Violated no contact agreement via group political text. Next step?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need a legally enforceable restraining order from the person himself. How is a former employer supposed to enforce this? Go to the police or file for an order in court.

Keeping a record will not help much at this point, but yes, you should do it.

DO NOT HAVE THE STEPFATHER GO TALK TO THIS PERSON. He can say he is being harassed.

This. This. THIS.

[Anonymous]

I think the easiest thing to do here if she doesn’t want to involve the police is change the phone number.

Do not send someone to threaten him as that could backfire on your family.

[Anonymous]

Block his number. And get on with your life. There's not much else that you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a co-worker who recently went through a harassment / stalking case.

It sounds like:
1. Your DD was the victim of an assault from a client of her company.
2. She settled (?) with her employer as the employer chose to keep the client [over protecting employees?]
3. The settlement was all an agreement between her and her employer but did not involve police?

Now 2 years later she gets a text and is concerned.

Based on what my co-worker lived through with aggressive stalking after a harassment case, I highly recommend that she keeps records and file a police complaint. There needs to be a police record - even if they say they can't do anything.

Do not have her step father talk to the person. Talk to the police 1st. Block the number. Make sure that her privacy settings on all things are set at the right levels.

This is correct. At the time, she was happy to get anything at all from them as she had worked there less than six months.

She did not go to the police because she was afraid of he said/she said after a friend in college went through a harrowing court case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One thing to keep in mind is that at this point, he has no idea if she changed her number, right? He doesn't knwo if she even got the message. I'm assuming there are no current mututal contacts who would confirm her current number for him.

If she does anything, he has the satisfaction/charge of knowing he made contact. If she can bloack him and he doesn't get an alert from the block, that might be the least stimulating response. He wouldn't be able to tell the difference from her having changed that number years ago, anyway.

No mutuals. This is a good point. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Block his number. And get on with your life. There's not much else that you can do.

+1. Why the drama? She already blocked him. Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just block his number.

+1. Your daughter sounds like a drama queen. Why wouldn’t she block his number the first time?

Agree

She did not have his number saved in her phone to block it. When she got the first text, she had no idea it was him. When the second text came, another person responded using his name in the text. And she knew then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just block his number.

+1. Your daughter sounds like a drama queen. Why wouldn’t she block his number the first time?

Agree

Stop blaming the victim. Let me guess, you don't believe Christine Blasey Ford, do you? Ugh people like you disgust me.

[Anonymous]

Breaking a no contact order sounds like the first step to a lifetime seat on the Supreme Court.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were in her shoes, I'd still change the number.

X1000 this is about her emotional and possibly physical safety. Absolutely change the number.

[Anonymous]

I think I would speak to a lawyer and/or the police before blocking him. If she blocks him she will have no idea if he continues to text her, or tries to call, and documentation of those contacts may be needed if she's going to pursue any kind of legal or criminal resolution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I would speak to a lawyer and/or the police before blocking him. If she blocks him she will have no idea if he continues to text her, or tries to call, and documentation of those contacts may be needed if she's going to pursue any kind of legal or criminal resolution.

But if she blocks the number...and thus isn’t getting any communication from him...isn’t that the whole point? Who cares if he’s trying as long as there is no actual contact? Why would you purposely make this more complicated than it needs to be?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would speak to a lawyer and/or the police before blocking him. If she blocks him she will have no idea if he continues to text her, or tries to call, and documentation of those contacts may be needed if she's going to pursue any kind of legal or criminal resolution.

But if she blocks the number...and thus isn’t getting any communication from him...isn’t that the whole point? Who cares if he’s trying as long as there is no actual contact? Why would you purposely make this more complicated than it needs to be?

I'm the PP You're quoting, and while I get blocking him removes the immediate issue, if he's assaulted her once to the point of hospitalization (if I read the thread correctly) already, my thought was that they are afraid he may pose a continued physical threat. If that's the case, it seems to me that it would be better not to cut off the one easy insight they have to his state of mind.

[Anonymous]

You should change your DDs number and teach her to take preventative safety measures.

[Anonymous]

I’d get a lawyer and have them look over the settlement agreement. I hope your DD got a large sum of money.