Husband snores and i can't sleep

[Anonymous]

This has been going on for months.

He snores, LOUD. It generally wakes me up some time between 1 am and 3 am, and then I can't get back to sleep. When I wake and hear it, I tell him, he adjusts his sleeping position a bit and snoring stops....for about 2 minutes. Then it starts again. I tell him again. Repeat. Usually I just give up after about 4 or 5 rounds of this and just come to terms with the fact that I'm not getting any more sleep that night.

He denies he snores as much as he does. He says he realizes that he snores but it wakes him up to and he immediately stops. Wrong. He goes on and on for hours.

We have no spare room/guest room. I am seriously considering getting a hotel room tonight. I haven't got a full night's sleep in months and I'm exhausted. I get next to nothing done all day because I'm so tired. This is worse than when we had newborn babies.

I just need to vent. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Breathe right strips for him.

Ear plugs for you.

[Anonymous]

I'd sleep on the couch until he did something about it. There are off the shelf things that can help. Do some googling and you'll find them. Sounds like you'd have a hard time convincing him to do a sleep study?

[Anonymous]

Thanks!
Yes, he is already using breath right strips, but apparently they wear off after several hours--which is why it takes until 1-3 am for the snoring to wake me up.

I haven't tried earplugs lately--the only kind of I've ever tried to wear (for other reasons, not a snoring partner!) were those foam yellow ones, and I found them really uncomfortable. i'll look around and see if I can find better ones.

He actually has had a sleep study, several years ago, and was given one of those machines with the masks to wear while sleeping. He hasn't used it in a couple years, I'm not even sure if he still has it.

Thank you for the suggestions!

[Anonymous]

I've seen the "NORA" system advertised, maybe try that one. There are other mouth guards and chin straps out there, but if he doesn't acknowledge the problem, he might not be open to them.

[Anonymous]

White nose machine, on your side of the bed.

And you can get moldable earplugs that are like play dough that you stick in your ear to shape them and then they harden. Those work a little better and you can sleep on them. Just be sure to not use to much material.

I also go to bed before my husband, it helps is I fall asleep first.

At least yours did the sleep study, mine won't do that.

[Anonymous]

Sleep study to check for apnea

[Anonymous]

CPAP. If he has apena he could suffocate and die.

[Anonymous]

CPAP or biPAP. Keep him alive and stop the snoring all at once. It works great.

[Anonymous]

I could have written this exact post a few years ago. Definitely yes to the white noise (I use an app called White Noise).

[Anonymous]

I'd sleep on the couch or ask him to do so.

[Anonymous]

Sleep study ASAP.

[Anonymous]

There is really no point in repeatedly waking him up. His snoring isn't under his control.

He should go back on the CPAP

[Anonymous]

OP, I had my DH do a sleep test and it came back negative for apnea. Our solution is for me to use ear plugs and for him to deal with the children if they wake up at night/wake me up in the morning.

It works pretty well.

[Anonymous]

Op my husband snores terribly. We sleep in separate rooms - but while on vacation I have a noise machine and earplugs and they don’t do a damn thing for me. I am an extremely light sleeper. Breathe right strips don’t work. Doesn’t matter which position he sleeps in- he’ll snore sitting up.

My husband won’t wear a cpap. He needs to get surgery to try to fix the problem. Sleep study is fine and dandy but worthless unless they do something about it after the fact. Sorry I don’t have better advice or news for you.

If I were you I’d make him sleep on the couch until he sucks it up and goes back to cpap or gets surgery. It’s in him not you and you shouldn’t have to suffer because of it.