned in my first post, has very divided opinions.

She sounds like an immature drama queen. I suggest you all tell her to figure it out on her own and ignore her regarding this issue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why the hell doesn't she just RSVP no and be done with it???

This. She’s still immature. “So sorry, this trip isn’t in our budget right now”. Done.

OP here, and I agree to a point. Diane says Stacy feels that because it is a destination wedding that was planned a year in advance that everyone has had time to get it in their calendars and budgets, and is laying down heavy guilt.

Also, contrary to the charming and helpful poster who called us trailer trash, a trip like this actually isn't out of budget for them - they do something similar a couple of times a year, usually. Diane feels that if she uses budget as her excuse that they won't be able to take another vacation this year, because if they do the bride will say "well, you had the money, you just chose to spend it on a different trip." Which I think would be lousy of the bride, and I don't see why Diane would knuckle under to, which is where I agree about the immaturity.

The bride is clearly a problem, but Diane is an adult. She needs to act like an adult and own it. Obviously she doesn't like to face problems head on (given her history of infidelity) but she needs to. She doesn't even need to give a reason. A simple "I'm sorry, we can't go" should suffice. And then send a gift. And then be done with it.