18 yr old daughter pregnant

Anonymous
She can go on medicaid. Please put the child up for adoption. I'm pro abortion, but there is no need for it.
What does she want to do?
How far along is she?
Anonymous

My husband is out of a job. My kids qualify for CHIP, which is Medicaid for slightly higher-income people who don't qualify for the regular Medicaid.

There is no shame in this.

I don't understand your concern. I would encourage my daughter to have an abortion in this situation, but I would support her in whatever she decides to do.
Anonymous
I'm pro-choice but wouldn't flippantly suggest abortion for my 18 year daughter. People make it work and are successful. Takes a lot of hard work. I don't understand this concept of shame or trash that PPs seem to be all about. Not ideal but definitely not shameful. Is this the 1960's? Maybe just send her to a convent then.

Anonymous
The state health insurance will cover whatever your insurance doesn't
Baby is on it automatically
Have her apply for wic
Apply for family housing and financial aid for school - she's now her own family snd will qualify also get on the waitlist for the daycare at school
Anonymous
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My husband is out of a job. My kids qualify for CHIP, which is Medicaid for slightly higher-income people who don't qualify for the regular Medicaid.

There is no shame in this.

I don't understand your concern. I would encourage my daughter to have an abortion in this situation, but I would support her in whatever she decides to do.


And to respond to PP who wrote just after me, I am not recommending an abortion because of shame. There is no shame. I am recommending an abortion because she didn't want this child and it will be very hard for her to pursue her studies and raise her baby. Less hard if she gives him up for adoption, but still difficult. But then I come from a European country where abortions are much less controversial than here.

Anonymous
I had twins at 19. We married when our girls turned 3. We welcomed our third baby at 28. Both of us have degrees and I'm going back for another one. Parental support was what allowed us to be successful.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I'm pro-choice but wouldn't flippantly suggest abortion for my 18 year daughter. People make it work and are successful. Takes a lot of hard work. I don't understand this concept of shame or trash that PPs seem to be all about. Not ideal but definitely not shameful. Is this the 1960's? Maybe just send her to a convent then.



I think pp’s Are more concerned about giving this young woman an opportunity to finish school and get on her feet. Still, though, the conversation needs to start with what she wants and, secondarily, how the father can help. Grandma’s concern about what to tell her friends is not even a blip on the radar.
Anonymous
I got married at 18 and had my first child at 19. My H joined the army so he could support us and we would have health insurance. We were successfully married for 25 years.

My sister got pregnant at 20, had the baby and then a few months later married the father. She's been successfully married for 35 years.

Just being 18 is no reason for an abortion or an adoption, although there are some valid reasons for both.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:My 18 year old daughter is she's pregnant.

Any advice? She's in college (NVCC) and I'm concerned it will go to the wayside with all the new responsibility. Health issuance will not cover it, Would we have to pay out of packet?

She works 20 hours a week and earns 8 an hour.

Problem with medicare is government assistant and I always thought it was for the lazy, but accidents happen but I don't want to tell people that the baby might have to be on it..


Why isn’t she on your insurance? Don’t want people to think your daughter is lazy trash? Don’t raise lazy trash!


The insurance will cover her till 26, but it doesn't her kids.
I apologize for thinking that. Be honest no one ever thought that?



But right now you're not worried about covering her kid -- you're worried about covering her and the huge L&D costs. I think that is covered since she's likely on her parents policy until age 26.


Many employer based plans don't cover pregnancies of the employees children.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I think you mean Medicaid. I would really encourage adoption. It would be so much better for the child.


Says you. My life as an adoptee has been miserable and feels like a life sentence. And I know many fellow adoptees who also feel this way. Adoptees have significantly higher depression and suicide rates for a reason.


May I ask why? I’m not judging - I’m just curious.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My 18 year old daughter is she's pregnant.

Any advice? She's in college (NVCC) and I'm concerned it will go to the wayside with all the new responsibility. Health issuance will not cover it, Would we have to pay out of packet?

She works 20 hours a week and earns 8 an hour.

Problem with medicare is government assistant and I always thought it was for the lazy, but accidents happen but I don't want to tell people that the baby might have to be on it..


Well then by all means, practice what you seem to preach to the lazy and suck it up and pay all the L&D costs yourself. Oh but let me guess: your situation is different from all those other losers who milk the government to pay for their irresponsible behavior?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Health insurance doesn't cover an adult dependent's pregnancy. Some employer coverage might, but it's not required.

Go get her insurance. Don't be lazy.


I work in the hospital in maternity. Teen Moms tend to be on their parents insurance. I believe the baby is a dependent of a dependent and goes on Medicaid? Pregnancy and delivery covered on the Mom. Just call your insurance and ask. And who cares what anyone else thinks. You'd be surprised how many people get state assistance. No one is going to judge the baby.
Anonymous
This is why women’s health coverage should be mandatory.
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Anonymous wrote:Why would you have to tell people?

My second child was born under our state Medicare, fully paid for, and no one knows.

How could this possibly come up conversationally?


Again, Medicare does not pay for pregnancies, Medicare is typically designed for the population who is 65 years of age and older again, Medicare does not pay for pregnancies Medicare is typically designed for the population who is 65 years of age and older


Medicare does pay for pregnancies:
https://medicare.com/coverage/does-medicare-cover-pregnancy-and-child-delivery/

Lots of Medicare recipients are permanently disabled but of child-bearing age, and do indeed get pregnant.


If you are permanently disabled and have no way of financially taking care of a baby, you have no business getting pregnant
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Why would you have to tell people?

My second child was born under our state Medicare, fully paid for, and no one knows.

How could this possibly come up conversationally?


Again, Medicare does not pay for pregnancies, Medicare is typically designed for the population who is 65 years of age and older again, Medicare does not pay for pregnancies Medicare is typically designed for the population who is 65 years of age and older


Medicare does pay for pregnancies:
https://medicare.com/coverage/does-medicare-cover-pregnancy-and-child-delivery/

Lots of Medicare recipients are permanently disabled but of child-bearing age, and do indeed get pregnant.


If you are permanently disabled and have no way of financially taking care of a baby, you have no business getting pregnant


Jesus Christ. Are you serious?
https://www.npr.org/2018/01/08/570224090/the-sexual-assault-epidemic-no-one-talks-about
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