Husband falls off radar when he goes to visit family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The consensus seems to be that it is unreasonable to ask him to call once a day, so I'll ask him to text me about how DS is doing instead. That's fine. I just find it annoying 2 or more times a day when I am at work to discuss absolutely nothing. But when he is with his parents, he doesn't call at all or take my calls - granted his dad is annoying and talks endlessly, so perhaps he just needs a break.

You are the one annoying him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You might as well have titled this thread "The Whole World Ought to Revolve Around Me."

OP, he's dealing with a stressful family dynamic, and is kind enough to do it without involving you. Instead of appreciating that, you're putting additional demands on him and making the experience even worse. You are being exactly the opposite of a loving, kind, supportive spouse. If it's that important to you to have daily check-ins, perhaps you could ask him the easiest way to make that happen (e.g., could you check in by text after he goes to bed).

Marriage sounds awesome. Where do I sign up?

If it's that awful to imagine sometimes being supportive and understanding toward another person rather than putting every whim and desire of your own first, you definitely shouldn't get married.

[Anonymous]

I’m finding these answers really shocking. I don’t think checking in for a few minutes each Day is at all unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m finding these answers really shocking. I don’t think checking in for a few minutes each Day is at all unreasonable.

+1

I don’t think it’s a big deal to want to check in with my one’s young child once a day. Though if it’s not actually a week-long trip but a week here and there, then I’d just let it go. And enjoy the break!