How often do you have contact with your FWB?

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Anonymous wrote:OP. I am going to meet three different guys for coffee next week instead of seeing my FWB on Sunday. Not exactly difficult to meet men who want a NSA relationship.

My FWB texted me earlier today that we will talk after he got some work done but I haven’t heard anything from him since. The lackadaisical texting and responses started a few weeks ago when he texted me at 4 AM that he likes me. Later I joked he must have drunk texted me that message.

Or maybe he is just tired of me and don’t care. Last week when I was suppose to come over, he fell asleep and I couldn’t get into his apartment building and left. I was pissed and left him a text saying it was over but when he woke up, he called and texted me apologizing and I went back to his place. I give up. Not worth the drama for a FWB.

What app did you use to meet 3 guys for coffee?

Tinder. Took about an hour for matching and texting to coffee for all three. They are cute.

What the set them apart onTinder?

OP. I like how they look in their pictures.

Just want some protips, about to setul an account.

Were the pictures full body at all?

Full body wearing clothes. Pic of face. They all had pics of their dog. LOL! Pretty standard. You don’t have to be fancy. Women just want to see how you look like.

I just ask because you are the type of woman I am seeking to have an open relationship. That seems normal, which I will followup.

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Anonymous wrote:do you use condoms?
do you have anal?
do you make out?

I’m curious about this too, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:do you use condoms?
do you have anal?
do you make out?

I’m curious about this too, OP?

OP. Yes to all. Lots of kissing too.

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Anonymous wrote:do you use condoms?
do you have anal?
do you make out?

I’m curious about this too, OP?

OP. Yes to all. Lots of kissing too.

He must not be very large then. Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and his FWB text every day. But, sometimes just a hi how are you doing text and that's it. See each other every few weeks. And no, our marriage isn't falling apart.

Why do you let him have an fwb?

It's fun for him and has no negative impact on our lives and relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:do you use condoms?
do you have anal?
do you make out?

I’m curious about this too, OP?

OP. Yes to all. Lots of kissing too.

He must not be very large then. Lol.

OP. 8" not giant but it does the job

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and his FWB text every day. But, sometimes just a hi how are you doing text and that's it. See each other every few weeks. And no, our marriage isn't falling apart.

Why do you let him have an fwb?

It's fun for him and has no negative impact on our lives and relationship.

How are you ok with this? If you're not jealous, you are not in love. Right?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and his FWB text every day. But, sometimes just a hi how are you doing text and that's it. See each other every few weeks. And no, our marriage isn't falling apart.

Why do you let him have an fwb?

It's fun for him and has no negative impact on our lives and relationship.

How are you ok with this? If you're not jealous, you are not in love. Right?

What!? No, we are deeply in love. And I do get jealous sometimes too.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. We talk about what we are going to do when we meet mostly not anything deep. Thanks for letting me know that most FWB don’t talk every day. We like each other well enough for sex. We are both single and he is not someone I’ll have a LTR with for many reasons.

well, something goes deep when you two see each other.

That’s the whole point, isn’t it. LOL! He’s been very busy with a big project he tells me but the anticipation is part of the fun.

If big project means other women, yeah, you’re right.

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Anonymous wrote:Did this start off as a friendship between the two of you which evolved into a sexual FWB relationship? Or is this a guy that you got together with because you were attracted to him.

Were you in the habit of texting him to talk to him before this FWB arrangement happened?

We were never friends and met through a dating app. I am divorced with a child and he is single, never married and I was very specific that I was looking for a FWB not a LTR. I stay over his place one night a week and met some of his friends. He has not met any of mine or my child and I plan on keeping it that way. I guess I cannot blame him for wanting more distance and keeping our relationship more FWB and less like dating which as I am writing this sounds like what it is turning into.

You've been seeing him once a week with no strings attached. Not sure how old this guy is but if he is free to look elsewhere during the rest of the week, he probably is.

If the spark between you has started to fizzle, maybe stop texting him for awhile or even take a week or two off from him.

OP. He’s 30 so I suspect he probably found someone else who wants a LTR but is keeping me around in case it doesn’t work out. I’ll start looking elsewhere. We have a standing “date” every week and I want to keep it for now but I won’t be texting him anymore than necessary.

If you want to stir up the sparks again, take a week or two off from seeing him. These no strings attached arrangements are obviously not long term and they do eventually end. But a little break from each will probably have him missing you. Just say "Something has come up suddenly and I can't see you tomorrow night as planned."

I will. Maybe it needs to end anyway since it doesn’t feel so good anymore for me. I feel ignored since we don’t talk/text like we use to. I guess I set up the parameters incorrectly for a FWB relationship but going from texting everyday to nearly nothing and one word responses makes me feel like crap. The quality of our conversations have taken a nose dive from fun and witty to sexting mostly to nearly nothing now. The sex is still great but as pps out, I am probably too vested in this relationship for a FWB. Better to stop now and start over with someone else.

I’m confused. I thought you weren’t in it for the conversation. Calling bs on this...

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and his FWB text every day. But, sometimes just a hi how are you doing text and that's it. See each other every few weeks. And no, our marriage isn't falling apart.

Why do you let him have an fwb?

It's fun for him and has no negative impact on our lives and relationship.

How are you ok with this? If you're not jealous, you are not in love. Right?

That's a big non-sequitor. Jealousy does not equal love and lack of jealousy does not equal lack of love.

Polyamory and open relationships are becoming more and more common. With so many people having extra marital affairs, consensual open relationships seem much more ethical, safe, and realistic than monogamy anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:OP. We talk about what we are going to do when we meet mostly not anything deep. Thanks for letting me know that most FWB don’t talk every day. We like each other well enough for sex. We are both single and he is not someone I’ll have a LTR with for many reasons.

well, something goes deep when you two see each other.

That’s the whole point, isn’t it. LOL! He’s been very busy with a big project he tells me but the anticipation is part of the fun.

If big project means other women, yeah, you’re right.

OP. Big project means big project. I know where he works, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Did this start off as a friendship between the two of you which evolved into a sexual FWB relationship? Or is this a guy that you got together with because you were attracted to him.

Were you in the habit of texting him to talk to him before this FWB arrangement happened?

We were never friends and met through a dating app. I am divorced with a child and he is single, never married and I was very specific that I was looking for a FWB not a LTR. I stay over his place one night a week and met some of his friends. He has not met any of mine or my child and I plan on keeping it that way. I guess I cannot blame him for wanting more distance and keeping our relationship more FWB and less like dating which as I am writing this sounds like what it is turning into.

You've been seeing him once a week with no strings attached. Not sure how old this guy is but if he is free to look elsewhere during the rest of the week, he probably is.

If the spark between you has started to fizzle, maybe stop texting him for awhile or even take a week or two off from him.

OP. He’s 30 so I suspect he probably found someone else who wants a LTR but is keeping me around in case it doesn’t work out. I’ll start looking elsewhere. We have a standing “date” every week and I want to keep it for now but I won’t be texting him anymore than necessary.

If you want to stir up the sparks again, take a week or two off from seeing him. These no strings attached arrangements are obviously not long term and they do eventually end. But a little break from each will probably have him missing you. Just say "Something has come up suddenly and I can't see you tomorrow night as planned."

I will. Maybe it needs to end anyway since it doesn’t feel so good anymore for me. I feel ignored since we don’t talk/text like we use to. I guess I set up the parameters incorrectly for a FWB relationship but going from texting everyday to nearly nothing and one word responses makes me feel like crap. The quality of our conversations have taken a nose dive from fun and witty to sexting mostly to nearly nothing now. The sex is still great but as pps out, I am probably too vested in this relationship for a FWB. Better to stop now and start over with someone else.

I’m confused. I thought you weren’t in it for the conversation. Calling bs on this...

You have to have attraction for great sex. The initial attraction is all visual but once you start a relationship even just a sexual one, you don’t want to keep having sex with someone you think is a bore, stupid, rude, etc.... at least it is that way for women.

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Anonymous wrote:I think mine is losing interest because we use to text every day but lately I notice I am the one who always initiates texts and want to talk.

Well looks like the downward spiral has begun. The minute somebody starts complaining about how they always have to initiate contact with their FWB its just a matter of time before complaining about little stuff becomes a full-blown habit and the whole arrangement goes to hell.

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Anonymous wrote:I think mine is losing interest because we use to text every day but lately I notice I am the one who always initiates texts and want to talk.

Well looks like the downward spiral has begun. The minute somebody starts complaining about how they always have to initiate contact with their FWB its just a matter of time before complaining about little stuff becomes a full-blown habit and the whole arrangement goes to hell.

OP. I think you maybe right. But I think I have to rearrange my expectations to “just our scheduled one day a week we see each other to have sex” as the norm with little/no contact in between. Like I said, I am not in this for the conversation so I can live with that