My husband won’t take me out

[Anonymous]

I think I stopped when dates stopped being fun. All my wife wanted to talk about was kids or ways she wanted to spend money we couldn't really afford. My jokes were no longer funny to her. Drinks made her tired instead of happy. She probably wasn't going to want to have sex -- in fact, she'd be back in her frumpy clothes and probably be asleep by the time I had returned from dropping off the babysitter. These dates didn't make me feel more connected at all. Just worn out, sexually frustrated, and poorer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

Thanks for the great laugh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

You're a nut job.

Forgot to mention.... definitely provide lots of sex without the expectation of dates. Nothing ruins sex more than having your wife expect you to then date her.

Same goes in reverse. Please date/woo your wife without the expectation of sex. Nothing ruins a date more than having your husband expecting sex.

(did I really just write that?? But yeah.)

Seriously? You missed the over-the-top-sarcasm above? And felt it necessary to regurgitate this offensive drivel about expectations?

If you are wife who feels pressured for sex by her husband, open the marriage or divorce him.
If you are a man who feels pressured to date your wife, open the marriage or divorce her.

Do NOT stay with a partner who pressures you into being.... a partner.

I actually did miss it at first. Then I ignored it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

This has got to be one of the most moronic posts I have ever seen.

[Anonymous]

so you want him to take you out on dates. what are you doing for him that he wants?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I stopped when dates stopped being fun. All my wife wanted to talk about was kids or ways she wanted to spend money we couldn't really afford. My jokes were no longer funny to her. Drinks made her tired instead of happy. She probably wasn't going to want to have sex -- in fact, she'd be back in her frumpy clothes and probably be asleep by the time I had returned from dropping off the babysitter. These dates didn't make me feel more connected at all. Just worn out, sexually frustrated, and poorer.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

This has got to be one of the most moronic posts I have ever seen.

And yet this exact mornic advice is handed out daily to men here and sites like it worldwide. If this thread title where "My wife won't be intimate with me" would you not be spewing this yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you sah by any chance op?

My husband started doing this shortly after we had a kid and I became sahm. I think it was more due to me always being available at home (ie he couldn't miss me) and a little bit of feeling second fiddle to the new baby.

Nope. We both work outside the home.

[Anonymous]

I am really sorry about your situation. I can understand how upset you must feel. I understand that marriage is not always easy, especially when we are raising kids. It is tiring! I think it is great that you are stepping out and putting in the effort for date night, but I think it would be beneficial to talk to your husband and let him know your thoughts and feelings about it. I will be praying for your marriage and that you get a hot date night soon!

[Anonymous]

My ex-bf became like this and it’s one of the reason me I decided to end that relationship. I want a mate I can enjoy sharing life with, and he liked going out with his friends, but not with me. That was a dealbreaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Go to movies or somewhere by yourself. Maybe your energy levels are UGE, and his are not. I did and do this al the time, actually I liked going alone when kids were younger to movies. I will go anywhere alone, doesn't mean our marriage is bad, it is actually great. I don't go to car shows.... and he doesn't care to watch Thor with me. We do things together too. When kids are small it is hard and tiring and I think with several of similar posts today, this is just an extension of women being bored with February bad weather carrying into March, and as one pp pointed out, it was the full moon this week. Howa bout you just have a nice talk and catch up with your own mom. That's what I would do.