Allowing your child to date???

[Anonymous]

My DD is in ninth grade and I've told her I prefer her to date at least one person while in high school. I want her to learn how to be in a relationship while she still lives at home. While she can still have someone pointing out how to date, how to navigate life (friends) while dating. And how to get OUT of a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in ninth grade and I've told her I prefer her to date at least one person while in high school. I want her to learn how to be in a relationship while she still lives at home. While she can still have someone pointing out how to date, how to navigate life (friends) while dating. And how to get OUT of a relationship.

This is also weird. It’s like something that you might say in your head but you shouldn’t say out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in ninth grade and I've told her I prefer her to date at least one person while in high school. I want her to learn how to be in a relationship while she still lives at home. While she can still have someone pointing out how to date, how to navigate life (friends) while dating. And how to get OUT of a relationship.

This is also weird. It’s like something that you might say in your head but you shouldn’t say out loud.

Well luckily we all get to raise our kids how we each see fit. I think there is nothing wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it should be your choice whether she dates before college. You are trying to raise a human being, not a machine for taking tests.

All you are doing is ensuring that she knows that she cannot confide in you.

And at this point, that is highly unlikely to change no matter what OP does about the dating rules.

[Anonymous]

My parents didn't allow dating when I was in high school and guess what? I still did, they just had no idea for the first two years of our relationship. Restricting dating in high school only creates sneaky kids who are good at lying. If there is a will for a teen, they will find a way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in ninth grade and I've told her I prefer her to date at least one person while in high school. I want her to learn how to be in a relationship while she still lives at home. While she can still have someone pointing out how to date, how to navigate life (friends) while dating. And how to get OUT of a relationship.

This is also weird. It’s like something that you might say in your head but you shouldn’t say out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in ninth grade and I've told her I prefer her to date at least one person while in high school. I want her to learn how to be in a relationship while she still lives at home. While she can still have someone pointing out how to date, how to navigate life (friends) while dating. And how to get OUT of a relationship.

Weirdo, do you teach her how to give a bj too? I’m pretty open with my kid but that’s a bit much

[Anonymous]

It's best that you "learn" how to date and be in a relationship while your parents are around to help you. I didn't learn until college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in ninth grade and I've told her I prefer her to date at least one person while in high school. I want her to learn how to be in a relationship while she still lives at home. While she can still have someone pointing out how to date, how to navigate life (friends) while dating. And how to get OUT of a relationship.

Weirdo, do you teach her how to give a bj too? I’m pretty open with my kid but that’s a bit much

You seem to think that dating is only all about s*x, but it's not. It's about learning how to be in a relationship. How to argue, how to listen, how to compromise, how to put someone else first, how to stand your ground, how to integrate friend groups, how to set boundaries, etc.

[Anonymous]

I've heard of 6th graders "dating" in our MS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's best that you "learn" how to date and be in a relationship while your parents are around to help you. I didn't learn until college.

I think this is true. For boys, You can help them navigate respectful Behavior, and for girls start seeing the signs of if they end up in controlling, disrespectful, or abusive relationships. Or vice versa really. It's not that you can control their relationships, but you can help them understand the machinations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son, almost 16, had his grades go UP when he started dating his current girlfriend. I'm thrilled, she is terrific, as is her family (we have met mom, dad, and siblings, since they can't drive and we always stop in and visit at drop off and pick-up, as do they).

That was the same for me when I was a teen. I really dated a boy my entire sophmore year, and that was my very best year academically. He was a really good student and was a great influence on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've heard of 6th graders "dating" in our MS.

MS dating is about who you sit with at lunch and meet up with for 2 minutes in the halls and who you gossip about with your friends. Relationships usually last just a few weeks.

-MS teacher

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've heard of 6th graders "dating" in our MS.

MS dating is about who you sit with at lunch and meet up with for 2 minutes in the halls and who you gossip about with your friends. Relationships usually last just a few weeks.

-MS teacher

Yes. They may hold hands. And they text non-stop. But it’s all so awkward and brief. They rarely see each other outside of schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in ninth grade and I've told her I prefer her to date at least one person while in high school. I want her to learn how to be in a relationship while she still lives at home. While she can still have someone pointing out how to date, how to navigate life (friends) while dating. And how to get OUT of a relationship.

This is also weird. It’s like something that you might say in your head but you shouldn’t say out loud.

Ding ding! don't do this! spool many kids have unrequited crushes through even all of US, both genders. could you imagine on top of that special version of teen heart break that your parent is disappointed that you aren't dating?! salt in the wound, dude