Girlfriend Turned Me Down.

[Anonymous]

Read up on Sliding vs Deciding.
Do not move in together unless you are pretty sure you are going to marry her

https://medium.com/@writingsolo/sliding-vs-deciding-inertia-and-feeling-old-fashioned-c2716a4864db

[Anonymous]

Your girlfriend is SO right. I've lived with boyfriends before. It's a mistake. You need to be together because you want to be together, not because you don't want to have to move. Living together can create inertia - not getting engaged or not breaking up. She is so right and her decision does not mean she doesn't like you. Don't get engaged or move in together yet. Give it another 6 to 10 months, then get engaged, then move in together.

[Anonymous]

She didn't turn you down. She turned down, wisely, the idea of living with someone she's not engaged to.

[Anonymous]

OP, You seem to be on a pretty good schedule here. She renews for a year. By then either you are ready to propose or one of you will have already moved on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds smart. Consider that.

No, she doesn’t. It’s too early for her to move it, but she wants a ring. She seems like a gold digger. I would take my money and run, OP. She’s the type that will start expecting a 3+ carat ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, You seem to be on a pretty good schedule here. She renews for a year. By then either you are ready to propose or one of you will have already moved on.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds smart. Consider that.

No, she doesn’t. It’s too early for her to move it, but she wants a ring. She seems like a gold digger. I would take my money and run, OP. She’s the type that will start expecting a 3+ carat ring.

Saying that she won't move in with him until they are engaged is not the same thing as saying she is ready to be engaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, You seem to be on a pretty good schedule here. She renews for a year. By then either you are ready to propose or one of you will have already moved on.

+1

+2

It's actually the perfect schedule. Ignore the idiots saying she is a gold digger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people also view living together as a really big commitment, and it sounds like your girlfriend is one of them (hence not wanting to move in together until you're engaged). Just as you're not ready to make a big commitment at six months, you can't demand that she make one she's not ready for either.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'm with you, OP. It's best to live together before marriage and being together for as long as you have, it's high time. I consider 6 months a long time, unlike some on this board.

However, if you feel she's holding out for a more traditional set-up, you can always try proposing and see how that goes down - because an engagement can always be rescinded at no cost...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if she won’t move in without a ring, tell her you can’t get married without a contract starting weekly sex and blowjobs. It’s only fair.

I don't know who you are but, how you determine what is fair is pretty wacky. Blow jobs and weekly sex is a privilege not a right. She is not agreeing to be his sex slave!

So she doesn't want to move in. She sounds smart as op could decide to kick her out when the relationship is over and she doesn't have a place to live. Just because you get engaged doesn't mean you get married the next week but, it does signal commitment.