Envious of my husband’s college gf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She does sound awesome. I'm sure you're great too! Her life has no bearing on yours. Also, your DH fell for both of you, so clearly you're in good company. Isn't this preferable to thinking that he previously dated someone lame?

+1 I get the curiousity though!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, tell me 3 things that are good about you.

I'm not OP, but I would legit have a hard time doing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, tell me 3 things that are good about you.

I'm not OP, but I would legit have a hard time doing this.

NP

PP, you need to change that. Among other things a good self image requires that you not measure yourself against others. It also requires an acceptance that while you aren't what you could be there should be some progress or foundation of good/positives that can be built upon. So even if you don't have much at the moment work on changing that over time and begin today.

BTW, there was a time when I could have written multiple negatives against any single positives in my life. It was overwhelming to even consider changing that since I had drifted, well, ran headlong in some cases, toward so many negatives. I remained in that bad place for far to long because the task seemed to great. But I came to a decision that I wasn't going to live that way the rest of my life and with help began a positive rebuild. It took time and wasn't without some backsliding but today, almost 20 years later, I have grown so much and shed the burdens of the past in such a way that I am grateful for all the good in my life now as well as the lessons learned from the failures of my past.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I had a rough start when we met because he was still in love with his college gf of 5 years. Of course I was curious about this alluring other woman and looked her up on social media. I was pretty floored. She was girl next door pretty and seemed to have a fun outgoing personality. In addition to that she dressed really well and was super smart. Double major in Chinese and bioengineering in addition to being very active in her sorority she wa also an accomplished dancer.

Like wow.

I looked her up now out of curiousity and she continues to kick butt. She’s worked in a fantastic career at some major companies, married a foreign service office, started a grad program and now has moved across the globe as an expat with her husband.

I just feel so...unaccomplished? Lol how do people rock so much?

Why are you doing this to yourself? Comparison is the thief of joy.

I thought it was joy is the thief of comparison.

I have a similar friend who has done cool things on paper. I wouldn't want to switch lives. So she's cool. You're in good company then.