splitting a house - do you split by rooms, or people?

[Anonymous]

It’s only fair to do it by room if the rooms are equal. We don’t have kids but we regularly go away with two other couples (also childless). Last year we each paid equally, but DH and I got stuck with a room that had no door (we had to hang a sheet over it) and the tiniest bathroom that didn’t even have hooks to hang anything on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you split this? 5 bedroom, 10 person house- adults and older kids (no babies).

Group 1 (2 adults, 2 teens)
Group 2 (2 adults, 1 kid)
Group 3 (1 adult, 1 teen)
Group 4 (1 adult)

If Group 1 gets 2 bedrooms I’d do 40/20/20/20.

If I’m in a bedroom with my kid I don’t want to pay a premium for that.

Other expenses should be split per person.

This, unless there are babies.

[Anonymous]

Here's ours:

5 bedroom house:

Group 1: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 2: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 3: 2 adults
Group 4: 2 adults
Group 5: 1 adult
Group 6: 1 adult

Kids are all preschoolers/lower elementary

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you split this? 5 bedroom, 10 person house- adults and older kids (no babies).

Group 1 (2 adults, 2 teens)
Group 2 (2 adults, 1 kid)
Group 3 (1 adult, 1 teen)
Group 4 (1 adult)

I'd split it six ways just based on the number of adults. Kids sleep free. If any of the adults complain I would not consider them family or friends.

If you make your single or childless friends subsidize your 9, 15, or 19 year old, I wouldn't consider you a friend or family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's ours:

5 bedroom house:

Group 1: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 2: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 3: 2 adults
Group 4: 2 adults
Group 5: 1 adult
Group 6: 1 adult

Kids are all preschoolers/lower elementary

If the kids are young and will sleep in with their parents, all the couples get a room and pay an equal share (1/5) and the two singles share a room (one with 2 beds if one exists), and they pay one share, so each person pays 1/2 what a couple pays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's ours:

5 bedroom house:

Group 1: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 2: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 3: 2 adults
Group 4: 2 adults
Group 5: 1 adult
Group 6: 1 adult

Kids are all preschoolers/lower elementary

If the kids are young and will sleep in with their parents, all the couples get a room and pay an equal share (1/5) and the two singles share a room (one with 2 beds if one exists), and they pay one share, so each person pays 1/2 what a couple pays.

This is what seems fair to me. One person in our group is passive-aggressively suggesting that we pay by person, but it seems unfair given that we will be sleeping 4 to a room (with our kids on air mattresses on the floor).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you split this? 5 bedroom, 10 person house- adults and older kids (no babies).

Group 1 (2 adults, 2 teens)
Group 2 (2 adults, 1 kid)
Group 3 (1 adult, 1 teen)
Group 4 (1 adult)

I'd split it six ways just based on the number of adults. Kids sleep free. If any of the adults complain I would not consider them family or friends.

If you make your single or childless friends subsidize your 9, 15, or 19 year old, I wouldn't consider you a friend or family.

Most people don’t travel with single or childless friends if they have kids.

Here is what we have done: Ask each group (before house-hunting) how many rooms they need. You pay based on the number of bedrooms you require. Rental prices go up as the bedrooms do. If a single person wants to sleep on the couch I can see cutting them a deal, but if they’d like their own room, they have to pay.

For example, one year we went with 3 other families. My family and 2 of the others wanted 2 bedrooms each. The last family was looking to spend less and was happy to share 1 bedroom. So we did 2/7, 2/7, 2/7, 1/7 (7 bedroom house.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you split this? 5 bedroom, 10 person house- adults and older kids (no babies).

Group 1 (2 adults, 2 teens)
Group 2 (2 adults, 1 kid)
Group 3 (1 adult, 1 teen)
Group 4 (1 adult)

For example, the rental cost $1000.

Adults- 1
Kids (under 18)- .5

Group 1- 3/ $375
Group 2- 2.5/ $312.5
Group 3- 1.5/ $187.5
Group 4 -1 / $125

This is the best suggestion, IMO.

+ 1.

The four groups, each get a bedroom. The 5th bedroom is shared by the kids (3 teens and a kid) as well as the couch. The single person gets their own bedroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you split this? 5 bedroom, 10 person house- adults and older kids (no babies).

Group 1 (2 adults, 2 teens)
Group 2 (2 adults, 1 kid)
Group 3 (1 adult, 1 teen)
Group 4 (1 adult)

In our family, all the adults (single or couples) would get their own rooms and the kids would bunk together in 1 room. So adult couples of Groups 1 & 2 get their own rooms, single adults of Groups 3 & 4 each get their own rooms, and the kids are in the 5th room. The kids may end up being in the biggest room if it has more beds or space.

Posted before I read all the responses. I see you want a cost allocation. We would split the cost by 10 (so equal cost per person, no discount for kids or couples to be fair to the single person), with the rooms allocated as above. Kids get the short end of the stick. Oh well, too bad, so sad. I'm the married mom of a lot of kids btw so in this situation we would end up paying more than half of the overall cost.

This is us. Adults get their own rooms either as singles or couples. Kids are lodged together. We pay per body, unless the body is under the age of 2 and would need to sleep in a crib in the parental room anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's ours:

5 bedroom house:

Group 1: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 2: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 3: 2 adults
Group 4: 2 adults
Group 5: 1 adult
Group 6: 1 adult

Kids are all preschoolers/lower elementary

If the kids are young and will sleep in with their parents, all the couples get a room and pay an equal share (1/5) and the two singles share a room (one with 2 beds if one exists), and they pay one share, so each person pays 1/2 what a couple pays.

This is what seems fair to me. One person in our group is passive-aggressively suggesting that we pay by person, but it seems unfair given that we will be sleeping 4 to a room (with our kids on air mattresses on the floor).

See, I don't think that is passive aggressive at all. That single person sounds like s/he is advocating for his/her rights.

I'm saying this as a mom of more than a handful of kids but I think the single people usually get screwed in these group house situations. I think you should all pay a per person rate with adults in their own rooms, kids in a dorm room, and babies with their parents in a crib/pac-n-play.

[Anonymous]

Hybrid approach: half of rental cost is allocated per room, half is allocated per person to cover use of common space.

Assuming $1000 rental. $500 is split between 5 rooms ($100 per room); $500 is split between 10 people ($50 per person)

Family 1 (assuming 2 rooms): $200 for rooms + $200 for people = $400
Family 2: $100 for room + 150 for people = $250
Family 3: $100 for room + 100 for people = $200
Family 4: $100 for room + 50 for person = $150

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's ours:

5 bedroom house:

Group 1: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 2: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 3: 2 adults
Group 4: 2 adults
Group 5: 1 adult
Group 6: 1 adult

Kids are all preschoolers/lower elementary

If the kids are young and will sleep in with their parents, all the couples get a room and pay an equal share (1/5) and the two singles share a room (one with 2 beds if one exists), and they pay one share, so each person pays 1/2 what a couple pays.

This is what seems fair to me. One person in our group is passive-aggressively suggesting that we pay by person, but it seems unfair given that we will be sleeping 4 to a room (with our kids on air mattresses on the floor).

See, I don't think that is passive aggressive at all. That single person sounds like s/he is advocating for his/her rights.

I'm saying this as a mom of more than a handful of kids but I think the single people usually get screwed in these group house situations. I think you should all pay a per person rate with adults in their own rooms, kids in a dorm room, and babies with their parents in a crib/pac-n-play.

But there aren't enough rooms for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's ours:

5 bedroom house:

Group 1: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 2: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 3: 2 adults
Group 4: 2 adults
Group 5: 1 adult
Group 6: 1 adult

Kids are all preschoolers/lower elementary

If the kids are young and will sleep in with their parents, all the couples get a room and pay an equal share (1/5) and the two singles share a room (one with 2 beds if one exists), and they pay one share, so each person pays 1/2 what a couple pays.

This is what seems fair to me. One person in our group is passive-aggressively suggesting that we pay by person, but it seems unfair given that we will be sleeping 4 to a room (with our kids on air mattresses on the floor).

See, I don't think that is passive aggressive at all. That single person sounds like s/he is advocating for his/her rights.

I'm saying this as a mom of more than a handful of kids but I think the single people usually get screwed in these group house situations. I think you should all pay a per person rate with adults in their own rooms, kids in a dorm room, and babies with their parents in a crib/pac-n-play.

But there aren't enough rooms for that.

NP here. I am not paying 4x the single person so my family of 4 can share a room and she can have her own. I will pay 2x her IF I get two rooms. If she doesn’t like that she should just travel with other single people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's ours:

5 bedroom house:

Group 1: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 2: 2 adults, 2 kids
Group 3: 2 adults
Group 4: 2 adults
Group 5: 1 adult
Group 6: 1 adult

Kids are all preschoolers/lower elementary

If the kids are young and will sleep in with their parents, all the couples get a room and pay an equal share (1/5) and the two singles share a room (one with 2 beds if one exists), and they pay one share, so each person pays 1/2 what a couple pays.

This is what seems fair to me. One person in our group is passive-aggressively suggesting that we pay by person, but it seems unfair given that we will be sleeping 4 to a room (with our kids on air mattresses on the floor).

See, I don't think that is passive aggressive at all. That single person sounds like s/he is advocating for his/her rights.

I'm saying this as a mom of more than a handful of kids but I think the single people usually get screwed in these group house situations. I think you should all pay a per person rate with adults in their own rooms, kids in a dorm room, and babies with their parents in a crib/pac-n-play.

Passive aggressive isn't the message. Passive aggressive is the method of communication.

Also, there are no babies in this situation. Everybody needs a bed. All of the kids will be sleeping on air mattresses or mats on the floors of their parents' rooms. If there were babies would you propose that the babies also pay equally to the adult who gets her own room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you split this? 5 bedroom, 10 person house- adults and older kids (no babies).

Group 1 (2 adults, 2 teens)
Group 2 (2 adults, 1 kid)
Group 3 (1 adult, 1 teen)
Group 4 (1 adult)

For example, the rental cost $1000.

Adults- 1
Kids (under 18)- .5

Group 1- 3/ $375
Group 2- 2.5/ $312.5
Group 3- 1.5/ $187.5
Group 4 -1 / $125

This is the best suggestion, IMO.

We recently took this approach in splitting a house with a large group of 19 (some families, some couples, 1 single adult). It worked pretty well. The only thing I would add is that the families who paid more got first choice of their bedroom. That way they got the larger rooms with adjoining bathrooms to accommodate their families and to reflect the higher amount they were paying.