Open relationship

[Anonymous]

Nothing "ethical" about it, Op. You are gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What did you hope to achieve by opening up the relationship? Who first suggested it? Was the thrill of sleeping with women without your wife there really worth this? It seems like you were already able to do whatever you wanted with other women, right? What was the big downer about having your wife there?

I can definitely understand things from the woman's perspective, just not sure what big difference it would have made to you.

He thought he had a little game but quickly found out otherwise.

I still don't understand the point. He already had permission to bang other women. What did he want to do with them that he couldn't do in front of his wife?

[Anonymous]

Fetlife

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, married man who was in your shoes. Wife had a lot of dates, I didn't have so many, which wasn't a big surprise although if we were both single I would have zero trouble attracting high quality women.

The problem is obvious: in general, women don't want "just sex" which is what you are basically advertising. In general, men love "just sex" which is what your wife is advertising.

Now, the way I got more interest was to advertise for more of a relationship. Meaning, to level the playing field, I had to be allowed to open up the relationship to allow me to take other women on awesome dates, overnights in fancy hotels, even a weekend away. I had many more women interested in this. The problem was, my wife was jealous of the fact I was planning a NYC weekend with one very attractive woman I met. It wasn't just the emotional intimacy, but the money we were going to spend.

Point being, just "opening" the marriage for sex isn't really a fair trade for men (unless you get off on your wife getting off with others). To be fair for both, your wife needs to let you bond emotionally and financially with other women, and the hot sex will follow. Will she?

This is true.

[mybestlife]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think being in your situation is challenging. Most single women are not looking for a married man. The only small advice I can give is to ditch your wedding ring when not out with your wife. I'm not sure where one can go to find other married people in open marriages. I feel like open married woman should be your target.

I'm an open married woman. I'd be happy to chat, if you'd like.

Thanks for the offer. I'd be happy to chat with you as well. Do you have a account here...I do for explicit relationship board. Maybe we can DM there.

You can DM me at mybestlife

[Anonymous]

mybestlife wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think being in your situation is challenging. Most single women are not looking for a married man. The only small advice I can give is to ditch your wedding ring when not out with your wife. I'm not sure where one can go to find other married people in open marriages. I feel like open married woman should be your target.

I'm an open married woman. I'd be happy to chat, if you'd like.

Thanks for the offer. I'd be happy to chat with you as well. Do you have a account here...I do for explicit relationship board. Maybe we can DM there.

You can DM me at mybestlife

DM sent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing "ethical" about it, Op. You are gross.

Why is it gross? Two adults communicate about what they would like to do with their sex lives openly without cheating on each other. I think they are more mature and approaching it like grown ups than all the affairs we read about happening all over. Shit did you read the woman finding a hotel charge on her husband's credit card. Now she's going crazy. At least these two know what the other is up to and no one is getting butt hurt over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing "ethical" about it, Op. You are gross.

It is ethical. It's all in the open with consenting adults. OP is actually being ethical by advertising that he is married.

That life is not for me and my wife but I don't see anything wrong with it.

But OP, you should've known that your DW would have no problem finding a man to sleep with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, married man who was in your shoes. Wife had a lot of dates, I didn't have so many, which wasn't a big surprise although if we were both single I would have zero trouble attracting high quality women.

The problem is obvious: in general, women don't want "just sex" which is what you are basically advertising. In general, men love "just sex" which is what your wife is advertising.

Now, the way I got more interest was to advertise for more of a relationship. Meaning, to level the playing field, I had to be allowed to open up the relationship to allow me to take other women on awesome dates, overnights in fancy hotels, even a weekend away. I had many more women interested in this. The problem was, my wife was jealous of the fact I was planning a NYC weekend with one very attractive woman I met. It wasn't just the emotional intimacy, but the money we were going to spend.

Point being, just "opening" the marriage for sex isn't really a fair trade for men (unless you get off on your wife getting off with others). To be fair for both, your wife needs to let you bond emotionally and financially with other women, and the hot sex will follow. Will she?

This is spot on 100% the truth. Women agree to sex in order to have a relationship. Men agree to a relationship in order to have sex. See the problem there? Revise the terms so you can offer some semblance of a relationship, this is the key to attracting women for sex.

Yup, this

Human biology 101