He makes me forget my name when he looks at me

You sound dramatic, OP. I don’t blame him for not wanting to continue in a relationship. I suggest you get therapy and work on whatever issues cause you to push away a good person.

Other possibility: you don’t need therapy. You actually have really, really good intuition and you sensed that this guy is too good to be true. For example, narcissists start out as overwhelmingly charming; take your breath away; the perfect mate. And then it turns very bad. So it’s possible you dodged a bullet.

(Or you need therapy.)

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06/29/2018 18:11

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I am a woman and I would never take you back under those circumstances. It sounds to ridiculous that a middle-aged adult would break up with someone for no reason other than insecurity. It's like the mills and boons romance novels I used to read in elementary school. Sorry.

Just keep dating and hope that you find someone else that you feel that way about.

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06/29/2018 18:13

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Anonymous wrote:show up at his door step wait for him tell him how you feel, while crying. Might work

Yikes. that is what a 20 year old does. Just no. Immature at the very least, stalkerish may be.

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06/29/2018 19:40

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Please get some professional help, OP. I am not being snarky. Aspects of your post indicate to me that there are some significant issues that you really need to work on with a counselor .

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06/29/2018 20:05

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Anonymous wrote:You’re not ready for a relationship; you didn’t “ruin” anything because this was never, ever going to work out with you at this stage of life, in your state of mind. You are simply not in a place for it. So you need to let that go and stop living in regret; see this as a wake-up call that you need to seek help with a good therapist to help you understand what’s going on with you.

I’m going to reflect back to you what I got from your post. You’ve been with this guy a month, which is an incredibly short time, so you actually don’t really know him at all; you only know the way he made you feel (which you describe in such a highly dramatic, feet way, way off the ground manner).

You’re operating like someone with PTSD: alarms blaring, heart screeching when in reality you’re just starting to get to know a new guy you have chemistry with. You need to dial down the drama. Quite frankly, you sound like an over-written harlequin romance. I’m sorry to be so blunt, but you need to hear this and snap the F out of it.

You break up with this guy, you don’t know why...and then when he doesn’t take you back...suddenly you know how you feel and that you won’t do it again?? Why should he believe that? How can you even believe yourself? He’s known you a month, and he’s already been up and down the roller coaster with you; he is doing the right thing I’m not taking you back, for himself AND for you. You need help; you don’t sound stable, at least in this aspect of your life.

Seek some counseling and stop beating yourself up. Obviously if you were in a place for a healthy relationship, this wouldn’t have happened in the first place.

I completely, completely agree!

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06/29/2018 20:26

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