+1. I don't think the daycare's position is unreasonable. If there are only a limited number of staff guaranteed to be in that 2 year old room at one time and they do not feel they can get OP's child out and the other child out safely with those ratios they should try to figure out another solution. In the worst case, a staff member might be so occupied by your child that she might lose another child, or the staff member might be busy with several screaming children in in the chaos not be able to carry out your child. I would not push this, for everyone's sake. One idea is for you to pay for a 1:1 shadow if you feel strongly about her being in that room. You could also wait it out a bit and work on the scooting idea which, again, is a reasonable suggestion. If there's another classroom that's more accessible and they can just switch the two classes, I think that would be reasonable, too, and you could suggest that to the daycare What's not reasonable is for them to hire an extra person just to be able to help your DD manage the stairs in case of an emergency. |
That doesn't include hiring a 1:1 aide. However, if a parent pays for the aide, the daycare would have to try to accommodate that. |
I do not see how an aide is needed when the only concern is within 1 minute that could never actually be used. |
I'm sorry, but this is exactly NOT what the ADA means -- yes, in some circumstances a 1-1 aide is required because the accommodation that is necessary is so complex that it requires 1 person's attention all the time, but that is NOT the case here. Your response is classic stigmatic one that places an extreme financial burden on a the special needs parent and as a result has the result of excluding the disabled person from full and equal participation in public amenities. The ADA was designed to shift that burden where reasonable accommodations could be made. We are talking about 1 kid, out of 8, maximum, who can walk but needs their hand held on the stairs in the unlikely event of a fire drill or real fire. If your daycare cannot handle that minor accommodation, because they are so busy with other 2 year olds, then I would seriously question whether they have a good evacuation plan. The teachers must accompany the kids out of the room and if they cannot hold even 1 child's hands, then there is a problem. |
OP's child cannot walk down stairs at all, even holding a hand. |
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OP here. I don't see where I said I need an aide. That would be a huge financial burden and so unnecessary. The school said they would be able to carry her down/up the stairs to go outside twice a day. That it would be no problem. But now they are saying they are worried about doing that in an emergency.
A few have suggested moving the 2 year olds downstairs but there is no space. Currently the 2, 3 and 4-5 year olds are upstairs with two sets of stairs, including a few very small businesses in the building. I feel like an actual emergency would be a nightmare situation. |
I don't see how you can say that evacuating in an emergency would be a nightmare even without a staff member needing to carrying your child, but then say it shouldn't be a big deal if one of their staff members has to carry your child rather than helping a whole group get down stairs. |
Both scenarios would be a nightmare. Maybe the bigger issue is they have 8:1 ratio which is terrible for a 2 story school. Especially after I learn DC is 4:1 and MD is 6:1, I thought we were 8:1 b/c that was all that was needed. |
So even if they give you the accommodations you want, you still have serious concerns about your child's safety. It sounds like maybe you should find a different daycare. |
You don't need a "rescue carry" to take a 2 year old down a flight of stairs, unless there are other complications like a child who is attached to heavy medical equipment. A 2 year old can ride on a teacher's hip. Having a 2 year old in an infant room is not a reasonable accommodation. There is so much evidence that children need age appropriate peers and experiences to grow their skills, so she belongs in the two year old room. In this case, the reasonable accommodation is that the teacher carries her down the stairs. |
They aren't putting her in an infant room. They want to keep her in a toddler room, which children ages 13-23 (or so) months. |
As a former preschool teacher, I can tell you that an actual fire with me in the building would be one of my worst nightmares, first floor or second, carrying or not. But, I can't see how having a kid on one hip would change that. I'd still be leading a line or following the end of the line of little people either way. 8:1 is not a good ratio. Not because of emergencies, but because day to day it's not enough staffing to both meet kids needs and interact and teach. I would be concerned about that. |
Placing her in a room with kids who are not her age is not a reasonable accommodation. |
OP here, like I have said, there are no daycares with immediate openings in our area or waitlists that aren't huge. There is one that is new I can tour, I am so happy with this school accommodating her in every other way. They have never complained about her PT coming in weekly and are so eager to help her get around otherwise. I would really hate to leave them, which is why I made this post, I really want to make this work. |
So what do you do when one of the kids in your line trips and falls and needs your help to get up? Do you put down OP'd kid to help that one, then pick her up again and slow up the whole group? What if the child is sufficiently injured that they can't/won't walk the rest of the way, can you still effectively monitor six walking children while carrying two children? Do you leave the kid that fell behind? Let the other kids go ahead and hope they get out on their own? Realistically, if they know a staff member will have to carry a particular child in an emergency because that child cannot get him/herself out of the building on their own two feet, you need to take that person out of the equation for everyone else. |