Scary truth about what is our hurting our kids..

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the article. No social media allowed for my 5th grader. We limit screen time and no phone allowed. We will get a flip phone that texts when DC is 13 if needed.

And, if you don't teach moderation and its all or nothing then you will have bigger problems on your hands as they get older.

God, I HATE this logic. Just because someone's not allowing a TEN year old to have social media or a smart phone doesn't mean they're not teaching moderation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Parents need to lead by example. Next time you're out at dinner, I dare you to find a table that's a family with teens where the parents and teens aren't all on their phones from the moment they are seated. It's really rare.

I saw a family this weekend that could have been 4 strangers eating together, there was that little chatting. The kids had earbuds in and were watching videos on their phones all through dinner. The parents put their phones down to order and then were right back on until their meals came.

We have a no devices at dinner rule and that applies when we're out of the house. The only exception is if we're at dinner for a special occasion and want to take a photo, but even that is very rare. As soon as they got phones, sensible rules were put in place. When the rules were broken, phones were taken away. So many of my kid's friend's parents are afraid to take away phones as punishment. "But what if there's an emergency! How will they reach me?" If your teen isn't capable of functioning in the world without a phone for a few days, you've got major issues.

You can chat with your kids other times beyond dinner. Meal time isn't the only time to be together.

But in most families, it is the only time during the day that the entire family is together. And "chatting with your kids" hardly gets the job done.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Parents need to lead by example. Next time you're out at dinner, I dare you to find a table that's a family with teens where the parents and teens aren't all on their phones from the moment they are seated. It's really rare.

I saw a family this weekend that could have been 4 strangers eating together, there was that little chatting. The kids had earbuds in and were watching videos on their phones all through dinner. The parents put their phones down to order and then were right back on until their meals came.

We have a no devices at dinner rule and that applies when we're out of the house. The only exception is if we're at dinner for a special occasion and want to take a photo, but even that is very rare. As soon as they got phones, sensible rules were put in place. When the rules were broken, phones were taken away. So many of my kid's friend's parents are afraid to take away phones as punishment. "But what if there's an emergency! How will they reach me?" If your teen isn't capable of functioning in the world without a phone for a few days, you've got major issues.

Pretty nosey of you. Were you eating alone or ignoring the people at your own table.

Alone. I was traveling for work.

[Anonymous]

And video games that de-sensitize kids to hurting others. Did you all hear about the 9 year old that shot his 13 year old sister dead for not handing over the game controller?? They were probably playing some M rated shoot 'em up game. Not to mention the easy access to the gun in the house....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents need to lead by example. Next time you're out at dinner, I dare you to find a table that's a family with teens where the parents and teens aren't all on their phones from the moment they are seated. It's really rare.

I saw a family this weekend that could have been 4 strangers eating together, there was that little chatting. The kids had earbuds in and were watching videos on their phones all through dinner. The parents put their phones down to order and then were right back on until their meals came.

We have a no devices at dinner rule and that applies when we're out of the house. The only exception is if we're at dinner for a special occasion and want to take a photo, but even that is very rare. As soon as they got phones, sensible rules were put in place. When the rules were broken, phones were taken away. So many of my kid's friend's parents are afraid to take away phones as punishment. "But what if there's an emergency! How will they reach me?" If your teen isn't capable of functioning in the world without a phone for a few days, you've got major issues.

Pretty nosey of you. Were you eating alone or ignoring the people at your own table.

Alone. I was traveling for work.

Maybe next rime send nice emails or text to your kids or call them

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parents need to lead by example. Next time you're out at dinner, I dare you to find a table that's a family with teens where the parents and teens aren't all on their phones from the moment they are seated. It's really rare.

I saw a family this weekend that could have been 4 strangers eating together, there was that little chatting. The kids had earbuds in and were watching videos on their phones all through dinner. The parents put their phones down to order and then were right back on until their meals came.

We have a no devices at dinner rule and that applies when we're out of the house. The only exception is if we're at dinner for a special occasion and want to take a photo, but even that is very rare. As soon as they got phones, sensible rules were put in place. When the rules were broken, phones were taken away. So many of my kid's friend's parents are afraid to take away phones as punishment. "But what if there's an emergency! How will they reach me?" If your teen isn't capable of functioning in the world without a phone for a few days, you've got major issues.

You can chat with your kids other times beyond dinner. Meal time isn't the only time to be together.

But in most families, it is the only time during the day that the entire family is together. And "chatting with your kids" hardly gets the job done.

Then you need to look at your family structure. That is not the only time we are together. How sad for your kids.

[Anonymous]

This article sounds like every "scare tactic" article from the past.

Rock & Roll is Hurting Your Kids
Dancing is Hurting Your Kids
Fraternizing with the Black Kids is Hurting Your Kids
TV is Hurting Your Kids
MTV is Hurting Your Kids
The Simpsons is Hurting Your Kids
Video Games are Hurting Your Kids
Marilyn Mason is Hurting Your Kids
The Internet is Hurting Your Kids

Rinse, repeat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the article. No social media allowed for my 5th grader. We limit screen time and no phone allowed. We will get a flip phone that texts when DC is 13 if needed.

And, if you don't teach moderation and its all or nothing then you will have bigger problems on your hands as they get older.

God, I HATE this logic. Just because someone's not allowing a TEN year old to have social media or a smart phone doesn't mean they're not teaching moderation.

It does not matter if it is a smart phone, tablet or computer. All do the same things now.

[Anonymous]

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My son can text and call on his phone and minimal ability to search. Very old phone. It serves it's purpose to be able to let him know if he needs to use his key because I'm not home when he gets home from school.

He couldn't figure this out if you didn't tell him?

[Anonymous]

Why focus on teens? Smart phones and cell phones are addiction and a disease for all, especilly parents. How about an article about parents having more time with their phone than with their kids?

[Anonymous]

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My teen doesn't have a cell phone.

What's your excuse, OP?

Humm...ok, so your point is what? How sad if they have an emergency they cannot contact you or someone for help.

HAHAHA that is how bad parents just giving their kids a cell phone. generations and generations of kids survived without cell phones.

We also had access to lots of pay phones.

Lame. There was no pay phones at parks, neighborhoods, and athletic fields. That is where most kids are. Also, anywhere there was a pay phone also has free land lines you can ask to use. Oh and every living human adult has a pay phone you can ask to borrow.

It depends on where you were. Yes, there were around here. No, you don't ask to borrow a strangers phone. I might make a phone call for you but I'm to handing over your phone. If anything I'll call the police to report neglect if your child is injured and you were not supervising and they had no way to contact you.

Are you serious? If a 12 yo gets injured on his bike, you’re reporting his parents for neglect because he’s out alone (gasp!) without a cell phone (double gasp!)? What’s wrong with just being a good neighbor and giving the kid’s parents a call?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the article. No social media allowed for my 5th grader. We limit screen time and no phone allowed. We will get a flip phone that texts when DC is 13 if needed.

And, if you don't teach moderation and its all or nothing then you will have bigger problems on your hands as they get older.

God, I HATE this logic. Just because someone's not allowing a TEN year old to have social media or a smart phone doesn't mean they're not teaching moderation.

You can’t even have ANY social media accounts until you are 13yrs old. It is illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why focus on teens? Smart phones and cell phones are addiction and a disease for all, especilly parents. How about an article about parents having more time with their phone than with their kids?

DP.

Amen. I'm totally addicted to the damned Internet and I'm trying to reduce, but short of quitting altogether have largely been unsuccessful. Doesn't mean I'm not worried about how I'm going to keep my young kids from getting hooked even earlier than I did.

Op is right. This shit is a scourge.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
My son can text and call on his phone and minimal ability to search. Very old phone. It serves it's purpose to be able to let him know if he needs to use his key because I'm not home when he gets home from school.

He couldn't figure this out if you didn't tell him?

LOL. This is the truth of coddling parents raising kids who have no idea what to do on their own.

Come home. No cars around. Knock on door. No one answers. WHAT DO I DO????? Do I use the key that I have here? Do I scream for help? Do I just sit on the porch and cry? I am so confused. A phone would help. I want my Mommy!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the article. No social media allowed for my 5th grader. We limit screen time and no phone allowed. We will get a flip phone that texts when DC is 13 if needed.

And, if you don't teach moderation and its all or nothing then you will have bigger problems on your hands as they get older.

God, I HATE this logic. Just because someone's not allowing a TEN year old to have social media or a smart phone doesn't mean they're not teaching moderation.

It does not matter if it is a smart phone, tablet or computer. All do the same things now.

No, a computer is in the house. Teens have their cell phones in their pocket (wait, sorry - their hands) at all times.