Is “informing someone of a mistake” criticizing?

[Anonymous]

Person A read the thread and is quite angry now, saying there is no possible amount of glass that is acceptable to be left on the floor and if Person B is incapable of cleaning glass from the floor than Person A will do it all and will add glass cleaning as “one more thing on the list that I have to be completely responsible for because you aren’t capable of it”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Person A read the thread and is quite angry now, saying there is no possible amount of glass that is acceptable to be left on the floor and if Person B is incapable of cleaning glass from the floor than Person A will do it all and will add glass cleaning as “one more thing on the list that I have to be completely responsible for because you aren’t capable of it”.

Give us the list.

[Anonymous]

It was exhausting just reading that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't live with anyone like person A.

Me either. That sounds like a tortuous daily life.

—woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Person A read the thread and is quite angry now, saying there is no possible amount of glass that is acceptable to be left on the floor and if Person B is incapable of cleaning glass from the floor than Person A will do it all and will add glass cleaning as “one more thing on the list that I have to be completely responsible for because you aren’t capable of it”.

What a shrew. This can't happen more than a couple times a year! Big deal.

[Anonymous]

A and B both sound insufferable. B should have just cleaned up the glass to the best of their ability without whining about it. If A found glass on the floor after B was done, A should have cleaned it up without make a fuss.

[Anonymous]

I flat out can't imagine bargaining over who was going to clean up a mess. In our house, I'm definitely more particular, but holy hell, if a glass broke we'd both spring into action.

[Anonymous]

Person A sounds like me (my critical nature that I try to get away from) in a bad moment. Something I might say, and then really regret later when I see the big picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A and B both sound insufferable. B should have just cleaned up the glass to the best of their ability without whining about it. If A found glass on the floor after B was done, A should have cleaned it up without make a fuss.

+1 both people are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This relationship sounds soul sucking and exhausting. Cleaning up a broken glass should not require a negotiation, a compromise, two adults, or a review / critique of the activity.

Person B needs to get out before their spirit is crushed and they shrivel up inside. Person A is also the kind of person that causes mental health problems in the kids.

LMAO

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much responsibility does Person B have to step it up to try to meet Person A’s standards?

Does Person B benefit from random shards of glass not being in the apartment, even though Person B would allow that while living alone?

In the corner under a cabinet or under the fridge? No

Are there kids in this house? Pets? Is it a magical place where things don't move around and shift? Where the fridge might not scoot out and back in, causing completely unexpected glass in the middle of the floor? This whole thread is bonkers to me. If glass is broken, you clean it up. There is no acceptable amount of broken glass you just live with.

Hahaha. I just had this conversation with my 13 y.o. son, who broke a drinking glass. I didn't get mad, but I did ask him to clean it up. He missed several areas of the floor, and I had to explain to him to look at the base of kitchen cabinets and to sweep in a larger area than just the 2 feet around the glass, since broken glass can tumble further than expected. Then we looked around together and found several additional shards at the base of the kitchen cabinets, and on the dining room rug (open plan kitchen/dining room). I pointed out that I didn't want to have to take someone to the doctor/ER for a cut on the foot, since everyone likes to go barefoot in the house.

Hopefully, my 13 y.o. son will not grow up to be the kind of man-child who argues about whether he is at fault and will only fix stuff he is directly responsible for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How much responsibility does Person B have to step it up to try to meet Person A’s standards?

Does Person B benefit from random shards of glass not being in the apartment, even though Person B would allow that while living alone?

In the corner under a cabinet or under the fridge? No

Are there kids in this house? Pets? Is it a magical place where things don't move around and shift? Where the fridge might not scoot out and back in, causing completely unexpected glass in the middle of the floor? This whole thread is bonkers to me. If glass is broken, you clean it up. There is no acceptable amount of broken glass you just live with.

Our fridge does not "scoot out and back in". We found broken glass under it when we were moving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Scenario: Person A is very particular and must have things done perfectly. Person B is tired of criticism from Person A. A glass is broken in the kitchen (beither person A nor B is responsible). Person A asks Person B to clean it. Person B says why bother since it will not be done to your satisfaction and you will end up redoing it anyways. Person A suggests Person B clear the big pieces and then Person A will vacuum as a compromise. Person B agrees and clears the big pieces. While vacuuming, Person A holds up a piece of glass and says “this is the second piece like this I have picked up, FYI”.

Person B says, “see, i knew you would criticize”

Person A gets angry and says informing of a mistake is not criticizing and Person B has set an impossible standard of what constitutes criticizing.

Who is right?

In this scenario it sounded like the jobs should have been switched and person A with the more exacting standards should have picked up the big pieces and person B vacuum. The way the jobs were divided it was inevitable if there was any subjectively involved in what person B did, that person would think it was fine while person A would not. The other option would have been to work together to pick up the big pieces and someone steps up to vacuum. Having been around broken glass before, it is very easy to miss a piece and it is helpful to have more than one person looking.

Given the way the assignment was divided the gracious way is to assume the person didn’t see it and go to pick it up yourself and keep it moving
, not point it out for them to pick it up and make a big deal. Would you be comfortable if you were at a PTA meeting and as you were jointly cleaning up broken glass from the kids another parent said to you “this is the second piece like that I’ve picked up FYI”? If you said that to me, we would not be friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was exhausting just reading that.

My thoughts exactly. What a sad, soul-destroying way to live. I think both A and B need couples therapy and stop blaming each other and work together as a couple instead.

[Anonymous]

All this over a dropped glass? Holy cow.