Boyfriend I don't approve of

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if she is not home, that is your fault

Wrong. Do you even have a teen 16+?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if she is not home, that is your fault

This is helpful how?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
2. Relative in another state. Putting distance between them will help more than anything.

OT but how many of us would agree to house a troubled teen relative in our house? I guess I'm not a loving relative because I really don't think I would want to deal with the stress and bad influence on my kids of hosting a troubled teen relative for an extended period of time.

[Anonymous]

Maybe try what the mom did in the Parenthood movie. Love this man. Invite him to live with you. Get him into some vocational training. Sign him up for drug treatment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, she did not come home last night, I can't track her phone as it is turned off. She is on the pill and she in an alternative school, when she goes. Boarding school sounds great, and I think going with the getting her away from the area is what I will focus on.

He is homeless and not tied to family here, he will follow wherever you go, or she goes. Be prepared for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, she did not come home last night, I can't track her phone as it is turned off. She is on the pill and she in an alternative school, when she goes. Boarding school sounds great, and I think going with the getting her away from the area is what I will focus on.

He is homeless and not tied to family here, he will follow wherever you go, or she goes. Be prepared for that.

Sounds like he has a relationship with his dealer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
2. Relative in another state. Putting distance between them will help more than anything.

OT but how many of us would agree to house a troubled teen relative in our house? I guess I'm not a loving relative because I really don't think I would want to deal with the stress and bad influence on my kids of hosting a troubled teen relative for an extended period of time.

Depends on what the troubles are and how old the teen is and whether I have my own kids living at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, yeah, I dated that guy through my twenties. The more you dig in the more she will retrench. Just give it time.

Same. This was my on and off boyfriend all though high school. My parents hated it and gave me every lecture possible and forbid me to see him at times. Other times they tried to get to know him and would invite him over for dinner then later tell me how he wasn’t a bad person just not good for me etc. Nothing could have kept us apart for those years. Eventually I went away to college and he moved out of the area. I saw him a couple times during my freshman year of college but then met someone else at school and moved on with my life. These were before the days of social media and cell phones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get her on birth control ASAP!!!! I would take away any privileges she has that you pay for.Phone, car, clothes, allowance, etc.

Birth control would be the top of my priority list too. Not the pill. A shot or implant.

IUD, 100% first priority