Perfect amount if sex?

[Anonymous]

I can’t imagine wanting sex with someone who isn’t enthusiastic about it. - divorced woman who has a lot of enthusiastic sex

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced single 43yr old female—with kids.
I try to have it twice a week but I always want more. Scheduling is a bitch when you’re divorced and single and the primary physical parent of two little kids.

I'm curious with whom you are scheduling it.

Why?

I’m curious too. It’s so we can learn where to get sex when divorced on the regular. What’s the secret?

Yes, let us know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are the unicorns who are both fairly happy with once a week. (I used to want more, before kids, but now it works great.)

This is us to. My DH might say he would like a little more and I might say a little less but we are both happy with once a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t imagine wanting sex with someone who isn’t enthusiastic about it. - divorced woman who has a lot of enthusiastic sex

How is this even relevant to your situation?

[Anonymous]

I'm fine with once a week and if it gets past ten days I initiate it. I'm sure my DH would like it at least twice a week but I don't hear a lot of complaining or even moaning because when I'm ready I'm all in. FYI - we are in our 60's.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I have been married a long time and we eventually found that once or maybe twice a week was good for us because we both seemed to get more into it then when it was 3-4 times a week. The reduced frequency led to much longer foreplay which led to much hotter total sex. I'm sure my DH would like that same quality of sex 2-3 times a week but he knows it won't happen.

[Anonymous]

We are really not that steady in frequency. We may go months only having sex once a week, and we may go months where we have sex every day. It kind of depends on how things are going in our marriage, and it really depends on DH. If he can keep his grumpy thoughts and moods to himself and “enthusiastically “ participate in our family life, then we fight less and have sex more often. If we are sort of annoyed with each other when we go to bed, then we have sex less often.

[Anonymous]

Four times per week for me— 38 year old female. I get grumpy if there are too many days in between.

[Anonymous]

I get it 1-2x per year and want it 3-4x per week. Yes, we have a major disconnect.

[Anonymous]

43 year old married dad, my ideal would be 4-6x a week if we were more experimental and kinky,but the more tame life we have is fine 2x a week. We do it 1x per week which is wife's ideal. I don't like pity sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:43 year old married dad, my ideal would be 4-6x a week if we were more experimental and kinky,but the more tame life we have is fine 2x a week. We do it 1x per week which is wife's ideal. I don't like pity sex

Another husband here. I'd like more frequency but if my wife isn't enthusiastic it's not worth it. We may only average once a week but she never just lays there.....it's the exact opposite.

[Anonymous]

I am totally jealous of most of you. I am in the a few times a year category. My DS always makes excuses and it stinks. When we do have sex, it’s all great and then there is a second or third outing soon thereafter. And then DS packs it in. I am a total horny mess. Up until a few years ago, lots of attractive folks still hit on me, hard. I am now a frustrated mess, literally and figuratively. DS is now using that as an excuse to say no.

I never thought my life would take this turn. While it is not everything, lack of sex and sexual rejection just stinks.

At least there is porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am totally jealous of most of you. I am in the a few times a year category. My DS always makes excuses and it stinks. When we do have sex, it’s all great and then there is a second or third outing soon thereafter. And then DS packs it in. I am a total horny mess. Up until a few years ago, lots of attractive folks still hit on me, hard. I am now a frustrated mess, literally and figuratively. DS is now using that as an excuse to say no.

I never thought my life would take this turn. While it is not everything, lack of sex and sexual rejection just stinks.

At least there is porn.

Just so I’m clear, you’re having sex with your son??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am totally jealous of most of you. I am in the a few times a year category. My DS always makes excuses and it stinks. When we do have sex, it’s all great and then there is a second or third outing soon thereafter. And then DS packs it in. I am a total horny mess. Up until a few years ago, lots of attractive folks still hit on me, hard. I am now a frustrated mess, literally and figuratively. DS is now using that as an excuse to say no.

I never thought my life would take this turn. While it is not everything, lack of sex and sexual rejection just stinks.

At least there is porn.

Just so I’m clear, you’re having sex with your son??

I'm pretty sure S stands for spouse.....but I could be wrong!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd like to know how much sex you are having and what everyone considers the perfect amount of sex is in a marriage or other long term relationship.

I dont mean how much you would like to have, but how much makes you happy.

I'm sure the will be a big discrepency in what men think is pefect and what women think.

My husband and I probably average 2-3 times a week. I know he would like more but I just cant do it 2 days in a row anymore.

I think our perfect number is probably 3.

Ideally?

I’m horny before daybreak every morning. Ideally, one of us would roll over and we’d have sleepy, married middle-aged couple sex every single day. Realistically, I wake up and before I can think clearly enough, DH jumps up and goes for his run.

2-3 a week works for us.