He makes me forget my name when he looks at me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met a man a month ago who makes me forget my name when he looks at me. I broke up with him 5 days ago. I felt like this only once before and broke up with him too because I was 19 and too young to realize how rare and special that was. That man passed away 20 years ago right after we broke up while on active duty and I never got to take it back. I thought I would never find that again. Even got married (and divorced) to an awesome guy but that feeling was never there. Here I am now, 39 years old, its 20 years later and finally I meet someone that I may actually like even more than that soldier in heaven...and I again ruined it. I broke up with him over the phone on Friday and as soon as the words left my lips I felt regret and deep deep sadness. Like if someone had just died. I felt like an elephant stepped on my chest. I literally sat down on the floor and my body refused to move for about an hour. Never felt that before in my life, even when a relative died, this felt like my body and mind were not connected...was that my heart actually breaking?
I keep replaying the conversation. It went something like this: Ring Ring...Him: Hello, Me: Hi..Him: I'm actually buying you a present right now.. Me: I can't see you anymore. I have no idea why I did this, had only had 4 hours of sleep for a couple of nights and I let my fears get the best of me. I got scared away that he was too perfect and knew that if he ever left me I would fall apart. I mean if it hurts this much after only a month, I can't imagine what it would be like after 6 months, a year etc.
I called him to apologize...to tell him to forgive him. I don't do this often (never ever) I felt so vulnerable and weak. I am such an independable and strong woman that it made me sick. He told me he could never be in a relationship with someone that could "toss him aside without any warning or discussion" and that he "would always worry that I could do that to him at any moment". Wow, what can you say to that? I actually agree with him. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that either. I somehow was able to say that I would never do that to him again, which I meant because now I truly know how I feel. But my word means nothing to him at this point. I know he feels something for me. I know he felt a connection and I am so dissapointed that my fears took over my actions and that now I can't seem to get what we had back. Aside from being able to reverse time, or acting more like a psycho, what can I do? Should I just give up? (Honest feedback is appreciated, I will try to pay it forward when others need help)

So you dumped the love of your life at 19, for whom you still pine. Married and divorced an "awesome guy" (why? because he didn't give you enough "feels", I guess?) and now found someone who you loved so much you forgot your name around and you dumped him too (at 39! no less).


This guy dodged a huge bullet. On behalf of men everywhere, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Move on, you are clearly obsessive over some potential ideal after one month? And if he is so great, he deserves better than an unstable person who is so insecure and flaky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met a man a month ago who makes me forget my name when he looks at me. I broke up with him 5 days ago. I felt like this only once before and broke up with him too because I was 19 and too young to realize how rare and special that was. That man passed away 20 years ago right after we broke up while on active duty and I never got to take it back. I thought I would never find that again. Even got married (and divorced) to an awesome guy but that feeling was never there. Here I am now, 39 years old, its 20 years later and finally I meet someone that I may actually like even more than that soldier in heaven...and I again ruined it. I broke up with him over the phone on Friday and as soon as the words left my lips I felt regret and deep deep sadness. Like if someone had just died. I felt like an elephant stepped on my chest. I literally sat down on the floor and my body refused to move for about an hour. Never felt that before in my life, even when a relative died, this felt like my body and mind were not connected...was that my heart actually breaking?
I keep replaying the conversation. It went something like this: Ring Ring...Him: Hello, Me: Hi..Him: I'm actually buying you a present right now.. Me: I can't see you anymore. I have no idea why I did this, had only had 4 hours of sleep for a couple of nights and I let my fears get the best of me. I got scared away that he was too perfect and knew that if he ever left me I would fall apart. I mean if it hurts this much after only a month, I can't imagine what it would be like after 6 months, a year etc.
I called him to apologize...to tell him to forgive him. I don't do this often (never ever) I felt so vulnerable and weak. I am such an independable and strong woman that it made me sick. He told me he could never be in a relationship with someone that could "toss him aside without any warning or discussion" and that he "would always worry that I could do that to him at any moment". Wow, what can you say to that? I actually agree with him. I wouldn't want to be with someone like that either. I somehow was able to say that I would never do that to him again, which I meant because now I truly know how I feel. But my word means nothing to him at this point. I know he feels something for me. I know he felt a connection and I am so dissapointed that my fears took over my actions and that now I can't seem to get what we had back. Aside from being able to reverse time, or acting more like a psycho, what can I do? Should I just give up? (Honest feedback is appreciated, I will try to pay it forward when others need help)

So you dumped the love of your life at 19, for whom you still pine. Married and divorced an "awesome guy" (why? because he didn't give you enough "feels", I guess?) and now found someone who you loved so much you forgot your name around and you dumped him too (at 39! no less).


This guy dodged a huge bullet. On behalf of men everywhere, thanks.

Yep. If this is not a troll, OP is seriously immature, incapable of sticking up with a person in a relationship, and "can't get back what we had?" after one month of being with a guy? I hope this is a troll, or as she says she is a psycho.