When other parents serve alcohol/throw parties for kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Aside from the LEGAL aspect being discussed here, let's talk about simply what's good judgement.

To all the parents (yes, ALL, more than one parent, more than one occasion) who served alcohol to my teen and LIED TO MY FACE ABOUT IT (and to the ones who look the other way):
Did you know she has a seizure disorder and is on medication for it? Did it occur to you that some kid might be on medication and mixing it with alcohol could endanger her life? The ADULT in the home is responsible for the kids' behavior and safety. PERIOD.

Your child also knows not to mix alcohol and her medication, right?

DP with same exact issue. Yes, my kid knows this. Have you met a teenager? They think they’re invincible. They also don’t like to tell their friends about their seizure disorder or their meds so when they have to stand up to the peer pressure, they’re not necessarily going to say “ I can’t”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

New poster. My kid knows not to go to these parties. But if he does, I’m fine with his getting cited.

I hope you are right. But, more likely than not you are wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clueless PPs

IF Police knock on your door and you answer.

AND Police see (smell, hear,..). something illegal.

THEN Police do not need a warrant. Same is true if they see something through a window.

That's plain view. Might want to Google that before you play law scholar with the police.

Let's start with why do you answer the door.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You mean parents are serving alcohol to the kids? I have two teens and have not experienced this.

How do you know this is happening, was your child there and witnessed this?

If this was something I heard about through word of mouth I wouldn't do a thing. If it were something I knew for a fact because my child was there and told me, I'd be mad as Hell and I'd speak to the parents. Depending on how that went I may or may not call the authorities.

Sorry, but you are clueless about what is going around. My teen tells me everything and chose many time not to go to some home parties (she would attend birthday celebration, or go to the movie with the same company, but refused to go to several people's homes because of the alcohol).

Sorry but YOU are clueless. No teen tells their parent everything-just what they think their parents want to hear. Who then eat it up like you, and think they are superior parents. You might be a great parent but there is no more clueless comment than "my teen tells me everything."

[Anonymous]

When I was in high school in the 90s, there were two separate incidents of parents allowing kids to drink, and then they drove, had accidents and killed people (never the teen driver though) in my small private school community, In one case the girls went around a curve too fast, swerved into other lane and hit another car head on killing the two people in that car. It was awful. The school got possession of the mangled car and put it on the campus for everyone to see so we were aware of what could happen. Certainly scared the daylights out of me.

It’s total BS to allow your minor child or othe minor children to drink. I would definitely have called the police and reported them, if my child was at the party I would show up and get my kid, I have no problems being the asshole in this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in high school in the 90s, there were two separate incidents of parents allowing kids to drink, and then they drove, had accidents and killed people (never the teen driver though) in my small private school community, In one case the girls went around a curve too fast, swerved into other lane and hit another car head on killing the two people in that car. It was awful. The school got possession of the mangled car and put it on the campus for everyone to see so we were aware of what could happen. Certainly scared the daylights out of me.

It’s total BS to allow your minor child or othe minor children to drink. I would definitely have called the police and reported them, if my child was at the party I would show up and get my kid, I have no problems being the asshole in this situation.

Good for you! I am also unpopular with my kids and their friends. I can live with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

New poster. My kid knows not to go to these parties. But if he does, I’m fine with his getting cited.

I hope you are right. But, more likely than not you are wrong.

Cited? Don't you mean arrested?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mean parents are serving alcohol to the kids? I have two teens and have not experienced this.

How do you know this is happening, was your child there and witnessed this?

If this was something I heard about through word of mouth I wouldn't do a thing. If it were something I knew for a fact because my child was there and told me, I'd be mad as Hell and I'd speak to the parents. Depending on how that went I may or may not call the authorities.

Sorry, but you are clueless about what is going around. My teen tells me everything and chose many time not to go to some home parties (she would attend birthday celebration, or go to the movie with the same company, but refused to go to several people's homes because of the alcohol).

Sorry but YOU are clueless. No teen tells their parent everything-just what they think their parents want to hear. Who then eat it up like you, and think they are superior parents. You might be a great parent but there is no more clueless comment than "my teen tells me everything."

+1 PP is delusional if she really believes her teen tells her everything. And to that PP, I am the person you quoted. I never said my kids haven't gone to a party with alcohol (I do not know for fact, but would bet there is a 95% chance they have), I'm saying I have never been in a situation where I have found out that an adult served my kid alcohol.