Ever feel like when guys are ready to settle down/marry, it happens instantly?

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This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.

They're very picky and relatively content to remain single. Shocking news: they remain single. Also, a lot are fat.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.

They're very picky and relatively content to remain single. Shocking news: they remain single. Also, a lot are fat.

The ones I know and am speaking of are definitely not fat. They have all the time in the world to workout. They are also not content. Constantly complaining about being single. Problem is, when they were ready to settle down, all that was left were guys who are happy playing the field using hook up apps and are going for women much younger IF they even want to settle down.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.

They're very picky and relatively content to remain single. Shocking news: they remain single. Also, a lot are fat.

Yeah, the ones I know are more likely to be thin and muscled more than fat. They're workout/yoga/pilates junkies.

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Anonymous wrote:Probably because it does.

If they're moderately good-looking and have money the Carrie Bradshaws and Nikki Bellas of the world will be waiting in the wings to swoop in and 'save' them.

And there’s why you’re still single. You’re concerned about men with money - just like on tv! - and grading women based on lifestyle resemblance to an affluent tv character.

Lady, I'm a millionaire in my own right. Being concerned about men with money isn't my problem.

Yeah, some women (and men) just opt out of the whole marriage thing altogether. They value their independence and the freedom to call the shots in their own life w/o having to compromise with anyone else.

But I do think that for the single people actively looking for a romantic life partner (marriage material) it does seem easier for the guys for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Have always thought this was common. I know several guys who were with gfs for years, just wouldn’t/couldn’t commit. Eventually when the women walked away, they married the next girl they dated and most often it was in under a year.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.

How old ? I’m a guy in my 50s and I haven’t met many people who want to settle down especially if they have been married before.
Too messy financially

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I've always felt like women get married when it's the right guy and men get married when it's the right timing.

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Anonymous wrote:I've always felt like women get married when it's the right guy and men get married when it's the right timing.

+100.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.

They're very picky and relatively content to remain single. Shocking news: they remain single. Also, a lot are fat.

The ones I know and am speaking of are definitely not fat. They have all the time in the world to workout. They are also not content. Constantly complaining about being single. Problem is, when they were ready to settle down, all that was left were guys who are happy playing the field using hook up apps and are going for women much younger IF they even want to settle down.

If your friends are dental hygienists, then being unable to marry is meaningful. If they’re successful business executives holding out for equally accomplished mates, well duh. Smaller pool, and the best ones have been taken. Possibly by dental hygienists.

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Anonymous wrote:A good looking man with money who is still young-ish at 32 can accomplish this quicky. That’s when the marriage market shifts over to the males’ favor. And Women have a much greater sense of desperation when they are that age. But guys feel lots of social pressure to marry by 35 too, especially if their friends are married.

Don't know about this. my nephew is 30, good job at major company, and all he is meeting on Tinder and Bumble are airheads who went multiple partners.

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Anonymous wrote:So two points.

I think that a lot of this is perception. You don't hear about the dating ins and outs of your husband's male friends. So it seems "easy" for him because he hasn't gossiped with you about the day to day details of his romantic life.

Second, I think that men and women do their filtering at different stages. So women are more likely to decide someone isn't spouse material at say a month whereas men will decide later in the process. So it's not any easier for men, but the specific fact pattern of being in an intermediate length relationship with a partner who doesn't want to get married may happen to women more.

As I once heard it, for women, there are two categories of men: acceptable and unacceptable. For men, there are three categories of women: unacceptable, acceptable and I will never marry you, and acceptable and I would marry you in a heartbeat.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.

I don't agree with this. The attractive women I know who want to settle down but can't find a guy have a lot of conditions. They are looking for a very specific guy, one who probably doesn't actually exist. These women have had plenty of interest because they're attractive. In a sense, they've created an ideal that makes every human man seem mediocre and like settling, even really great men.

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a newsflash. I know so many attractive successful older women who cannot find a guy who wants to settle down. Sadly, women have a very real shelf life that men are not subject to.

They're very picky and relatively content to remain single. Shocking news: they remain single. Also, a lot are fat.

The ones I know and am speaking of are definitely not fat. They have all the time in the world to workout. They are also not content. Constantly complaining about being single. Problem is, when they were ready to settle down, all that was left were guys who are happy playing the field using hook up apps and are going for women much younger IF they even want to settle down.

If your friends are dental hygienists, then being unable to marry is meaningful. If they’re successful business executives holding out for equally accomplished mates, well duh. Smaller pool, and the best ones have been taken. Possibly by dental hygienists.

Ha. A good dental hygienist can make pretty bucks. Same with nurses and (gasp!) teachers.

Those in the health professions probably bring a lot less work home, too. Just something to consider... especially if you are hellbent on holding out for your "equal".

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^pretty big bucks