ADHD second grader being bullied, but I know she is part of the problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 year old DD told me this evening that she doesn't want to go to school tomorrow, because all the other girls tell secrets about her, stop talking when she comes near, and exclude her from lunch/recess. She said its every girl in her class, and she is devastated, begging me to stay home. Now I know that she is contributing to this situation--she can be quite nasty herself, stemming from the ADHD impulse control issues, and we're working on that. But the fact she is being excluded by all the girls really breaks my heart. She even said that one girl laughs at her, and says she is mean because her parents are divorced. Ouch, poor girl is still trying to cope with the divorce last year, and this awful classmate really knows how to kick her when she is down. Should I let DD stay home from school, to give her a break tomorrow? I've already sent a note to her teacher explaining the situation and asking for some type of intervention. What else should I, or can I do? Thanks.

Confused by your post. Is your DD the one who is coping with the divorce or is it the classmate?

[Anonymous]

OP- there is a great book that someone on DCUM posted when I wrote about a similar issue. I really recommend it. "Little Girls Can be Mean"

https://www.amazon.com/Little-Girls-Can-Mean-Bully-proof/dp/0312615523/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1525966935&sr=8-1&keywords=little+girls+can+be+mean&dpID=514S8MA%252Bg%252BL&preST=_SY291_BO1,204,203,200_QL40_&dpSrc=srch