Money Worries

[Anonymous]

I think this is something that will come up often as women's incomes/independent wealth continue to meet and exceed their potential partners. Think about it though, men have dealt with this longer than we have and many come to to table with ALL of their premarital assets without batting an eye ...isn't what's good for the gander, good for the goose??

[Anonymous]

I agree that this suggests that you may not be 100 percent sure on this relationship.

But I also think that even if you are 100 percent sure, it can still arise later.

My wife and I had a great relationship and marriage for ten or so years. during that time we paid off her loans while I brought home 2/3rds of the money. Now, 15 years down the line our relationship is on the rocks. So be careful...
Having said that, sometimes you have to be willing to take a risk in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that this suggests that you may not be 100 percent sure on this relationship.

But I also think that even if you are 100 percent sure, it can still arise later.

My wife and I had a great relationship and marriage for ten or so years. during that time we paid off her loans while I brought home 2/3rds of the money. Now, 15 years down the line our relationship is on the rocks. So be careful...
Having said that, sometimes you have to be willing to take a risk in life.

This I understand but in OP's case, I'd be terrified of my future spouse wanting even half of what I've accomplished on my own. Getting together as two broke college kids and building together is one thing but by your 30s, you need to come to the table with your own things.