My husband won’t take me out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

Omg. If someone had given this advice to a man wanting more sex, people would flip out.

[Anonymous]

Organize something with another couple he likes. It will be hard for him to blow them off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

You're a nut job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

You're a nut job.

Pretty sure it was a sarcastic take on the advice men are given about women. You’re correct, it’s nuts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

You're a nut job.

Forgot to mention.... definitely provide lots of sex without the expectation of dates. Nothing ruins sex more than having your wife expect you to then date her.

[Anonymous]

A+++

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

You're a nut job.

Forgot to mention.... definitely provide lots of sex without the expectation of dates. Nothing ruins sex more than having your wife expect you to then date her.

Same goes in reverse. Please date/woo your wife without the expectation of sex. Nothing ruins a date more than having your husband expecting sex.

(did I really just write that?? But yeah.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you SAH or are kids in daycare. If daycare both take a day, half day or a few hours off of work for a date. You plan the first one and have him plan the next. Try to do it once a month.

If SAH find another family you can trade childcare with for date nights.

Also plan at home dates when you can't get a sitter. Dress up, order from a restaurant put on your favorite music and dance after the kids are asleep.

Great idea OP start with the home dates first. Then slowly work your way up. Home dates allow your husband to relax and enjoy himself without the extra hassle. If they go really well, he will put more effort into actually going out.

[Anonymous]

Will he eat you out?

Because if not, then you've got a problem on your hand and he's just not into you.

[Anonymous]

May think you’re ugly - just saying

[Anonymous]

I'd take half days off; I did that a fair bit when my wife was still working.

[Anonymous]

Who invented this idiocy about dating your spouse? What nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who invented this idiocy about dating your spouse? What nonsense.

I HATE when grown, married adults talk about "date night" or going on a "date" with their spouse. You are going out to dinner with your husband. You are not going on a date.

[Anonymous]

Do you sah by any chance op?

My husband started doing this shortly after we had a kid and I became sahm. I think it was more due to me always being available at home (ie he couldn't miss me) and a little bit of feeling second fiddle to the new baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No woman is "entitled" to have dates with her husband any time she wants. If he does not want to go out with you, no doubt something about you is turning him off. Are you selfish when going out? Maybe you end dates prematurely before he's had his fun? Or what about your appearance: any weight gain or hair loss?

I would advise that you try to "woo" him like you did earlier in the relationship to entice him into dating you. Frequent BJs and do extra chores around the house. Give him some "me" time at the end of the day, so he will have more energy to date you.

Be very patient with him. Sometimes this kind of thing can take a decade or three before his desire to date you resumes. Just keep putting in maximum effort on your side, especially the sex, and he will come around.

You're a nut job.

Forgot to mention.... definitely provide lots of sex without the expectation of dates. Nothing ruins sex more than having your wife expect you to then date her.

Same goes in reverse. Please date/woo your wife without the expectation of sex. Nothing ruins a date more than having your husband expecting sex.

(did I really just write that?? But yeah.)

Seriously? You missed the over-the-top-sarcasm above? And felt it necessary to regurgitate this offensive drivel about expectations?

If you are wife who feels pressured for sex by her husband, open the marriage or divorce him.
If you are a man who feels pressured to date your wife, open the marriage or divorce her.

Do NOT stay with a partner who pressures you into being.... a partner.