Perfect amount if sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced single 43yr old female—with kids.
I try to have it twice a week but I always want more. Scheduling is a bitch when you’re divorced and single and the primary physical parent of two little kids.

I'm curious with whom you are scheduling it.

[Anonymous]

50yo man here. Perfect for me would be 3-4X per week. Perfect for her is 3-4X per year. (not a typo). We compromised to 2X per week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced single 43yr old female—with kids.
I try to have it twice a week but I always want more. Scheduling is a bitch when you’re divorced and single and the primary physical parent of two little kids.

I'm curious with whom you are scheduling it.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Perfect for my husband would be 2-3 times a week. I'd be happy with once a month. We compromise on once a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. For me, twice a week is the bare minimum for a satisfactory sex life. Once a week (minus her period week) is what I get. That's like slowly starving to death.

She'd be happy with once a month. With me, at least.

This summarized what I hate about married sex. It’s becomes about obligation instead of desire. “Slowly starving to death”. Oh the drama!

I am a very horny woman. I still don’t want to be treated like a daily or weekly routine biological function. I want to miss my partner and be really *hungry* by the time we do it again. Not feel like a whiny man baby is going to be grumpy without using me for his daily orgasm like a kleenex. Which is what married sex seems like.

You sound...unhinged.

No, she is hilarious, and right on the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perfect for my husband would be 2-3 times a week. I'd be happy with once a month. We compromise on once a week.

Honey, is that you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. For me, twice a week is the bare minimum for a satisfactory sex life. Once a week (minus her period week) is what I get. That's like slowly starving to death.

She'd be happy with once a month. With me, at least.

This summarized what I hate about married sex. It’s becomes about obligation instead of desire. “Slowly starving to death”. Oh the drama!

I am a very horny woman. I still don’t want to be treated like a daily or weekly routine biological function. I want to miss my partner and be really *hungry* by the time we do it again. Not feel like a whiny man baby is going to be grumpy without using me for his daily orgasm like a kleenex. Which is what married sex seems like.

You sound...unhinged.

No, she is hilarious, and right on the money.

I'm guessing you're right there with her.

[Anonymous]

This thread reminds me of conversations I've had with my DW where she tells me that her preferred frequency is the same as a few of her girlfriends, as though that should be the final word on the matter.

My reply is that it's not important what's going on in other couples' bedrooms, it only matters what's going on in ours. If one of us isn't happy with our sex life it's a problem for both of us, whether the other person thinks it is or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread reminds me of conversations I've had with my DW where she tells me that her preferred frequency is the same as a few of her girlfriends, as though that should be the final word on the matter.

My reply is that it's not important what's going on in other couples' bedrooms, it only matters what's going on in ours. If one of us isn't happy with our sex life it's a problem for both of us, whether the other person thinks it is or not.

And how did that go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread reminds me of conversations I've had with my DW where she tells me that her preferred frequency is the same as a few of her girlfriends, as though that should be the final word on the matter.

My reply is that it's not important what's going on in other couples' bedrooms, it only matters what's going on in ours. If one of us isn't happy with our sex life it's a problem for both of us, whether the other person thinks it is or not.

And how did that go?

About how you might imagine it did.

[Anonymous]

Sex? Weekly? I would be happy with once a week. Its more like 2-3/year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50yo man here. Perfect for me would be 3-4X per week. Perfect for her is 3-4X per year. (not a typo). We compromised to 2X per week.

Im not judging you but its occured to me that messages we send to single women, espcially college women is that no one should engage in sex unless you are certain you are getting an "enthusiastic yes" from her or else its not truly consensual. but for married women, its the exact opposite-just do it even if you don't want to. Because it makes HIM happy. We would never approve of that marriage to younger women just dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50yo man here. Perfect for me would be 3-4X per week. Perfect for her is 3-4X per year. (not a typo). We compromised to 2X per week.

Im not judging you but its occured to me that messages we send to single women, espcially college women is that no one should engage in sex unless you are certain you are getting an "enthusiastic yes" from her or else its not truly consensual. but for married women, its the exact opposite-just do it even if you don't want to. Because it makes HIM happy. We would never approve of that marriage to younger women just dating.

message, not marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50yo man here. Perfect for me would be 3-4X per week. Perfect for her is 3-4X per year. (not a typo). We compromised to 2X per week.

Im not judging you but its occured to me that messages we send to single women, espcially college women is that no one should engage in sex unless you are certain you are getting an "enthusiastic yes" from her or else its not truly consensual. but for married women, its the exact opposite-just do it even if you don't want to. Because it makes HIM happy. We would never approve of that marriage to younger women just dating.

message, not marriage

You seem confused about the difference between marriage and dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Divorced single 43yr old female—with kids.
I try to have it twice a week but I always want more. Scheduling is a bitch when you’re divorced and single and the primary physical parent of two little kids.

I'm curious with whom you are scheduling it.

Why?

I’m curious too. It’s so we can learn where to get sex when divorced on the regular. What’s the secret?