Anyone on here have your very 1st child as a young teenager? 14? 15? 16?
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Anonymous
Yes, it's best just to shame and isolate the child. That will certainly ensure a great future for her and her baby. /s |
Anonymous
NP here. Honestly, I wouldn't care what happens with the teen mom and baby. My interest would be in protecting my child. Who would want their kid to be around someone who makes such bad decisions? Clearly, the teen mom would potentially be a bad influence on my child (all teens are affected by what their peers do). As my father used to say, you lay down with dogs, you wake up with fleas. |
Anonymous
| One of my best friends in HS got pregnant at 17. She graduated from hs, put herself through college and has gone on to an extremely successful career as a journalist. She married the father, but they divorced fairly quickly. She remarried in her 20s and had two more children. She is still with husband #2 20 years later. She is one of the most "successful" people I know. |
Anonymous
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It’s really common where I grew up. My next door neighbor got pregnant at 13, had baby at 14 (that was uncommonly young).
One of my good girlfriends got pregnant at 16. A few other classmates at 17-20. |
Anonymous
I'd rather use it as an opportunity to have an open discussion with my kid about sex and its consequences, and to teach compassion and kindness. |
Anonymous
Thank you. Glad to see some kindness and decency on this board. |
Anonymous
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I had a friend who got pregnant at 15 and had the baby at 16. The baby daddy was dead before the baby arrived (he fell, hit his head in the shower and drowned). She had family support and went on to college, graduated, got a degree, has a career. She got married and has no other children.
My parents discouraged my friendship with her because I guess they thought it might be contagious. My parents were of the "if want to see your future, look at your friends" mindset. |
Anonymous
| My cousin had 4 children by the time she turned 21. To this day, I’m not sure if she’s ever told her oldest that she has a different father than her siblings. She now is 40 and has 3 grandchildren. |
Anonymous
| I know someone who is a grandmother at 38. That woman’s mother is in her early 50s, maybe 52-53, and she’s a great-grandmother! Three generations (at least) of teen pregnancies. |
Anonymous
Seriously??? Because their daughter was in 6th grade and DD's friend was caught shoplifting and smoking...and they were not excited about the prospect of their DD being influenced by the friend's questionable decision-making skills. Birds of a feather and all that... And we all know that the more we hang out with our friends, the more we make excuses for their poor choices (getting pregnant and having a baby at 15 was arguably not the best choice for this girl's life path), and the parents did not want this "normalized" by their teen daughter. Great that they are friends now, but I think PP's parents made the right call to have PP keep her distance at the time. |
Anonymous
| A friend from middle school had a baby at 16 and her child went on to have a baby at 16 or 17. I had lost touch with her after high school and was shocked to see on Facebook that she was a grandma at 36! I had just had my second child. |
Anonymous
| When I was in middle school, the most beautiful girl in school got pregnant at 13 and gave birth to twins at 14. I came to find out a few years ago that she ended up killing herself by drinking acid. |
Anonymous
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I had two high school friends drop out because of pregnancy.
My own mother had her first baby when she was 16. My grandmother made my dad marry her (he had joined the Air Force and she called his commander or whatever and explained the situation and he said he's not leaving and my grandmother said yes he is, and they took up a collection and got him the money to go home and get married. Or so the story goes.) My mom rode the bus from Oregon to Texas to be with my dad. She was about 6 months pregnant, ultimately went into early labor and the baby died. They had another one later the same year, and on and on until I was born 15 years later. My mom went to community college nursing school in the early 70s so she had a way of earning money when my parents divorced when I was about 3. I think they had been married about 18 yrs. My mom remarried within a year or so, but my dad never did. He drank heavily until he dropped dead on the kitchen floor when I was 14 (he was 48.) |
Anonymous
| My MIL had my husband when she was 16. My husband never met his dad and never even knew his name until 5 years ago, when MIL finally told him. My husband tried to find him, but he’s no longer alive. MIL went on to marrying 4 times, is currently engaged to the 5th guy. She had three more kids, all of which my husband was heavily relied on to babysit when he was just a boy. He was 10 when the middle child was born and 12 when the twins were born. He basically raised them, as MIL would go to work after he got home from school and leave them with all 3. He can change a diaper better than any dad I know. MIL has been in several toxic relationships, abuse coming from both sides. She is 52, my husband is 36. |
Anonymous
| YIKES!!!!! This thread has taken a turn for the worse. MY GOD. |