Annoying sis-in-law - please help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From a BTDT mom of two:

I didn't want anyone in the actual delivery room except my husband. My parents (who were local) stayed in the waiting room. My mom said she justed wanted to hear right away that I was okay (and quite frankly, I really appreciated that --- b/c newsflash: once the baby comes, everyone is focused on the baby, and no one is really focused on the Mom).

The inlaws (who were about 6 hours away), drove down once I was in labor and visted the next day. They stuck around to help out for a couple weeks once I came home -- and that was WONDERFUL. Newsflash: It is WONDERFUL to have someone do the laundry, clean the house, go grocery shopping, cook meals, etc. And it is WONDERFUL to have someone watch the newborn while you shower or nap.

I honestly don't get the two-week family bonding line. Just wait, newbies: the sleepless nights will have a tremendous impact on you and you will welcome help from whoever offers it. Take it while you can.

Wow! There are alot of assumptions in your post! You assume that everyone's ILs would be so helpful! You assume that that they would come to see the DC and then automatically grab the vacuum and do the laundry. Many parents come for the birth and feel their role is to hang out and be guests (this has been covered in other threads)

Don't assume everyone else will have your great setup. The 2 week bonding period many times is code for not wanting to have ILs/parents around who will be more work than help. You might not be a newbie but you seem to have a narrow range of experience.
Couldn't agree more!

[Anonymous]

What is your problem? I am with your sister in law, i DID NOT want my in-laws when I delivered my baby.
As a PP said, you should grow a pair and just tell your parents to back off a little and let you breathe.

[Anonymous]

I didn't want help the first two weeks because my husband was off from work then. I waited until he went back to work to get the extra help. By then it was greatly needed. Also - I have the type of in-laws that don't provide any help at all - so they didn't come down until the baby was 7 weeks old (I think).

[Anonymous]

There's no way I would have my own parents at my baby's birth, let alone my in-laws. Women have a right to choose how they want to give birth. Leave your sis-in-law alone.

[Anonymous]

Wanting help from visitors after the birth is completely separate and apart with wanting your in-laws AT the birth or in the waiting room. My parents and in-laws came after our baby was born, and we were delighted. Everyone is very close, all our parents are very loving and very helpful, and there was nothing I would have wanted LESS than having them in the waiting room while I was laboring and delivering. For three days. No thanks. I was VERY glad to talk to my parents immediately after she was born, but I was just fine waiting a couple of days for them to get here. It was easier on everyone, most especially me. If SIL has her own ideas about when she wants visitors, that is 100% up to her.