Teen going away from home to train
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Anonymous
That is a myth. |
Anonymous
That ballet teachers are mostly female? Or that male ballet dancer in the US are mostly gay? |
Anonymous
That male ballet dancers are mostly gay. |
Anonymous
Your reading comprehension is poor. "Little" is different than "no". Your need to proove this is also a bit disturbing and says a lot about you--nothing good, though. |
Anonymous
Did you read the link about the Canadian Youth hockey program? It is a widespread issue in Canada youth hockey in the program that produces most of their NHL players. Here is a quote from the article about a survey done of Canadian Olympic athletes, including many of their hockey players: "What Canada is awakening to is that sexual abuse of children, a global societal ill, extends to sports - including hockey, Kirby says. Her research, released at a conference last summer prior to the Atlanta Olympics, showed that more than 50 of the 266 athletes surveyed - all of whom were competing for Canada - had had sexual intercourse with a coach or someone in authority. Some said they had been forced. One in 5 was under age 16 when the act occurred. More than 90 percent of the cases involved female athletes." |
Anonymous
+1 not sure of this is ballet you're talking about. But my cousin went to NYC for ballet at 16, and my mom and I moved there to be with her. She ended up switching to modern but danced professionally in Europe and is now a choreographer. She's still really close to my mom and me and shudders at what could have happened had my mom not been there. Lots of horror stories. Not just sexual abuse but eating disorders, OCD, etc. Being a teenager is hard enough without adding on being a teenager apprenticing for a profession. |
Anonymous
I can offer you some perspective both from my POV and from that of my best friend whose son went the same time as mine. My DS went to a (very good and rather well known) boarding school in NE to play hockey as well as another sport. The academics are very good, and we looked at 6 other schools prior to selecting this one. He was admitted to all of that, as he is a good student in addition to being a good athlete--we're fortunate in that respect. Also fortunate in that he did not get homesick. (I was a different story, however--I cried a lot for the first several weeks, even though I have more kids at home). Boarding schools have quite a few breaks, he came home for most. I flew up a lot to see him, and that helped. He was not a freshman, so a bit older than your DC. My friend's son also went to New England to play hockey, but not to a boarding school. He did online school and stayed with a host family. The living situation was not great, as the host family basically was not there and he virtually ended up living with a couple of other kids on his own. His parents flew up a lot to see him, and ensured he had plenty of money for food, etc. He had his own car (boy was 16 when he got there) and made sure he got himself to his practices and games. His mother had to be much more "hands on" from a distance and was definitely more worried on a daily basis than I was, since my DS was in a more structured environment at a boarding school. I never thought of sending DS to a boarding school until the opportunity arose and he wanted to do it. We then started looking into it and let him. It's hard to say no if it seems to be the right thing for your child, which only you and your family know. Keeping them at home because you want to without good reason struck me as selfish--I had no good reason other than I wanted him home full time another couple of years. But it's been good, and he's home more than I thought--and I see him more than I thought. When he's with us, he wants to be there. He's thankful we let him go. |
Anonymous
Being a teenager is hard but I can't imagine preventing my child from reaching for his dreams just because of my own fears. |
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Anonymous
PP, and I totally agree with you. Pursue those dreams but safely! |
Anonymous
I hope your kids don't swim--everyone knows that if your kids live at home and swim, they're likely to be abused, especially around here. https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/ex-swimming-coach-rick-curl-to-be-sentenced-in-child-sex-abuse-case/2013/05/23/d80320f2-c3a5-11e2-9fe2-6ee52d0eb7c1_story.html?utm_term=.d29dbb99359c Seriously, stop. |
Anonymous
| I did this. I was sexually abused just twice. I was lucky! |
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If it is ballet, I would only consider it if the school is SAB, and even there, I would be visiting frequently. Very frequently.
I have heàrd a lot of bad things about practically every other ballet program where kids go away. Not necessarily abuse, but poor supervision and kids doing things they wouldn't be doing if they were with parents. Most of these programs are not like a boarding school that is focused on the well being of the students. |
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Yes, the last quote was a general comment about the youth involved in high intensity training. The victims included hockey players. So if 10% of the 50 victims were male, that means there were 5 males sexually abused by their coaches of the olympic players surveyed. A plural number of those 5 males were hockey players. Lets be conservative and say that it was 2 male hockey player abused. That means that 40% of the male Canadian male olympic athletes in that sample group were hockey players. That is a high percentage. You posted that sexual abuse almost never happens in hockey (but does happen in ballet). I googled youth abuse hockey, and many different cases came up, including this large scandal with the Canadian youth hockey program. You posted incorrect information. I provided a few links, which made you crazy defensive. An appropriate response would be "Wow. I had no ides. I guess it happens everywhere." Not getting defensive and burying your head further in the sand. And I am going to go out on a limb and say that victims in a masculine sport like hockey are probably far less likely to report abuse due to fear of the perceived stigma of being labeled gay." It took tremendous courage for the young women gymnasts to speak out, and many only did it because of feeling strength and support from the Me Too movement. Guys don't have that support or strength. It takes a movement to give many that kind of courage, like Me Too or the support of clergy victims a decade ago. Don't be so quick to shout "It almost never happens in hockey." It most likely is that it almost never gets reported.
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Anonymous
JFC, start your own thread about abuse in hockey and stop derailing this one. |