When other parents serve alcohol/throw parties for kids

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

[Anonymous]

You mean parents are serving alcohol to the kids? I have two teens and have not experienced this.

How do you know this is happening, was your child there and witnessed this?

If this was something I heard about through word of mouth I wouldn't do a thing. If it were something I knew for a fact because my child was there and told me, I'd be mad as Hell and I'd speak to the parents. Depending on how that went I may or may not call the authorities.

[Anonymous]

Two teens and I have experienced this. There are also many many parents who “look the other way” when teens somehow get ahold of alcohol themselves and don’t supervise parties at their homes.

For the ones who actually serve it, my kids are not allowed to go. (Finding out about it ahead of time is what’s tricky.) I hope there’s a special place in hell for those parents.

For the don’t ask, don’t tell parents, there’s not much you can do other than talk to your kids about drinking and hope they are making good choices. If a particular home continues to be a problem, I don’t let them go there anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two teens and I have experienced this. There are also many many parents who “look the other way” when teens somehow get ahold of alcohol themselves and don’t supervise parties at their homes.

For the ones who actually serve it, my kids are not allowed to go. (Finding out about it ahead of time is what’s tricky.) I hope there’s a special place in hell for those parents.

For the don’t ask, don’t tell parents, there’s not much you can do other than talk to your kids about drinking and hope they are making good choices. If a particular home continues to be a problem, I don’t let them go there anymore.

+1

Plus, diplomats.

[Anonymous]

My teens have been to parties where alcohol was served and the parents were home and fine with it. I know one of these sets of parents very well and they are very much team "I'd rather have them doing it at my house." They are the type to take the keys from the kids and hide them where they can't get them. The kids who want to leave have to blow into a breathalyzer to prove they haven't had anything to drink. I'm not joking. The parents have an actual breathalyzer!

I consider myself incredibly lucky because neither kid has any interest in drinking. And no, it's not me being naive about it or sticking my head in the sand. They've both seen the dangers of alcohol and are very informed about alcohol due to my brother being an alcoholic. He's been in and out of jail most of their lives and has never held a license due to alcohol. My dad's also a former alcoholic, which they know about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

And the law is that police should have a warrant.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

New poster. My kid knows not to go to these parties. But if he does, I’m fine with his getting cited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

New poster. My kid knows not to go to these parties. But if he does, I’m fine with his getting cited.

My kids have been 'taught' not to go to these parties but if they haven't 'learned', I'm also fine with them getting cited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

And the law is that police should have a warrant.

No if the police see underage drinking or arrest kids as they leave the party, the police will go on your property and start arresting kids and the home owner.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

And the law is that police should have a warrant.

No if the police see underage drinking or arrest kids as they leave the party, the police will go on your property and start arresting kids and the home owner.

No, once again uninformed DCUM with zero legal knowledge rears its ugly head.

You do not have to allow the police into your home. If the kids are being served alcohol in your home and are not outside of your home, there is no reason for the police to need to come in your home. The parent was completely within his rights to tell the police officer to leave and return with a warrant because he's never going to get a warrant for that.

Also, it's completely legal (at least in VA) for a parent to serve their own child alcohol in their own home. It's not legal to serve other underage minors, however. But, like this person did above, telling the officer to get a warrant and not allowing him in their home is legal as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

And the law is that police should have a warrant.

No if the police see underage drinking or arrest kids as they leave the party, the police will go on your property and start arresting kids and the home owner.

No, once again uninformed DCUM with zero legal knowledge rears its ugly head.

You do not have to allow the police into your home. If the kids are being served alcohol in your home and are not outside of your home, there is no reason for the police to need to come in your home. The parent was completely within his rights to tell the police officer to leave and return with a warrant because he's never going to get a warrant for that.

Also, it's completely legal (at least in VA) for a parent to serve their own child alcohol in their own home. It's not legal to serve other underage minors, however. But, like this person did above, telling the officer to get a warrant and not allowing him in their home is legal as well.

And you are missing the point of that part of the story entirely. The point is that he’s an entitled douche who is showing off to the kids how he can let them break laws and “know his rights” to let them get away with it, therefore creating more entitled douches AND risking their lives since they will drive home and he doesn’t know which kids are on medicine or have health conditions that make alcohol even more dangerous. Big picture: bad parenting and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children and then modeling how to get away with breaking the rules. Class act, Dad. Hopefully next time someone else will let them in “by mistake” and he will stop.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

And the law is that police should have a warrant.

No if the police see underage drinking or arrest kids as they leave the party, the police will go on your property and start arresting kids and the home owner.

No, once again uninformed DCUM with zero legal knowledge rears its ugly head.

You do not have to allow the police into your home. If the kids are being served alcohol in your home and are not outside of your home, there is no reason for the police to need to come in your home. The parent was completely within his rights to tell the police officer to leave and return with a warrant because he's never going to get a warrant for that.

Also, it's completely legal (at least in VA) for a parent to serve their own child alcohol in their own home. It's not legal to serve other underage minors, however. But, like this person did above, telling the officer to get a warrant and not allowing him in their home is legal as well.

The police should have posted somebody outside the home, and every time a car drove away they would pull the person over and give them a breathalyzer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe it, but many of them do. How do you handle it? One parent called the police and reported underage drinking and the dad who was serving told the police to leave unless they had a warrant. I’m sick that parents are teaching kids to disobey the law and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children. Do you report it? What else do you do?

I'm against underage drinking, but what would you have done in this circumstance? Let the kids get cited by the cops for underage drinking? I'd rather they not get caught.

I wouldn’t be in that situation. I teach my children that laws should obeyed and police should be respected.

And the law is that police should have a warrant.

No if the police see underage drinking or arrest kids as they leave the party, the police will go on your property and start arresting kids and the home owner.

No, once again uninformed DCUM with zero legal knowledge rears its ugly head.

You do not have to allow the police into your home. If the kids are being served alcohol in your home and are not outside of your home, there is no reason for the police to need to come in your home. The parent was completely within his rights to tell the police officer to leave and return with a warrant because he's never going to get a warrant for that.

Also, it's completely legal (at least in VA) for a parent to serve their own child alcohol in their own home. It's not legal to serve other underage minors, however. But, like this person did above, telling the officer to get a warrant and not allowing him in their home is legal as well.

And you are missing the point of that part of the story entirely. The point is that he’s an entitled douche who is showing off to the kids how he can let them break laws and “know his rights” to let them get away with it, therefore creating more entitled douches AND risking their lives since they will drive home and he doesn’t know which kids are on medicine or have health conditions that make alcohol even more dangerous. Big picture: bad parenting and taking liberties with the safety of other people’s children and then modeling how to get away with breaking the rules. Class act, Dad. Hopefully next time someone else will let them in “by mistake” and he will stop.

Exactly. I'm not a 100% rule follower for the sake of following rules, but when choosing to break the law, doing it to let underage kids drink alcohol is not a sword worth falling on here.