People who interrupt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it's hard to have good conversations with people who have different processing speeds.

I agree. I think people need to candidly ask themselves if everyone interrupts them or just a couple of people. If the former, you’re talking too much and/or too slowly. You need to learn quick back and forth conversation and not expect people to just stand there and listen. If the latter, it’s probably them. Same if you’re an interrupter. Do you interrupt everyone or just a few people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh I interrupt and I hate it. I'm just really enthusiastic, my mind goes at the speed of light and some people speak sooooo slowly, or say a thought in a long convoluted sentence that could be more concise, or ramble, or repeat themselves...but I am sorry, aware and trying.

This is also me.

This is also DH. I tell him if he keeps this up, he won't have any family or friends LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it's hard to have good conversations with people who have different processing speeds.

I hate being interrupted. It's not an issue of processing speed if the interrupter isn't processing anything other than their own thoughts.

My mom is a lot like Op's mil. She asks the same questions over and over again because she's always thinking about what she wants to say. More recently, I realized she talks without pausing long enough for me to respond. I don't think she'll ever change. Op, you can only change how you respond to her. One word answers, sometimes don't respond at all. Sometimes I just say "wait, stop talking now," if it's something I really need to say.

My mother also does this. As a result, it has taken me a loooong time to break my own interrupting habit, which I developed growing up since it was the only way I could ever say anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it's hard to have good conversations with people who have different processing speeds.

I agree. I think people need to candidly ask themselves if everyone interrupts them or just a couple of people. If the former, you’re talking too much and/or too slowly. You need to learn quick back and forth conversation and not expect people to just stand there and listen. If the latter, it’s probably them. Same if you’re an interrupter. Do you interrupt everyone or just a few people?

I agree with this too. I'm an interrupter and know it's a bad habit. I'm much, much better as an adult -- but that's simply because I've grown up and learned more social etiquette.

All that said, the reality is that some people are astoundingly boring, or they ramble, or have little to say. As an adult, I can really recognize how boring some people are. The people I've always connected best with are not boring people, have a lot to say (as much as me) and I really like listening to them so I'm less inclined to interrupt. I've also always been popular and well liked, and can state confidently that most people do not find me boring.

So yes, there are some people who are just really difficult for me to not interrupt -- but I'm an adult, so I don't interrupt them. It doesn't mean I enjoy talking with them though

PS some people are just interrupters regardless of who's talking. My boss is one, particularly of women. That's crazy annoying.

[Anonymous]

NP. This thread is a hoot. It is very interesting to see how all the "people who interrupt" are in agreement that the people they interrupt are boring and if they weren't so darn boring then they wouldn't get interrupted all the time! But as long as you're happy, then we're happy for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another poster. I do this as well, it is a symptom of impulsiveness due to ADHD. I don’t take meds late at night, sometimes they wear off...it is hard.

+1 This is my DH. Drives me nuts sometimes but I try to remember that he just struggles in this area.

[Anonymous]

My entire family is one of interrupters. They also do so in a way that completely derails the conversation! Growing up I often felt I couldn’t get a word in edgeways! Now that I’m older and have been living away from home for a long time, I just say “please let me finish my thought”. If it doesn’t work, I just disengage from the conversation entirely. I love them, but I have no time or patience for this rudeness.

[Anonymous]

Repeat as necessary. Yes, the first few visits, you'll have to do this 20 times in 10 minutes, but after some visits, she'll learn. As someone who came from an ethnic family that has 8 conversations going at any time and everyone is interrupting and talking over each other, she can learn. My siblings and I have all had to learn this and she can too.
LOL I also came from ethnic family were everyone talks at the same time and somehow we all understand each other

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh I interrupt and I hate it. I'm just really enthusiastic, my mind goes at the speed of light and some people speak sooooo slowly, or say a thought in a long convoluted sentence that could be more concise, or ramble, or repeat themselves...but I am sorry, aware and trying.

Hi, you are me. It's my worst quality and I'm working on it. it sometimes feels involuntary so I use as much mental energy as I can to contain it. I did it to th the most and he is patient