Husband snores and i can't sleep

[Anonymous]

OP, I think I read in one of your follow up posts that he has had a sleep study and was given a CPAP to use. He needs to use it!

Use the voice memo recorder function on your cell phone to record him snoring in the middle of the night. Let it run for 30 minutes or so, so he doesn't think he was snoring for just a little bit. Then during the daytime play it back for him to show him just how loud it is. If he still isn't moved to actually use his CPAP machine, then play the recording right next to him as he's trying to fall asleep.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. I sleep in DS's room. He is getting too old for that though so I guess I will clean out the guest room and DH and I can duke it out for who gets it.

I knew he snored when we moved in together years ago, before we married, so we've always had an extra room. I just never imagined how big a deal it would become with kids and whatnot. I'm no spring chicken anymore. I can't be woken up all night and have a functional day.

[Anonymous]

1. If he was given a CPAP he should be using it
2. Is it possible he has allergies? I don’t generally snore but will if my allergies are bothering me so I take a corticosteroid nasal spray which helps a lot.
3. Most people only snore when they are on their backs. So you can tape a tennis ball to the back of a shirt he sleeps in. Then when he turns over onto his back in the night it will cause him to change his position.

[Anonymous]

White noise machine. It took me a night or two to get used to it, then it saved my sanity and marriage.

[Anonymous]

Why the hell isn’t he using the CPAP? He has sleep apnea, this isn’t rocket science.

All of y’all with snorers who have not been evaluated for it: get these people to doctors. This is insanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. If he was given a CPAP he should be using it
2. Is it possible he has allergies? I don’t generally snore but will if my allergies are bothering me so I take a corticosteroid nasal spray which helps a lot.
3. Most people only snore when they are on their backs. So you can tape a tennis ball to the back of a shirt he sleeps in. Then when he turns over onto his back in the night it will cause him to change his position.

Funny. I'm totally on board with what some people would consider invasive like CPAP, but the taped tennis ball on the back seems like a total nightmare to me.
OP, he's being a baby. Doc gave him.the machine for reason. He needs to use it or HE (not you) has to find a different place to sleep.

[Anonymous]

I agree that he needs to get checked out for apnea and whatever else he might have. However, for you, OP - get the silicone ear plugs - they look like little balls of wax and you use one ball and divide it in two (and you might even need a little less than that). They work better than the foam ones, just might take you a little figuring out to get to the point where they don't fall out/stick to your pillow/make noise when you turn over. Also, white noise machine/app on your side of the bed. If you wake up to him snoring, this won't do anything to help drown it out, but it should help you not hear it as much. Finally, Advil PM/Lunesta/Tylenol PM - use the OTC stuff immediately and then get a prescription for the other stuff - but be aware that they often take me 10 hours to fully wear off, so I don't take it when I actually go to bed, but beforehand. That way I'm really tired by the time I go to bed (I also do so before my husband). And we have a guest room, so that's where I go when I need an uninterrupted night of sleep. I wouldn't hesitate to get a hotel room if I were you!

[Anonymous]

I have this issue with hubby too. He has a cpap but won't wear it though he sleeps much better with it on. So here I am sleeping but not really on a coach and switching to a loveseat every night. I am fighting cancer and severe ulcerative colitis - my specialists tell hubby I need proper rest but it goes in one ear and out the other. I have had enough and am going to a hotel by work tonight. Not even telling him I'm just leaving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think I read in one of your follow up posts that he has had a sleep study and was given a CPAP to use. He needs to use it!

Use the voice memo recorder function on your cell phone to record him snoring in the middle of the night. Let it run for 30 minutes or so, so he doesn't think he was snoring for just a little bit. Then during the daytime play it back for him to show him just how loud it is. If he still isn't moved to actually use his CPAP machine, then play the recording right next to him as he's trying to fall asleep.

This. However, it still took another couple of years before he really accepted that it’s a problem. Eventually I started waking him up every time he woke me up. He got the message.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op my husband snores terribly. We sleep in separate rooms - but while on vacation I have a noise machine and earplugs and they don’t do a damn thing for me. I am an extremely light sleeper. Breathe right strips don’t work. Doesn’t matter which position he sleeps in- he’ll snore sitting up.

My husband won’t wear a cpap. He needs to get surgery to try to fix the problem. Sleep study is fine and dandy but worthless unless they do something about it after the fact. Sorry I don’t have better advice or news for you.

If I were you I’d make him sleep on the couch until he sucks it up and goes back to cpap or gets surgery. It’s in him not you and you shouldn’t have to suffer because of it.

I have this husband. He's gained weight and if he's on his back it's torture because of all the snorting and the snoring gets louder and louder as the night wears on. Worse, he gets mad when I poke him and to make him roll onto his side. Where he stays for 40-45 minutes. I'm so d*mn sick of getting my sleep in 30 minute increments...

So when I have a big deadline and must sleep, I go into the other room. Sometimes he volunteers when he can tell I'm getting really upset about lack of sleep. But what's hard is that a lot of how we stay bonded as a couple is sex and snuggling up and he gets cranky if we aren't in the same bed... so it's either him or me that's cranky!

[Anonymous]

Zyeppah

[Anonymous]

He needs to use a CPAP. I honestly thought I was going to have to leave my husband, because I just could not sleep with his snoring. He resisted getting a CPAP for a long time - now he loves it, and I love him.

Good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

What about your couch? Make him sleep on it.

[Anonymous]

My parents have slept in separate bedrooms for decades because of this. On vacation it can get dicey, though!

[Anonymous]

People: EARPLUGS DO NOT WORK. There is no earplug in the world that would prevent the rattling from entering my brain. I don't even need my ears to hear it. It comes through my head. Loud snoring is not an earplug/noise machine problem. It must be ELIMINATED.